Turn on thread page Beta

How does a homosexual know when they have lost their virginity? watch

    • Thread Starter
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    Please do not laugh I am bein serious!

    I really do not know how a gay man or a lesbian will know if they have lost they virginity.

    Cos think about is penetrating a man loosing your virginity or being penetrated loosing it? So supposing there were two gay virgin men having sex and one was being penetrated and they didnt get the chance to return the favour...who truely lost their virginity????

    Lesbians just bloody confuse me...what do they have to do?!?!

    I am sorry the answers to these questions are not obvious to me, I'm just curious :o:
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    If it counts as sex in your mind, then you're not a virgin.
    Offline

    9
    Strap-on!
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    Hmm im not sure about it being just in your mind...some people have very strage ideas about exactly what contitutes sex.
    Its questions like these that bring up further questions like....why does it matter?
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    i think it's sort of the same as heterosexuals

    like ok first time i did it, the whole thing was in there but it was like really quick and i dunno... i just didnt feel like i "lost my virginity" or whatever at that point

    i mean i just think for me there's a point in my life where i was clearly a virgin and a point where i was clearly not and there's more of a certain period of time in between those points as opposed to some "event" and i guess maybe that's the same for homosexuals, at least dykes anyway.

    i dunno wtf what im talking about here
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    Definitions of sex vary from person to person. A straight girl might have anal sex and consider herself not a virgin even if she hasn't had actual intercourse (which would be a bit weird but you get my drift).

    Similarly, a gay guy might think of being penetrated as the definition of losing virginity, another might think penetrating a guy counts. As a lesbian I view full-frontal nudity during sexy times to be tantamount to losing my virginity, whatever actually happens. To me its about being completely trusting with a girl and allowing myself to be completely vulnerable around her.
    Offline

    12
    ReputationRep:
    Bit of a paradox rly. Hetero friends of mine indulge in anal sex with their gf's before losing their virginities, they don't think anal counts as 'sex'.

    Furthermore, figures show that members of the Christian abstinence group 'the Silver Ring Thing' infact have anal sex as youngsters before getting married and having what they consider as 'sex' for the first time.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Rocious)
    i think it's sort of the same as heterosexuals

    like ok first time i did it, the whole thing was in there but it was like really quick and i dunno... i just didnt feel like i "lost my virginity" or whatever at that point

    i mean i just think for me there's a point in my life where i was clearly a virgin and a point where i was clearly not and there's more of a certain period of time in between those points as opposed to some "event" and i guess maybe that's the same for homosexuals, at least dykes anyway.

    i dunno wtf what im talking about here
    I don't think it's the same for heterosexuals at all.

    In hetero relationships, it's the penetration which counts as losing your virginity. Lots of gay men and women choose not to have penetretive sex, but still engage in plenty of other sexual activities, so it would be silly to call them virgins.

    That's why I said whatever counts in your own mind. It doesn't really matter whether other people agree with what you think.
    Offline

    9
    ReputationRep:
    Taking a stab in the dark here (excuse the pun), but could it be when one has had sex?
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    Gay men tend to have a sore arse as an indicator of lost virginity.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by tom_pinnock54)
    Taking a stab in the dark here (excuse the pun), but could it be when one has had sex?
    I think the real question was about what "counts" as sex in a same-sex relationship.
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Spanghew)
    I think the real question was about what "counts" as sex in a same-sex relationship.
    **** up the bum
    Offline

    22
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Spanghew)
    If it counts as sex in your mind, then you're not a virgin.
    This x

    +rep x
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Spanghew)
    I don't think it's the same for heterosexuals at all.

    In hetero relationships, it's the penetration which counts as losing your virginity. Lots of gay men and women choose not to have penetretive sex, but still engage in plenty of other sexual activities, so it would be silly to call them virgins.

    That's why I said whatever counts in your own mind. It doesn't really matter whether other people agree with what you think.
    Surely either way...if you get penetrated or penetrate in a hetero or homo relationship...then you have lost your virginity...

    A woman can't penetrate a man....so does that mean they haven't lost their virginity? no. LOL, this thread is funny.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Pezza18)
    Surely either way...if you get penetrated or penetrate in a hetero or homo relationship...then you have lost your virginity...

    A woman can't penetrate a man....so does that mean they haven't lost their virginity? no. LOL, this thread is funny.
    A woman can't penetrate a man, but the being penetrated is what usually counts as her losing her virginity in a hetero relationship.

    And you can't apply the same penetration rule to same-sex couples, because plenty of gay men and lesbians choose not to have any form of penetration.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    When your sphincter breaks.
    Offline

    9
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Spanghew)
    A woman can't penetrate a man, but the being penetrated is what usually counts as her losing her virginity in a hetero relationship.

    And you can't apply the same penetration rule to same-sex couples, because plenty of gay men and lesbians choose not to have any form of penetration.
    Well, if you don't have vaginal or anal intercourse, you don't lose your V do you? What was the question again? -
    Offline

    9
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by BossManSingh)
    When your sphincter breaks.
    What an attractive and pleasant thought...
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Rocious)

    like ok first time i did it, the whole thing was in there but it was like really quick and i dunno...
    i dunno wtf what im talking about here
    This made me laugh.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by tom_pinnock54)
    Well, if you don't have vaginal or anal intercourse, you don't lose your V do you? What was the question again? -
    ..... this was the whole point of the question. S/he was asking when it does count as "losing your V", if you can't apply the same rules about anal/vaginal penetration.

    Are all lesbians virgins unless they've slept with a man?
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: July 15, 2009
Poll
Which accompaniment is best?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.