Upset my friend while drunk

Hi guys, I don't normally post here but I don't know what to do so I thought i'd give it a try, I hope you can help.

Me and my mates were out on Friday night and we all got a bit drunk, but it turns out i said some stuff i shouldn't have to one of them and now he's not talking. I've tried telling him I didn't mean it, but he seems to think it must be what I really think cause 'when your drunk, you say what you really think', but I don't. I've tried apologising sober again, but he just won't listen.

What am I gonna do? :frown:

Reply 1

timetokill

Give him some space. Unless it was something awful then no doubt he will come round. Hopefully sooner rather than later.

Maybe facebook message him or something saying that you're really sorry, you truely didnt mean what you said and that you feel like a right prick about it.
Say that youre going to give him some space for a while, but you'll be there if and when he wants to talk to you again.

Reply 2

sisko197

I sent him a text cause he didnt seem to be up for talking, but then he told someone else that a two word apology via text message was meaningless and not worth bothering with.

Reply 3

lostdoll

Try a letter. It shows you've taken the time to write it out, it's personal, and you can explain absolutely everything you want to say, instead or remembering bits and pieces after a conversation. Texts are very impersonal (which is why apologies and break ups via text never usually go down well!)

I hope it turns out alright. If you've been good friends for a while, I'm sure he'll see that your friendship is worth too much for one drunken mishap to wreck it.

Reply 4

audacia

What kind of thing did you say to him?

Reply 5

sisko197

I'd probably be better not saying, just incase he reads this forum. Somehow, I doubt that would make things better.
But I called him he does have to put up with quite a bit from other folk and he manages to just ignore it. Someone else said that its different cause it was ME who said it.

Reply 6

Sagittarius_GBR

Time heals. If you're one of his best friends, then he's probably not gonna cut you out just like that. Just make him know you didn't mean it.

And watch what you say next time you're hammered.

Reply 7

Nutta!

Its bad, by the looks of it...

How do guys make up?

Reply 8

Pickford

Well, if a druken mind speaks sober thoughts, you should apologise whilst drunk. He seems to think you spoke the honest truth whilst drunk - so if you apologise whilst drunk he has to believe you!

You can thank me later.