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Nip/tuck watch

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    Keep anon please

    I am a guy and currently I am undergoing treatment that will change the way I look visually; I am correcting a medical condition I have and as a defect my looks improve with it. I will probably be quite good looking after its all done as there will be summetry in my face, along with my current features becoming more defined afterwards. In addition, they will be improving my nose - currently it has a hump on it - which they will remove.

    I expect everything to be completed by christmas next year as there are three stages to my treatment, but in the meantime the quality of my social life is suffering immensely. Knowing that I need all of this treatment has caused me for years to suffer from low self esteem and I think I have developed body dysmorphic disorder with it.
    I have never felt confident around other people, and I overcomponsate for this by acting extremely confident. With that in mind I am still single right now, because due to my LSE I feel that I am not worthy of a girl who is generally good looking....pretty useless with women generally because I just dont have the sexual confidence around them to flirt or take things further due to my LSE. Other ways this has affected me is sometimes I put off meeting with my friends because I am very self concious about my looks, skip classes (yet still pass lol); I generally hate photographs of myself etc etc. I am generally quite sensitive with my looks, and can't take criticism badly (and they have been criticised)

    Anyway I have recognised this has affected me so badly for the last 5 years, and the more I try to get over it I cannot. Academically I am a bright guy, a 2:1 is on the cards but due to this often I lose focus mid way through a term because my mind becomes preoccupied with this. On top of that, I am feeling the pressure from my mates to go out and get a gf, but despite acting confident around a girl I like, I can never take things further because this lets me down and then I end up thinking that I am not good enough for her when things don't go my way, which adds to it. In addition, very rarely girls have chased me, I am not one of those guys that have it easy.

    I guess the logical thing to do is wait until everything is corrected, but as that is a year away and now the pressure is on to secure a 2:1 I cant let this get in the way, plus yeah ideally I wish that it didn't take me fixing myself up to get into a relationship with someone I like but then I feel powerless as I socialise etc and do what I can with what I have already. What do you suggest I do to handle this?
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