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    The only thing that would annoy me would be him going out with friends every night, if it was literally all the time, and if he didnt ever ask you along. BUT you say you spent all saturday with him and saw him every day, so tbh, that sounds like quite a bit for a month long relationship!

    yes, obviously you expected too much.
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    (Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
    geez, and I thought it was GUYS who complained about having too little sex :confused:
    What on earth gave you that impression?

    To the OP yes I would be annoyed if my boyfriend was emotionally unavailable and distant.
    To everyone saying that the things she has listed are petty, it is more about what they represent.
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    (Original post by Trigger)
    Doesnt text you good morning or goodnight-grow up
    when hes annoyed at you, he doesnt say, he just wants space-thats his choice
    only has sex about once a week-ask him
    is out with friends every single night-why dont you go?
    doesnt put kisses in texts-grow up
    can go a whole day without talking to you-are you bothering him?

    I forgot to add that me and him had a rough beginning. we were sort of getting together, and then he went off with this other girl who he claims was just a **** buddy, but it lasted a few months then he came back to me and asked for a relationship.

    that made me paranoid about being with him, and also i have been cheated on in the past, so its not about growing up, more like trust issues. I admit i was expecting too much, but because of my past experiences i was paranoid
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I forgot to add that me and him had a rough beginning. we were sort of getting together, and then he went off with this other girl who he claims was just a **** buddy, but it lasted a few months then he came back to me and asked for a relationship.

    that made me paranoid about being with him, and also i have been cheated on in the past, so its not about growing up, more like trust issues. I admit i was expecting too much, but because of my past experiences i was paranoid
    Well more fool you for getting with someone who can't keep it in their trousers.
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    You expect too much.
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    (Original post by Trigger)
    Well more fool you for getting with someone who can't keep it in their trousers.
    then im not so crazy after all. i had my right to be paranoid
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    (Original post by Wenzel)
    OP, do you watch a lot of Hollywood romance movies or something? You're been a little unrealistic with your expectations...
    Agree. But I guess most girls can't help it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I forgot to add that me and him had a rough beginning. we were sort of getting together, and then he went off with this other girl who he claims was just a **** buddy, but it lasted a few months then he came back to me and asked for a relationship.

    that made me paranoid about being with him, and also i have been cheated on in the past, so its not about growing up, more like trust issues. I admit i was expecting too much, but because of my past experiences i was paranoid
    Sounds like you don't have as much issues with him as you have with yourself.

    Trust is an important part of a relationship, I understand that you might get a little paranoid and overanalysing after being cheated on, but at best it's a good thing you realize it yourself.

    Work from that point on and when you are with someone you think is really worth while, make sure you can fully trust that person.

    Also, don't bother worrying about good night texts and kisses in texts, these are petty things you shouldn't care about in a healthy relationship. He's your ex now so there is no point in lamenting on, what you considered, his flaws.
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    I don't get everyone saying she is expecting too much
    The expression of fondness for me and and an interest me would be the bare minimum I would expect out of a proper relationship. Whats the point otherwise?
    Communication as well, going cold and ignoring someone rather than telling them what the problem actually is isn't an effective way of conducting any kind of relationship.
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    (Original post by Abhead)
    I don't get everyone saying she is expecting too much
    The expression of fondness for me and and an interest me would be the bare minimum I would expect out of a proper relationship. Whats the point otherwise?
    I agree. I also agree with OP. At the beginning of the relationship people should be really loved up and into eachother. And I don't think there's anything wrong with goodnight/good morning texts. I send and recieve them Makes me happy. What's wrong with that?
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    everyone and every relationship is different.

    isn't this obvious?
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    out of those i only do 1 of them and that is want my own space when annoyed.
    I think your a little paranoid, i dont like it when my gf gets like this on occasions.
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    (Original post by fizzywizzy525)
    I agree. I also agree with OP. At the beginning of the relationship people should be really loved up and into eachother. And I don't think there's anything wrong with goodnight/good morning texts. I send and recieve them Makes me happy. What's wrong with that?
    Exactly there is nothing wrong with that. A relationship where you don't send goodnight/morning texts is fine too, but it is the combination of all the things the OP mentioned that paints a picture of a relationship without much emotional connection and closeness.
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    (Original post by BramsSTFU)
    -It's not a man's job to tell his girl good morning and good night, he's not her daddy.
    -He wants space when he's annoyed with her? Better than getting her head bitten off, don't you think?
    -Only has sex once a week... well, maybe a man's girl should be glad he's not trying to bone her every single night. Which can be rather annoying. Or maybe he actually likes her for more than just the sex? Oh shock horror!
    -He socialises. Nothing wrong with that, he had a life and friends before his girl and he's not going to drop either just for her.
    -No kisses in the text? Boo hoo. Get a grip.
    -Can handle not talking to his girl for a whole day? What kind of clingy cow wants a guy who can't handle talking to his girl just for one day?

    It's crap like this which makes men think girls are stupid, clingy, high maintenance and more bother than we are worth. It gives us a bad reputation and it REALLY PISSES ME OFF. :mad:
    its just the things individually that annoyed me, its them altogether which made me think he wasnt into the relationship

    and to be fair, he kind of messed me around in the beginning which was a big factor in why i got so mad at him so easily. me and him were sort of getting together and he slept with someone else, and they became **** buddies. A few months later he asked me for a relationship. I thought in the circumstances he should be showing more that he cared
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    You do come off as a bit clingy but it seems like it's just how you're reacting to being ignored.

    I'm pretty surprised to the reactions on this thread. Everytime a guy has liked me he has always made himself really available (calling, texting, hanging out all the time)...I thought this was normal? I would definitely assume a guy who didn't do these things wasn't interested.
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    Get a grip! I suggest you either try to curb your clingyness or warn the poor sod that ends up dating you about it before they get too involved. Seriously, very few guys, apart from those desperate to be in a relationship, will put up with those kind of expectations.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Doesnt text you good morning or goodnight
    when hes annoyed at you, he doesnt say, he just wants space
    only has sex about once a week
    is out with friends every single night
    doesnt put kisses in texts
    can go a whole day without talking to you

    my ex was like that, and tbh, it made me crazy and i would always end up getting annoyed with him because it didnt seem like he cared about me or liked me much. we spent all saturday together most of the time and saw him for only about 15 mins a day.
    I ended up wanting to question him about how he felt about me. We broke up after a month because he couldnt deal with me being paranaoid and overanalysing things.

    I cant tell whether i expected too much from him and was just acting crazy and stupid or whether his actions really did show he didnt like me much.
    Would you be annoyed if your Girlfriend was like this?

    Is not entirely secure in your relationship and thus wants you to text her all the time.

    Doesn't give you enough space.

    Wants sex all the time.

    Doesn't let you go out.

    Thinks technology is such a good medium that a lack of 'x's' in texts means you do not love her.
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    (Original post by Malkmus)
    Get a grip! I suggest you either try to curb your clingyness or warn the poor sod that ends up dating you about it before they get too involved. Seriously, very few guys, apart from those desperate to be in a relationship, will put up with those kind of expectations.
    I call ********.
    Every guy I have been in a relationship with (not including casual flings) has wanted to contact me regularly and has behaved in a caring loving way with me. I think a lot of the people posting on this thread are not ready to commit for whatever reason which is fine, but they shouldn't assume that their attitude is the only one, and how it should be in serious relationships.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Doesnt text you good morning or goodnight
    when hes annoyed at you, he doesnt say, he just wants space
    only has sex about once a week
    is out with friends every single night
    doesnt put kisses in texts
    can go a whole day without talking to you

    my ex was like that, and tbh, it made me crazy and i would always end up getting annoyed with him because it didnt seem like he cared about me or liked me much. we spent all saturday together most of the time and saw him for only about 15 mins a day.
    I ended up wanting to question him about how he felt about me. We broke up after a month because he couldnt deal with me being paranaoid and overanalysing things.

    I cant tell whether i expected too much from him and was just acting crazy and stupid or whether his actions really did show he didnt like me much.
    Sounds like you need a woman, haha.

    But seriously, you were getting annoyed at the fact he didn't put x's at the end of his texts?

    I find that very, very pathetic.
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    (Original post by MelonFace)
    Would you be annoyed if your Girlfriend was like this?

    Is not entirely secure in your relationship and thus wants you to text her all the time.

    Doesn't give you enough space.

    Wants sex all the time.

    Doesn't let you go out.

    Thinks technology is such a good medium that a lack of 'x's' in texts means you do not love her.
    omg i dont want any of those things!

    he messed me around before we started a relationship. i was sort of seeing him and he slept with someone else! he then spent a few months being **** buddies with her and asked me for a relationship down the line!

    i dont want sex all the time - maybe a few times a week
    i did let him out - clearly! he saw them every single night so i hardly saw him at all. whats wrong with wanting to spend time with your boyfriend? i dont care if he liked going out alot, the reason why i ddint go out with his friends was because they get stoned all the time and im not into that. Also, the girl who he slept with is in his circle of friends and i felt awkward around her
    he had plenty of space!

    yeah maybe i was a bit unreasonable, but ultimately due to him messing me around at the start.
 
 
 
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