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    Basically, I met this guy a couple of months back, he's a good mate of my brother's girlfriend and my brother. We got on really well together and one night he was out at the club I usually frequent and we decided to walk back together. He then spends ages trying to convince me that he's no longer a "player" and that he wants to be in a serious relationship but no one will trust him because of his reputation.

    I told him that I don't care and I'll trust him if he wants to make something work. The next couple of months we keep meeting while we're out (not always drunk) and we always end up kissing/chatting.

    Up to this point even his mates thought we were due to get together, until last night that is. I asked him whether we could go official and he just told me that "he didn't want commitment". So basically, I could have slept with him in the months following, thinking everything was fine while he was still going about his old business.

    I know I'm really stupid, but he spent ages convincing me and I thought it could work. Now I just feel used, a whore and stupid for trying to trust him and then being rejected in front of people.

    Was I the stupid one or was he out of order?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, I met this guy a couple of months back, he's a good mate of my brother's girlfriend and my brother. We got on really well together and one night he was out at the club I usually frequent and we decided to walk back together. He then spends ages trying to convince me that he's no longer a "player" and that he wants to be in a serious relationship but no one will trust him because of his reputation.

    I told him that I don't care and I'll trust him if he wants to make something work. The next couple of months we keep meeting while we're out (not always drunk) and we always end up kissing/chatting.

    Up to this point even his mates thought we were due to get together, until last night that is. I asked him whether we could go official and he just told me that "he didn't want commitment". So basically, I could have slept with him in the months following, thinking everything was fine while he was still going about his old business.

    I know I'm really stupid, but he spent ages convincing me and I thought it could work. Now I just feel used, a whore and stupid for trying to trust him and then being rejected in front of people.

    Was I the stupid one or was he out of order?
    a whore is someone who puts a monetary value on sex and their body, you're someone who has been mistreated, don't criticise yourself for what someone else has done, it's not your fault
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    you were seeing a guy for months before you considered having sex, no you ain't a whore...
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    You saw him for months and didn't have sex. You're definitely not a whore, chillax.
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    (Original post by hec)
    you were seeing a guy for months before you considered having sex, no you ain't a whore...
    :ditto:

    You are probably what passes for a whore in Saudi Arabia...
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    He used a pretty standard tactic to try and get in your knickers to be honest.
    You fell for it in the sense that you believed his lies, but you didnt actually put out so im not sure where youre getting the whore bit from.

    Just be a bit more cautious of what and who you believe in future. Don't believe something just because you want it to be true
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    Kick him right in the nackers.
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    (Original post by HexagonalBolts)
    a whore is someone who puts a monetary value on sex and their body, you're someone who has been mistreated, don't criticise yourself for what someone else has done, it's not your fault
    this pretty much...
    he's the one who's been completely out of order. i've been in a similar situation and it isn't nice don't take it out on yourself you haven't done anything wrong except putting faith in someone who let you down...
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    Guy is still a playa, bt u aint no whore dnt stress.
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    I have a very simple test for determining a whore.

    Did you have sex with someone who wasn't your husband?
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    You weren't the whore at all, he was a blatant manwhore.

    You gave him a chance, and that's a good thing imo.
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    (Original post by HexagonalBolts)
    a whore is someone who puts a monetary value on sex and their body, you're someone who has been mistreated, don't criticise yourself for what someone else has done, it's not your fault
    i agree with that guy
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    (Original post by God of War)
    I have a very simple test for determining a whore.

    Did you have sex with someone who wasn't your husband?
    See OP, even by this nutter's definition you still aren't a whore Only thing you did wrong was giving someone a chance who didn't deserve it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Up to this point even his mates thought we were due to get together, until last night that is. I asked him whether we could go official and he just told me that "he didn't want commitment". So basically, I could have slept with him in the months following, thinking everything was fine while he was still going about his old business.
    It appears clear that you were not in a relationship with him. Where does the confusion arise and why are you so irritated with him for rejecting you?
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    you're no whore, you just got played by a jerk..
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    (Original post by HexagonalBolts)
    a whore is someone who puts a monetary value on sex and their body, you're someone who has been mistreated, don't criticise yourself for what someone else has done, it's not your fault
    this.

    don't let someone like that make you feel down about yourself as he made you believe that he had changed.

    he's just an idiot!! you are much better off without him love! There are plenty of nicer, kinder, better-looking fish in the sea
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    You aren't a whore! Dont say that, he toyed around with you so that makes him the idiot, right? x
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    You have been mistreated and your definately not a whore
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    So you dint have sexual intercourse but you feel like a whore..........
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    By no means are you are a whore as has been said.

    He was the one that is in the wrong here, obviously as he took advantage of you in some ways.

    Pick yourself up and move on, i think you deserve someone better.
 
 
 
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