Well i received some bad new this week, got a phone call to say a mate from uni had committed suicide which came out of the blue. I had no idea they where even feeling low all i knew was that they were behind with uni course work but all of that was deferred until the autumn.
How do you process it when someone decides to commit suicide? i just keep thinking why they did and state of mind they must of been in.
One thing i have felt is how much i could do with someone to talk to preferably someone female all my friends are male and as is common knowledge us guys don't really talk about anything serious to each other.
Anyway im not even sure what i wanted to say just needed to get it my of chest. Definitely making much more effort to socialise though when im back at uni.
Loosing a mate Watch
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Last edited by andrewk; 10-07-2009 at 19:31.
- 10-07-2009 18:53
- 10-07-2009 19:09
I'm sorry to hear about that. Have you tried talking to anybody about it, or thought who you might like to speak to? I'm sure that if people know that you want to talk they will be willing to try and help. I lost a friend a few weeks ago (although not by suicide - she was in an agricultural accident) and I've found that people sometimes shirk around the subject, not because they don't care, but because they don't know how to react and whether you want to talk or not. Once they realise you do want to chat, they usually ease up and the conversation can flow more easily. I've also not reacted the way I'd thought to a friend's death - I thought it would be a big shock, then I'd start getting used to it, but I'm finding that it's a more lengthy processes of ups and downs - just make sure you look after yourself and talk to someone if you need to.
Hope this link may be of some use to you:
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- 11-07-2009 19:00
Ye phugoid it did sound a bit like an lonely hearts ad didn't intend it to though was just making the point that i think women are easier to talk about these issues than men.
Thanks for the link VL86