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    so, my boyfriend of a year cheated on me.
    he said hes sorry, that he still loves me, and all that stuff.
    but i decided i couldn't be with him after it so i ended with him, like a week and a half ago.
    i dont want to hurt anyone by using them as a rebound.
    but i feel like i need another boyfriend already.
    but its not like i cant cope without him or anyone else, because i coped before he came along, just fine.
    why do i feel like this?
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    You feel like this because you need to know that you are still wanted, desired and that someone out there will replace that love and affection. It's normal. Don't sleep with other men though, you will just hurt yourself more. You did the right thing by ending it. Did he just kiss someone or did he have sex?
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    It is quite normal to feel like this after coming out of a long term relationship.

    Your life adapts to having someone else in it and then suddenly your find yourself without them and it can be quite unpleasent.

    This is why some people rebound and start a new relationship soon after finishing the last. Generally though not always these relationships can struggle.

    I would suggest that you go out and hang around with your friends and try and enjoy being single for a bit before finding someone new
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    (Original post by angel_with_horns)
    You feel like this because you need to know that you are still wanted, desired and that someone out there will replace that love and affection. It's normal. Don't sleep with other men though, you will just hurt yourself more. You did the right thing by ending it. Did he just kiss someone or did he have sex?
    I can see where your coming from, thanks for replying.
    They kissed and 'touched' eachother, but didn't have sex.
    but it's still wrong.
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    (Original post by randdom)
    It is quite normal to feel like this after coming out of a long term relationship.

    Your life adapts to having someone else in it and then suddenly your find yourself without them and it can be quite unpleasent.

    This is why some people rebound and start a new relationship soon after finishing the last. Generally though not always these relationships can struggle.

    I would suggest that you go out and hang around with your friends and try and enjoy being single for a bit before finding someone new

    This, exactly. Well said.
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    (Original post by randdom)
    It is quite normal to feel like this after coming out of a long term relationship.

    Your life adapts to having someone else in it and then suddenly your find yourself without them and it can be quite unpleasent.

    This is why some people rebound and start a new relationship soon after finishing the last. Generally though not always these relationships can struggle.

    I would suggest that you go out and hang around with your friends and try and enjoy being single for a bit before finding someone new
    Thanks for replying, yeah i guess i feel quite lonely at the moment.
    But as I said, I coped without him before, I'm sure if I keep fighting through i will be okay?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    so, my boyfriend of a year cheated on me.
    he said hes sorry, that he still loves me, and all that stuff.
    but i decided i couldn't be with him after it so i ended with him, like a week and a half ago.
    i dont want to hurt anyone by using them as a rebound.
    but i feel like i need another boyfriend already.
    but its not like i cant cope without him or anyone else, because i coped before he came along, just fine.
    why do i feel like this?
    Trust me, don't do it... I went through the same thing and it's not worth it. You'll only end up feeling worse. I eventually (well a week later) moved away and have been single since... It's been nearly a year. I've had opportunities to get with other girls but I think the best thing to do is to stay single until you meet someone you really like... Of course it's easier to forget about the person who hurt you if you're with someone else, but in the long term it's not worth it.
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    Yes, you will be okay. At the end of the day you have your mind set straight. You know that a rebound would be bad and that you can cope without him. Now you just need to put words into action which is the harder part. Just remember what you just said though: "I coped without him before". Keep thinking and remembering this and fighting. You will be fine, it won't be smooth and painless though, keep your friends close.

    I wish you the best of luck.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for replying, yeah i guess i feel quite lonely at the moment.
    But as I said, I coped without him before, I'm sure if I keep fighting through i will be okay?
    It is definitely just a case of going though it and readjusting
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    so, my boyfriend of a year cheated on me.
    he said hes sorry, that he still loves me, and all that stuff.
    but i decided i couldn't be with him after it so i ended with him, like a week and a half ago.
    i dont want to hurt anyone by using them as a rebound.
    but i feel like i need another boyfriend already.
    but its not like i cant cope without him or anyone else, because i coped before he came along, just fine.
    why do i feel like this?
    Sorry, that's sounds really bad. :console:

    You did the right thing getting rid of him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
    Seriously though, don't get a rebound relationship, you'll hurt the guy more than you hurt yourself and breaking hearts is not cool.

    Like other people said, enjoy being single for a while, it'll help you move on.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    so, my boyfriend of a year cheated on me.
    he said hes sorry, that he still loves me, and all that stuff.
    but i decided i couldn't be with him after it so i ended with him, like a week and a half ago.
    i dont want to hurt anyone by using them as a rebound.
    but i feel like i need another boyfriend already.
    but its not like i cant cope without him or anyone else, because i coped before he came along, just fine.
    why do i feel like this?
    I feel similar OP. Email me [email protected]
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    You don't always hurt rebounds.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for replying, yeah i guess i feel quite lonely at the moment.
    But as I said, I coped without him before, I'm sure if I keep fighting through i will be okay?
    *hug*

    What randdom said. It's perfectly natural and almost everyone goes through it after coming out a relationship, find something to distract you (spend more time with friends, a hobby, etc.) and it'll get better over time.
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