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    Hi all, thanks for reading, looking for some advice on my situation. Im not quite sure if ive posted this qu in the right forum, but here it is anyway.



    Basically I have absolutely no idea what direction I want to take my life in, and its depressing and stressing me because of it.

    I left school in June 08 with 9 gcses, (8 @ grade A, and 1 @ grade A*), a-levels BBB in biology/business studies/geography. I had no idea even then what path to take my life in. I applied to study economics at a univeristy, deferring entry until Sept09, taking a year out.

    During my year out I havnt enjoyed it (mainly due to lonliness, no friends) but have had a very important learning experience. I have spent the past year (am still am) working in a retail/sales job for a company in the city close to me. Its been an interesting year, even though i havnt enjoyed it, its been my first job and i dont regret taking it as i was so naive beforehand due to having never worked.

    As far as taking this economics course at uni in sept, im not sure whether to take it or not, As im completely unsure what job i want to eventually work at (literally i havnt a bloody clue).
    I did alternatively think of taking different a-levels in sept (i have thought about this for a couple of years), ie maths and physics so i could aapply for a engineering degree or computer science ie something more specific and specialised at uni.


    Is there anyone else out there who hasnt a clue what job they want to do? If so, what advice would you give me?

    This scenario is stressing me out bigtime. so many people have it easy as they know what they want to work at and so they have defined career path into it, whereas im just wandering in mist.

    uni is such a big financial and timewise commitment, so i want to get it right in terms of choosing the most appropriate subject for me. I have heard stories of people wasting money by dropping out of uni due to not liking their course, or people a few years after graduating having mediocre job prospects or not in their desired job.

    One avenue ive considered is just to ''do nothing educationwise'' ie take another year out, because if i dont know what decision is right, i should postphone it for at least another year, to avoid making a wrong decision. I think this would not be a year best spent as im quite intelligent and would benefit from education/ another year out is taking me mentally further away from eduaction/ there are not decent jobs available for me to work at during a year out.

    As i said this sitaution is doing my head in, i think about it all day everyday, and feel my life is a mess going nothwhere fast.

    Sometimes i think uni would be a waste of time if i go there with no end goal in mind(?)

    lets face it> theres nothing half decent i can do with my life without going to university, is there??


    Anyone got any constructive advice or comments worth sharing with me??


    Thanks for reading.
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    I'm just the same.

    I finished school in 2008 and came out with a bunch of A-levels and GCSE's. Took this year off to work and I'm due to start uni in September. I've absolutely no idea what I want to do in the future but I'm hoping uni will give me some ideas. It's got to be better than doing a 9-5 for the rest of my life. Go for it, don't miss the opportunity while you're young ;]
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    Economics is a very demanding subject to do as a degree, I wouldn't advise doing it unless you're fully committed.
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    As someone on a regrettable course I say dont do it, I took a year out (calling it a Placement Year) and still have no idea what I want to do but Ive used up my allocated funding on a course I didnt enjoy and anything I do want to do will mean saving up £8,000 * 3 years to study it or doing it all part time. Either way im looking at years and years before graduating again if I decide to bother as being 30 and a new graduate seems pointless. Im now thinking about taking courses at my college that are geared towards a job and only cost abut £500 a year and I can work 2 out of 5 week days.

    Dont waste your funding when youre not sure, take short courses or do lots of work experiences instead and then use the £25k the government will get you at the best loan rate ever to get a degree youre at least a tiny bit sure about. Its better than my alternative.
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    I also face the problem of not having a direction. But this applies not only to school, unfortunately. Jobwise, go for economics if you can handle.
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    I wouldn't recommend starting a full time degree course if you are not sure it is really what you want to do. Have you looked at jobs that offer training with funded study - such as accountancy - that you can go into without a degree? One of my friends got into a major firm of accountants at 18 - after A-levels - and is training without getting into debt. This is what he did.

    Sometimes it is only when you have tried other things that you figure out what you really want to do.
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    I don't have a plan or end goal to work towards either and it really stresses me out because I'm studying for a degree but I don't know what I'll do with it at the end or if I should have studied a different degree.
    But to be fair if you have no idea, is it any more likely you'll know at the end of another year out?
    Universities are often quite flexible so if you find that a course isn't what you wanted you may be able to change, even after the first year.
    Also, studying economics doesn't mean you'll have to do something involved with economics, a lot of graduate jobs just specify that you need a degree or a degree within 'humanities' or whatever.

    Have you thought about doing an apprenticeship?
    That way you could be studying, working and earning money and it might give you an idea of what you want to do?

    Is there anything in particular that you enjoy? Spending three years studying something you enjoy is much more worthwhile than studying something which leads to a job in my opinion.

    Sorry, hope that's some help to you.
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    (Original post by JCM89)
    I wouldn't recommend starting a full time degree course if you are not sure it is really what you want to do. Have you looked at jobs that offer training with funded study - such as accountancy - that you can go into without a degree? One of my friends got into a major firm of accountants at 18 - after A-levels - and is training without getting into debt. This is what he did.

    Sometimes it is only when you have tried other things that you figure out what you really want to do.
    It says A Level Trainees but do you reckon graduates without a finance degree would be in this section too?
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    (Original post by JCM89)
    I wouldn't recommend starting a full time degree course if you are not sure it is really what you want to do. Have you looked at jobs that offer training with funded study - such as accountancy - that you can go into without a degree? One of my friends got into a major firm of accountants at 18 - after A-levels - and is training without getting into debt. This is what he did.

    Sometimes it is only when you have tried other things that you figure out what you really want to do.
    do u know grades he got in his a levels by any chance??
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    (Original post by lowrax)
    I don't have a plan or end goal to work towards either and it really stresses me out because I'm studying for a degree but I don't know what I'll do with it at the end or if I should have studied a different degree.
    But to be fair if you have no idea, is it any more likely you'll know at the end of another year out?
    Universities are often quite flexible so if you find that a course isn't what you wanted you may be able to change, even after the first year.
    Also, studying economics doesn't mean you'll have to do something involved with economics, a lot of graduate jobs just specify that you need a degree or a degree within 'humanities' or whatever.

    Have you thought about doing an apprenticeship?
    That way you could be studying, working and earning money and it might give you an idea of what you want to do?

    Is there anything in particular that you enjoy? Spending three years studying something you enjoy is much more worthwhile than studying something which leads to a job in my opinion.

    Sorry, hope that's some help to you.
    You only get 4 years of funding so it makes more sense to wait and use that money when youre more sure. To school leavers/year after school leavers it does seem to better just to go and get a degree but an economics degree is useless if you end up wanting to go into science/psychology/art/history etc. Business is the best industry to get into with a different degree. Even if you wait until youre 21 youre still in the majority age group.
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    I'm in the same boat, I don't want to jump into an expensive degree that I'm not fully committed to and, like you, it's also doing my nut in.

    I've saved up a thousand pounds and i'm planning to save another grand or two before I go to work in Australia for a year. It's something I really want to do to just feel like i'm doing something new

    Saying you can't do anything half decent in your life without a degree is a bit of brainwashy madness, of course you can.
    The number of people doing vague degrees that aren't specific (as you say, maths and physics type degrees) is ballooning and they're starting to mean less and less to employers, they're looking more for experience and enthusiasm.

    So if you utilise this time off to look into different jobs, maybe try asking for some unpaid work experience at local companies that interest you, it'll heighten your chances of finding a job/career that you want to do and look great on your CV.

    I'm planning to work abroad/travel for a bit while I sort my head out, maybe that's not something you'd want to do but it's definitely a good way to reflect and enjoy yourself while you're not technically "doing anything"

    Hope my big ramble has very slightly helped you haha.
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    sorry but i cant see the problem.

    your obviously an intelligent person with the grades youve acheived.

    people who have plans may seem to have it sorted but "plans" dont always work out. its better to have back up such as grades or experience then go with the flow do what makes you happy and you'll end up where you want to be. but dont think its easy, nothing worth fighting for will be easy.

    uni will open more doors to you in the future but do what makes you happy whether thats going travelling doing you degree or working full time.

    trust me i dont have a plan i dont need a plan because when i had a plan back in college my duaghter was born (that wasnt part of my plan) so all these people with "plans" and "direction" they'll eventually come across obstacles.

    just relax go with the flow
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    I sometimes think that not having a plan is more fun than having your life planned out by the age of 12. Where's the fun in knowing exactly what path your life will take?

    Just do what makes you happy right now. In other words, figure out if you will enjoy studying economics, and if not then find something else that you enjoy and do that.
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    grow a pair or i piss on ur face
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    I would say to make absolutely sure that you choose a subject you WANT to do, and not something you think you should do. I made the mistake of going into university to do business studies, but realised after the first year that it wasn't something i wanted to do. A small chat with the LEA, and i found out that they wouldn't fund me to start again, so i finished the degree, and now am unemployed, and worse of all i still don't know i want to do. Just make sure it's what you want before you start moving forward. Don't afraid to take time off to sort it out, as it's far better to make a right decision after a few years than rush into a course because you want to do it before the deadline closes.
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    This sounds very similar to what I was like a year or two ago. I finished college with straight A's, took a gap year in a chemical lab and went on to study chemical engineering at manchester. Except I didn't enjoy the gap year much and realised shortly after starting the degree that i didn't enjoy it and didn't want it as a career.

    So, as there was no point continuing I dropped out. I spent months deciding what to do. Didn't apply to University the year after, had two years out working and learning more about what I enjoy on my own. Did an open Uni course. Read more books. Explored my interests. Went through 4 or 5 jobs, mainly just for money, until I decided what degree to do.

    And when I decided it had nothing to with money or job prospects. It was just a course that I enjoy and will stick with. I didn't even bother to check out university reputation beforehand. I just picked the one that looked most interesting with high student satisfaction.

    So what I'm trying to say is, why do a degree you won't enjoy? If you don't enjoy the degree you won't enjoy the job afterwards. And it's never too late to find yourself. Just take your time and do what you want to do.
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    (Original post by Jennie1987)
    It says A Level Trainees but do you reckon graduates without a finance degree would be in this section too?
    No, but graduates without a finance degree can go in for any of the graduate entry programmes for accountancy. They take any degree to train to be an accountant (although you can get exemptions from exams if you have a relevant degree) - I know a couple of people who have gone that route - one with a degree in anthropology and the other in French.
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    (Original post by phoenixx)
    do u know grades he got in his a levels by any chance??
    He got ABB in economics, maths and history.
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    Heres my story if you care...

    I came to college declared as a physics major. But I always had a yearning to be in film and also music. I was in high school band and earned my ranks there. I also won some awards. Music was my true passion and film making. -- I'd say making music for tv, commercials, movies would have been perfect for me (in terms of enjoyment).

    I am from a upper middle class family- a mother who works as a psychologist in a law firm, an engineer of a father. My older brother was a chemistry major, now works for the gov. My older sister is getting her masters in communications/journalism. My other sister was a business major and now works for a health care company doing data and analytical work. They all are married or have strong relationships with other successful people. The EPITOME of middle class success.

    So here I am. My interests included art/creativity. My family is all amateur musicians, but I wanted to be more....I was torn. STILL AM!!!

    In the middle of my second year, I left school and started playing in a band. I also worked retail. My parents were unhappy. And like you, I had an interesting life for awhile, but I was unhappy. Many times, I had to wake up early to open, or stay til 2am closing- mopping the floor in the dark.

    I went back to school eventually. I'm still here, majoring in neuroscience- the brain interests me, too. However, the amount of constant pressure and demanding pressure from my classes, plus the fact that you really need a phD in this field to do anything is causing me to worry- why do you think I searched college student with no direction? Now I guess I have a direction, but I also have changed my direction several times in the past 2 or so years. I don't want to do what I am doing anymore and now I have no idea what I want to do..

    Maybe our problems are that we have strayed away from our true desires and just cannot get over it. Many children have dreams of being a professional baseball player, or movie star, or rock star. I still want that, but i am nowhere near that, and now Im almost 22.

    Many of my friends now have traveled, found internships, have strong relationships and connections or already have found promising career type jobs. I don't know, I guess I'm not ready to grow up. If this applies to you, I hope it helps. Or maybe you really have no interests or low motivation. I don't know what to tell you except your probably not alone, and don't give up. I'm trying really hard not to, but it's hard when your not happy. Hopefully you are, or can be. After studying the brain, I know that low motivation and/or depression is related to deficiencies in your brain so if you think you are, go see someone.
 
 
 
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