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    There's a party a friend invited me to..the problem is, I'm not friends with any of the guests, I know them from afar and also, they are very cliquey people, with whom it would be hard to mingle..

    SO I'm worried I will feel weird and depressed there...although someone's been telling me it's a good opportunity to make friends since i'm friendless here.

    What should I do?
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    If you don't feel comfortable going then there's no point stressing - don't go.

    It depends how confident you are / if alcohol is involved. If you're even mildly attractive and there are people drinking then you certainly won't be sitting in the corner alone.

    Saying that, if I didn't know anybody I probably wouldn't go to a party. If I knew one person there I would, maybe two to be safe.
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    (Original post by heart shaped box)
    There's a party a friend invited me to..the problem is, I'm not friends with any of the guests, I know them from afar and also, they are very cliquey people, with whom it would be hard to mingle..

    SO I'm worried I will feel weird and depressed there...although someone's been telling me it's a good opportunity to make friends since i'm friendless here.

    What should I do?
    Go, I go to plenty of parties where there are people I've never met before and I end up spending time with the people I've never met, just because it's someone different to get to know, you'll fit in a fine, after a couple of drinks everyone will be all jolly and everyone will be getting on fine.

    Or invite me :<
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    I wouldn't go - watch a movie you've always meant to, something to make you feel like you aren't wasting the time instead. Of course, there is the argument that you don't know what you miss out on at that party - but at the same time, your description of the people makes it sound like you won't be missing much you care about...
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    Get some alcohol down you and you'll mingle really easily
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    (Original post by tomfb)
    Go, I go to plenty of parties where there are people I've never met before and I end up spending time with the people I've never met, just because it's someone different to get to know, you'll fit in a fine, after a couple of drinks everyone will be all jolly and everyone will be getting on fine.
    Quoted for truth.
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    No harm in going and making new friends I suppose.
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    Free booze. Go for it!
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    once you're there i'm sure there will be loads of people who want to mingle, and you'll make loads of mates
    you can always leave early if its that much of a disaster but you'll probabily regret not going
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    (Original post by robocop1andahalf)
    Quoted for truth.
    huh?
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    Go. So easy to make friends at party. it's very social, people drinking, inhibitions gone.
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    Go, you're bound to make new friends.
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    How would we know?
    we dont know how far away it is, wether your at school/uni, who they are or who you are.
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    I would normally just go to something like this. Bite the bullet and you might enjoy it, if not, just leave after a polite period of time has passed. It is a great way to socialise and they may not be all that hard to mingle with...
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    Yea I should probably go...although these people have always known me as a shy nerdy girl and we've never really gotten along back in school days Now I'm back for the summer holidays and so are they..I doubt it's gonna change. That's why i don't know whether it's a good idea to go.

    Also, I can't leave early coz I can't drive and have to rely on the only friend I know at this party..although it's prolly not a valid reason for me not to go but still..
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    (Original post by heart shaped box)
    Yea I should probably go...although these people have always known me as a shy nerdy girl and we've never really gotten along back in school days Now I'm back for the summer holidays and so are they..I doubt it's gonna change. That's why i don't know whether it's a good idea to go.

    Also, I can't leave early coz I can't drive and have to rely on the only friend I know at this party..although it's prolly not a valid reason for me not to go but still..
    It sounds like you pretty much already have your mind made up.
    Do what you want to do, afterall it's not us who'll be there its you.
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    (Original post by Jessica,)
    It sounds like you pretty much already have your mind made up.
    Do what you want to do, afterall it's not us who'll be there its you.
    I just wanted some advice on whether my doubts on whether this party was a good idea were valid enough anyway, or if i was just being loser-ish by having such thoughts.
 
 
 
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