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    It sounds like you're more jealous and interested of the lifestyle than being with him...
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    I know deep down it was the right thing to do but i still think have i done right thing as i was mates with my guy friend for ages short story he started having probs with his then fiance gave me the come on but ended up going off with some other girl who hes now engaged to has moved in with after 4 months in a posh house and has already gone on 4 holidays.

    I know it wouldve been wrong to cheat but i think it i had gone there and not given off such mixed signals then it couldve been me
    This has really hurt you. : /

    You're better off with that guy in your life, seriously.
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    dont want to rant to me then OP? i sent you a pm last night
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    i feel hurt as hes dumped our friendship virtually since this girl and all i get and others is oh my life is so wonderful and is better than yours.... not forgetting both were in rellies when they met
    OP I still say get as far away from this mate of your as you can. Staying friends with him, hearing all of his news, isnt doing you any good. Its not making it easy for you to get over him either. Why do you have your hopes pinned on this guy anyway?. Has no one else ever shown an interest in you, do you think that this guy is the only one that will or did have any interest in you?. If so I can assure you that it isnt the case. But by hanging on to this and thinking "what if" its not going to be easy for you to let another guy in to your life.
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    And here it goes again....

    OP you have your whole life ahead of you and the chance to meet someone new and better. If you'd rather be pregnant and tied to your ex/guy mate who sounds like a complete waste of space then thats crazy.
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    Isn't this like your tenth thread on the same subject? :| What else do you expect people to say? Seriously.
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    He paid me ALOT of attention at time and he was defo interested as why take a girl out for dates! I just feel it could be me going on posh hols or getting preggars i cant help it
    Ok so what happened?. Why didnt the 2 of you actually become a couple?. Wasnt there any kissing, etc?. If so why not. How old are both of you?.
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    He paid me ALOT of attention at time and he was defo interested as why take a girl out for dates! I just feel it could be me going on posh hols or getting preggars i cant help it
    Find another bloke. Seriously. There are 3 billion of us on the planet and yet you're obsessed with this one guy who, to be frank, sounds like an utter arse.
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    (Original post by Annie72)
    Ok so what happened?. Why didnt the 2 of you actually become a couple?. Wasnt there any kissing, etc?. If so why not. How old are both of you?.
    Check out any of these threads:

    http://www.ukchatterbox.co.uk/msgboa...author=jludvig
    http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=673962
    http://www.moremagazine.co.uk/forum/....asp?mode=DoIt
    http://www.digitalspy.com/forums/sho...oanne01&page=2

    Or indeed, any of her threads on here.

    It would *never* have been her - when the guy met a girl he wanted more than sex from, he dumped his g/f within a week and is now with the new one. He'd known Joanne a long time but he never took that step.
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    Joanne

    Try this "what if":

    What if you stopped using this bloke as an excuse and moved on with your life?

    What if you just accepted life can be sh*t sometimes?

    If you don't stop obsessing over this guy, you will find your life is sh*t all the time. You've wasted over TWO YEARS!!
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    (Original post by lovingmc123)
    Check out any of these threads:

    http://www.ukchatterbox.co.uk/msgboa...author=jludvig
    http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=673962
    http://www.moremagazine.co.uk/forum/....asp?mode=DoIt
    http://www.digitalspy.com/forums/sho...oanne01&page=2

    Or indeed, any of her threads on here.

    It would *never* have been her - when the guy met a girl he wanted more than sex from, he dumped his g/f within a week and is now with the new one. He'd known Joanne a long time but he never took that step.
    Which sugessts to me that the guy didnt see Joanne in that way anyway surely. It could be that the signs were misread by the OP?. Who knows, I just feel that she should move on from this and find someone that will reciprocate her feelings.
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    seriously lovely. move on. why are you still letting this one idiot and your experience with him dictate your life???? it's no wonder you're inexperienced with guys if your spending your life on internet forums complaining about this one guy. for gods sake, just move on.
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    erm im sorry but i think youre wrong that he did like me in some way

    he started texting me loads - he never even used to reply let alone text me the year i knew him

    he paid me lots of compliments how i had a nice tan,had nice nails, i didnt need any beauty sleep, would make a comment on what bra i was wearing

    constantly asking me was iseeing anyone - asking personal questions

    saying i was sexy,that i had a sexy smile and a fit arse - yeah u say that to girls u dont fancy

    saying how i wasnt just any girl and he knew i was trouble but wanted to know how much

    how maybe we could do this or do that in the future

    meeting me for coffee - no wedding band on - he had taken it off

    taken me for posh nosh meal being cuddly on way home

    sayin how it wold be more fun if we werent friends

    kept on asking me to go over to his flat and if i did wouldnt be able to behave- i didnt go in end i felt it was wrong

    saying how my boobs were nice - yeah all stuff u say to girls youre not interested

    so yeah u act like that with your mates
    Wedding band??....so he was married at the time he was seeing you?. I still think you did the right thing by not doing anything with him, especially if he was married. You chose not to do anything with him, although after reading the above it seems he was trying to get you to do something.As I have said before, you have morals, he clearly doesnt. Dont worry OP I"m sure he will come a cropper soon, especially if he is still like he was with you.

    Imagine this in your what if scenario........what if the two of you had have got together and he had cheated on you or given you an STI.....imagine how ****** you would have felt then. At least you had the decency to not let yourself be drawn in to it all.
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    Nobody can help you if you choose to be stubborn.
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    OP, I have written a reply in your other thread , the one about what he said to you for those that doubt he fancied you.
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    no not wedding band sorry engagement ring he normally wears it but stopped when he was chasing me... thats what i mean hes come out smelling of roses - perfect life i do feel ive been messed around and wouldve liked an appology
    You're clearly not going to get an apology so just get over it. You're not doing yourself any favours by continuing to dwell on him and this whole situation. Life is rubbish. It happens to everyone, but somehow we all get by without posting zillions of threads on the internet asking for advice which we then go on to ignore. No one's saying that he didn't like you or that he didn't lead you on...it looks like he did both of those things, but he obviously doesn't WANT you. Looks like you made yourself too available IMO, and by continuing to badger him thats not going to change. If you want his attention then stop talking to him and ignore him cos that'll sure fire work. But you're better off without him anyway.

    I'm tempted to call troll but I think judging by the amount of effort you've put in creating all these threads you simply can't be.
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    (Original post by lovingmc123)
    Check out any of these threads:

    http://www.ukchatterbox.co.uk/msgboa...author=jludvig
    http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/forums/s...d.php?t=673962
    http://www.moremagazine.co.uk/forum/....asp?mode=DoIt
    http://www.digitalspy.com/forums/sho...oanne01&page=2

    Or indeed, any of her threads on here.

    It would *never* have been her - when the guy met a girl he wanted more than sex from, he dumped his g/f within a week and is now with the new one. He'd known Joanne a long time but he never took that step.
    So is she just a weird troll who annoys people over and over with the same story or is she genuinely just mentally ill? Or I guess presumably both. Sad really whatever the case.
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    i havent badgered him but have told him a few home truths on what people think about him hes not well liked at all and no im not mentally ill
    You've spent what, 2 years?! Posting and reposting about your obsession on various internet forums. I would call that mental illness to be honest, if you are for real then and I genuinely mean this, you need to seek help.
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    (Original post by jludvig)
    Erm it hasnt been 2 yrs this situation has only happened since last september and ive been to docs many times they say im fine
    Yes, maybe he stopped showing interest in you last september, but you posted this 3 months shy of two years ago, and it seems it wasn't the first. You've spent 2 years obsessed with a man who at most has showed a slight interest in getting into your pants. You need to let it go and move on, not that I expect you to pay any attention, you've been ignoring that kind of advice for a long while. Presumably you're getting good at it.
 
 
 
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