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Bf Troubles! Advice Plz!!

anon or delete plzzz!
ive been seeing a guy for about a month now... we havent really been very close or spent alot of time with each other as he is doing a YMCA scheme course thing 5 days a week and i work full time in a pub..

but there are quite a few evenings i dont work and could meet up with him to spend time together..
i try texting him to arrange stuff but he hardly ever texts back,even though he has free texts. so we have only been seeing each other once a week on friday nights out with mutual friends,wich usually ends up us staying at a m8s house n sleeping together.

i just dont no what to do as at the moment i dont feel like im in a proper relationship cos i only see him once a week or twice if im lucky.. i ask him if he actualy wants to be with me and he said yes,and says he really likes me alot, but i have doubts sometimes because he doesnt seem bothered that we hardly spend time together..

am i being too clingy? or do i have a right to be a bit annoyed about this? plz give me some advice i really dont no what to do... :frown:

Reply 1

He doesn't seem to be in this whole relationship thing...I hate it when people don't text back! :mad:

Reply 2

I hardly see my boyfriend because he only gets two days off a week (he's a lifeguard). It's hard yes, because at the end of his day he wants to relax at home. I'm used to it and I accept it because we've been together nearly 3 years and it would be silly throwing everything away due to it. If you've only been together a month, i really don't know what to suggest, you can put up with it for a while longer and maybe you'll get used to it? :s-smilie:

EDIT: although tbh if he's not texting back, he sounds like an idiot. Perhaps you should cut it short before it gets any worse, or you develop stronger feelings for him which will make it harder in the long run to let him go.

Reply 3

Anonymous
i work full time in a pub..


Found your problem.

Reply 4

IAmCroissant
Found your problem.



i only on about 33 hours atm though.... like this week i have 4 evenings off..i dont work realy long shifts so is loads of times i could see my bf but its just so onesided,i seem to be the only one trying to arange to meet up and stuff.. :s-smilie:

Reply 5

It sounds like he should put in more effort.

Reply 6

I rather think he needs to up his game.