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    I don't know if anyone can help, or have been in a similar situation but I'm so lost what to do so anyone's outside advice would be really really appreciated.

    I gave university a third shot this year and I hated it. I was so lonely, I hated the course, I disliked the campus uni, I wanted to be anywhere but there the whole year. The only decent thing was I could play the sport I love. I've passed my exams pretty well so now I have to decide whether to
    a) change course
    b) keep same course
    c) drop out.

    Changing course might help, I studied the course I want to change to before but I was forced to drop out for health reasons halfway through first year however I'm worried I won't know enough to transfer directly into second year so I'll struggle through out the year. Going into first year is not an option.

    I could keep the same course but I absolutely hate it. I've lost all passion for the subject, I find lectures dire, I hate doing the reading. On the plus side however I passed this year, I'll be on equal footing with everyone else, I know the stuff.

    If I drop out I have no plan. I have decent A levels and GCSEs but can't see anywhere good employing me especially given the economic crisis right now.


    In summary, what do I do? Drop out, keep same course, do different course? Everytime I try to think about this I just end up crying. Does anyone have any advice?

    Thanks.
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    Do not drop out unless you cannot see yourself working in the industry your learning. There seem to be so many people on here with the attitude of 'oh ill just leave this year and go next year'.

    That is so casual and you just lose years from your life.

    What uni is this?
    What course?
    Do you have friends to get a house with next year?
    How old are you (not important) but you said you have dropped out twice before?

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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I don't know if anyone can help, or have been in a similar situation but I'm so lost what to do so anyone's outside advice would be really really appreciated.

    I gave university a third shot this year and I hated it. I was so lonely, I hated the course, I disliked the campus uni, I wanted to be anywhere but there the whole year. The only decent thing was I could play the sport I love. I've passed my exams pretty well so now I have to decide whether to
    a) change course
    b) keep same course
    c) drop out.

    Changing course might help, I studied the course I want to change to before but I was forced to drop out for health reasons halfway through first year however I'm worried I won't know enough to transfer directly into second year so I'll struggle through out the year. Going into first year is not an option.

    I could keep the same course but I absolutely hate it. I've lost all passion for the subject, I find lectures dire, I hate doing the reading. On the plus side however I passed this year, I'll be on equal footing with everyone else, I know the stuff.

    If I drop out I have no plan. I have decent A levels and GCSEs but can't see anywhere good employing me especially given the economic crisis right now.


    In summary, what do I do? Drop out, keep same course, do different course? Everytime I try to think about this I just end up crying. Does anyone have any advice?

    Thanks.
    The problem is that if you change course, that won't change the problems that you mention like hating the campus or feeling lonely. Although potentially you'd meet better people on the new course.

    I'd say that if you feel you can persevere with the course you are on for two more years, which really is just Alevel length, then i reckon you should carry on with it. If you really feel you can't then change course and maybe have to start again. I think you should get a degree rather than drop out, but when you decide, you need to stick to it because you're racking up quite a debt otherwise. You've already invested quite a bit of money so it'd be a shame to leave without something.

    That's just my oppinion but i suppose if you truly hate your degree then sticking with it might not be an option.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I don't know if anyone can help, or have been in a similar situation but I'm so lost what to do so anyone's outside advice would be really really appreciated.

    I gave university a third shot this year and I hated it. I was so lonely, I hated the course, I disliked the campus uni, I wanted to be anywhere but there the whole year. The only decent thing was I could play the sport I love. I've passed my exams pretty well so now I have to decide whether to
    a) change course
    b) keep same course
    c) drop out.

    Changing course might help, I studied the course I want to change to before but I was forced to drop out for health reasons halfway through first year however I'm worried I won't know enough to transfer directly into second year so I'll struggle through out the year. Going into first year is not an option.

    I could keep the same course but I absolutely hate it. I've lost all passion for the subject, I find lectures dire, I hate doing the reading. On the plus side however I passed this year, I'll be on equal footing with everyone else, I know the stuff.

    If I drop out I have no plan. I have decent A levels and GCSEs but can't see anywhere good employing me especially given the economic crisis right now.


    In summary, what do I do? Drop out, keep same course, do different course? Everytime I try to think about this I just end up crying. Does anyone have any advice?

    Thanks.
    Awww I feel bad for you, it's awful being somewhere you hate, doing something you don't like. I think that it would be unwise to drop out because like you said there are quite literally no jobs. Unless you plan on doing some voluntary work until the job prospects improve a bit. Mind you I need some voluntary work for my course and I'm stuggling even with that.

    I think that if you find the course that bad, and have no drive to do the work and no interest in it whatsoever, then you will struggle through another year. Maybe consider changing courses, that sounds the best imo. Good luck with it
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I don't know if anyone can help, or have been in a similar situation but I'm so lost what to do so anyone's outside advice would be really really appreciated.

    I gave university a third shot this year and I hated it. I was so lonely, I hated the course, I disliked the campus uni, I wanted to be anywhere but there the whole year. The only decent thing was I could play the sport I love. I've passed my exams pretty well so now I have to decide whether to
    a) change course
    b) keep same course
    c) drop out.

    Changing course might help, I studied the course I want to change to before but I was forced to drop out for health reasons halfway through first year however I'm worried I won't know enough to transfer directly into second year so I'll struggle through out the year. Going into first year is not an option.

    I could keep the same course but I absolutely hate it. I've lost all passion for the subject, I find lectures dire, I hate doing the reading. On the plus side however I passed this year, I'll be on equal footing with everyone else, I know the stuff.

    If I drop out I have no plan. I have decent A levels and GCSEs but can't see anywhere good employing me especially given the economic crisis right now.


    In summary, what do I do? Drop out, keep same course, do different course? Everytime I try to think about this I just end up crying. Does anyone have any advice?

    Thanks.
    This is your third shot; you should just stick with it.
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    I was absolutely miserable at my first university too, and judging by other posts I've read of yours on another part of TSR, I think it's the same university. I left half way through the year because I had depression and just wasn't equipped to cope with it at that time. I kind of hated the university itself too. I'm now at a different uni and much happier. I really admire you for persevering this hard, it takes a lot of courage to keep trying despite being disappointed twice before. Have you been to different unis or is this your third try at the first one? Either way, it doesn't seem like you can afford to start again somewhere else, unless of course you're loaded. I may not have liked the uni, but it does offer a lot of fantastic opportunities, so I think there's plenty of hope that things can change for you there. I really think you should try to stick it out. If you leave, you shut off the possibility of things improving, and I think you'll really regret it. As you say, with the job market being the way it is, leaving doesn't seem to offer any better options, and you may be even unhappier stuck at home with nothing to do. I really understand how hard it is being somewhere you hate, but I hope you can find the motivation to keep going.

    Well done on passing your exams!
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    First of all thanks so much guys for the replies. It's so good to hear other people's perspectives on my situation, I was feeling just so overwhelmed and lost.


    (Original post by LJBzzz)
    Do not drop out unless you cannot see yourself working in the industry your learning. There seem to be so many people on here with the attitude of 'oh ill just leave this year and go next year'.

    That is so casual and you just lose years from your life.

    What uni is this?
    What course?
    Do you have friends to get a house with next year?
    How old are you (not important) but you said you have dropped out twice before?

    I'm 21, so yeah getting a bit old for uni, at warwick university and don't have any friends to live with next year so would probably end up living either on campus again (don't know if they'll let me, they might if I explain everything) or in a shared house with people I don't know.

    This is the problem, I have dropped out twice before (once not out of choice) so yeah it's not a case of I'll go back next year because to answer looosey, I'm not loaded, I have massive debts now and no degree to show for it so this really is my last chance.

    (Original post by looosey)
    I was absolutely miserable at my first university too, and judging by other posts I've read of yours on another part of TSR, I think it's the same university. I left half way through the year because I had depression and just wasn't equipped to cope with it at that time. I kind of hated the university itself too. I'm now at a different uni and much happier. I really admire you for persevering this hard, it takes a lot of courage to keep trying despite being disappointed twice before. Have you been to different unis or is this your third try at the first one? Either way, it doesn't seem like you can afford to start again somewhere else, unless of course you're loaded. I may not have liked the uni, but it does offer a lot of fantastic opportunities, so I think there's plenty of hope that things can change for you there. I really think you should try to stick it out. If you leave, you shut off the possibility of things improving, and I think you'll really regret it. As you say, with the job market being the way it is, leaving doesn't seem to offer any better options, and you may be even unhappier stuck at home with nothing to do. I really understand how hard it is being somewhere you hate, but I hope you can find the motivation to keep going.

    Well done on passing your exams!
    I went to 3 different unis. Loved the first one but found during the course I'd be better suited for course #2, loved the course and the 2nd uni but had to leave for medical reasons then like I said hate this one all round. Which uni was it you didn't like?



    Thanks to the other people I haven't quoted, I'm feeling a bit better having read what people have written and most of you are right about the jobs thing and stuff, I'm edging towards staying but still no idea whether to change course or not. Part of me wants to go back to uni #2 but I can't as it means entering half way through first year, and I can't go back to first year just because of debt and stuff.
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    (Original post by George231086)
    The problem is that if you change course, that won't change the problems that you mention like hating the campus or feeling lonely. Although potentially you'd meet better people on the new course.

    I'd say that if you feel you can persevere with the course you are on for two more years, which really is just Alevel length, then i reckon you should carry on with it. If you really feel you can't then change course and maybe have to start again. I think you should get a degree rather than drop out, but when you decide, you need to stick to it because you're racking up quite a debt otherwise. You've already invested quite a bit of money so it'd be a shame to leave without something.

    That's just my oppinion but i suppose if you truly hate your degree then sticking with it might not be an option.
    You're right. It is only a level length, but then again it's quite a lot more work than a levels, like reading and stuff. Also that is the plan, meet new people on new course because right now I've met no one I click with and it's just so lonely. Maybe living in a random house would help actually, because then I'd meet new people.

    Just to clarify, if I change course I wouldn't have to start again, I'd go straight into second year, which is partly what I'm worried about - not knowing enough to cope with that although the uni doesn't think it's a problem.

    Thanks for your input, really appreciate it.
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    Your not too old!!

    and you must be fairly academic to go to Warwick. However, it seems to be a know fact that Warwick is a quiet campus university where people tend to study before they socialise. That is the general perception of people anyway.

    If I was you:-

    Stcik with your course if it is an asset you can use to get yourself a decent job, in a field your interested in after you graduate.

    Go in halls next year, and make some new friends. Many people enter university when they are in their 20's, plus at university age is not an issue. This is unless you are irritated around 18-20 year olds; if not it should be easy to make friends

    I think if you do not see this through you will regret it. Do not lose money, and years of your life. Your attend one of the most prosperous and well recognised universities in England. Not many people get that opportunity.

    I hope you make the right decision
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    Well I would say staying will be a good advice, as I am in the same situation with you I have been in university for 2 years now well now just finished my second year, I was so lonely there which made everything quite hard for me becasue I hardly had anyone to talk to and was so lonely. I also hated the course too but after I thought back I had good grades anyway so I might just well stayed.
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I went to 3 different unis. Loved the first one but found during the course I'd be better suited for course #2, loved the course and the 2nd uni but had to leave for medical reasons then like I said hate this one all round. Which uni was it you didn't like?
    Can you not just say which unis they were? I'm intrigued. Also, I need to make decisions about which unis to apply for and making friends is ther thing I'm most worried about.
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    If you can go directly into 2nd year of a new course, and you think you might enjoy that course more, then I would do that - the university wouldn't let you transfer if they didn't think you were capable of handling the change and the workload, and if it's going to be a lot of work, at least it will give you something to focus on, and it will keep you busy, which I feel makes the time go faster, and before you know it you'll be graduated!!

    Its my 3rd shot at uni too - I was 3rd time lucky and have landed in a course I love - but I understand how difficult it can all be.

    Anyway thats my advice - don't let a little hard work scare you away - it can only make you stronger, and build character
 
 
 
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