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    Ok so i have a decision to make and im looking for some advice/opinions/whatever.

    Im thinking about moving out next year, moving into the town centre where i go to uni. At the minute i am living outside the city, abuot 20 mins away by car. I do drive so travel for uni isnt an issue, but i find it hard to do student things at night not being in the actual city. I live rent free with my parents. I dont really have many mates at the minute and im thinking this could be a change i need, however as outlined below im not sure if its a good thing.

    There are the obvious plusses abuot living in a student house of course - more freedom, partying etc etc... but im slightly worrid about it for a few reasons:

    1) I dont have many friends, so i know noone to share with. If i do move it it will have to be via an ad somewhere and ill have to live with randoms.

    2) living in the city will cost me more than it would to stay at home (although this isnt a major concern of mine)

    3) At the minute i dont really go out much as i dont have many mates, so im worried ill just end up sitting on my arse all day and night on my own.

    What would people do? Can they offer an opinion or their experiences of moving out and whether me in my scenario would be a good idea? Do you need proper mates to make it worthwhile?

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    I would rent for the first year...so you get to be wild and free and gain that experience...but then maybe move back with your parents and save some money....Depends on your financial situation.....
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    I should have mentioned, im going into third year. This is why im worrying more about the lack of mates points and whether iv missed the boat with regards to living out. I have lived at home the previous years.
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    Lol...damn...yeah I would move out....but the question is...would you be living with other mates/people or just by yourself...
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    It would be with people, albiet people i have never met before.
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    Hey!

    I lived at home for my first year of uni....and felt unbelievably lonely and out of touch with my uni, because most of my 'home' friends were away at uni / busy with jobs I didnt really have anyone to hangout with! I also found it very difficult to make friends in the uni.

    I spent virtually all year at home alone miserable!

    Im moving out in September for my second year...even though like you I only live around 20mins from my uni!

    Im giving it a try....because if it goes horribly wrong...I can always move back home...yes ill loose money; but I dont want to spend all year thining hmm wish id moved out!

    If your not overly concerned about money id give moving out a go !

    Good luck with whatever you decide!!!!
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    Thanks for your reply. It is quite the same for me, I feel out of touch with my year. Quick question though, will you be moving in with people you lready know? And would knowing these people beforehand influence your decision? Its a big thing thats holding me back. Also, Im not sure if living with "randoms" will put me more in touch with my actual year group.
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    I dont know...it might be worth it to experience something a bit different. I guess if you respond to an ad there might be a chance to meet the people first and see if you would bond with them. A flatmate of mine in halls responded to an ad and went out for a drink with them to see if he would get on with them. Also do you get on with people on your course? Cus even if you didnt strike up any close friendships with the people that you live with at least living in a place in the city centre would give you the opportunity to socialise more and build up friendships with people that are just colleagues at the moment. I suppose sometimes it is worth taking the plunge because you will never find out otherwise. It would definately be an experience and might give you all sorts of opportunities to meet different people. You might regret not trying it.

    Good luck with what you decide anyway. I'm sure you will find some nice people to live with. I think you sound lovely
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    I worried about this a lot before making the decision to move out!

    Im moving in with randoms...(because of living at home in my first year I havent really made any friends, / I dont have anyone I know well enough to omve in with).

    I replied to an advertisment for a housemate....and went to view the house etc;
    Ive yet to actually meet the people living there.

    If im honest moving in with people I dont know is worrying me a lot! Im worried I wont get on with them etc; Its made me a lot more hesitant about moving out. If I was moving in with a group of friends / people I know well id probably be a lot more excited about moving out and stuff...

    Whats really pushed me to want to move out is the fact ive been so ridiculously lonely all year. Im worried / nervous / scared im making the wrong decision etc;...but I absolutly cannot have another lonely year like this one! I know if i stay at home...the chances of me making friends are slim. If I move out im at least putting myself out there to try and make friends and stuff...

    Im not too sure if that makes sense (am tired lol)! ButI understand EXACTLY where your coming from because im in the same situation!

    I think if your lonely / out of touch / miserable now...giving moving out a go is a good idea! I mean it'll help you meet more people and feel more involved in the uni!
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    (Original post by *~ Kate ~*)
    Hey!

    I lived at home for my first year of uni....and felt unbelievably lonely and out of touch with my uni, because most of my 'home' friends were away at uni / busy with jobs I didnt really have anyone to hangout with! I also found it very difficult to make friends in the uni.

    I spent virtually all year at home alone miserable!

    Im moving out in September for my second year...even though like you I only live around 20mins from my uni!

    Im giving it a try....because if it goes horribly wrong...I can always move back home...yes ill loose money; but I dont want to spend all year thining hmm wish id moved out!

    If your not overly concerned about money id give moving out a go !

    Good luck with whatever you decide!!!!
    wow I didnt think that would be the case - not making friends - considering you live quite close to the uni so you could still be able to hang out with them. Im gonna have to commute by train, about 45 mins to get to my firm choice.
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    (Original post by Vixen)
    I dont know...it might be worth it to experience something a bit different. I guess if you respond to an ad there might be a chance to meet the people first and see if you would bond with them. A flatmate of mine in halls responded to an ad and went out for a drink with them to see if he would get on with them. Also do you get on with people on your course? Cus even if you didnt strike up any close friendships with the people that you live with at least living in a place in the city centre would give you the opportunity to socialise more and build up friendships with people that are just colleagues at the moment. I suppose sometimes it is worth taking the plunge because you will never find out otherwise. It would definitely be an experience and might give you all sorts of opportunities to meet different people. You might regret not trying it.

    Good luck with what you decide anyway. I'm sure you will find some nice people to live with. I think you sound lovely
    Hello, thanks for your comments and taking the time to reply to my thread.

    As for your question about getting on with people in my course - i "get on" with some people, ie i can talk to different people during class times, but outside of that i dont talk to anyone, i literally have no contact with anyone in my 350 person year over the summer hols for example, via mobile, fb, bebo...etc.. Its holding me back a little with regards to moving out - part of me thinks im looking for an excuse as to why im sturggling at the minute, and im worried it wont improve the situation at all -after all, even if i didnt go out partying with them, i should still have some mates i could contact for coffee or stuff yea? But alas no, noone.
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    wow I didnt think that would be the case - not making friends - considering you live quite close to the uni so you could still be able to hang out with them. Im gonna have to commute by train, about 45 mins to get to my firm choice.
    You'll be fine!

    I had trouble making friends because I started uni late! I originally went to the University of Liverpool but left because I wasnt really enjoying my course.

    I moved to a uni closer to home...but because the uni was close to home I couldnt get accomodation!

    By the time I started at the uni people had already formed friendship groups and stuff so I had a hard time fitting in! Im shy too...so that didnt really help matters!
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    (Original post by WibbleWooble)
    Hello, thanks for your comments and taking the time to reply to my thread.

    As for your question about getting on with people in my course - i "get on" with some people, ie i can talk to different people during class times, but outside of that i dont talk to anyone, i literally have no contact with anyone in my 350 person year over the summer hols for example, via mobile, fb, bebo...etc.. Its holding me back a little with regards to moving out - part of me thinks im looking for an excuse as to why im sturggling at the minute, and im worried it wont improve the situation at all -after all, even if i didnt go out partying with them, i should still have some mates i could contact for coffee or stuff yea? But alas no, noone.
    Thats ok

    Is there anyone on your course you think you could get closer to? Like after a lecture ask them if they would like to go for a coffee? I know thats easier said than done though, spesh if you dont know people very well. Is there any other ways you fancy making friends? Like an societies/clubs you could join? Dont feel bad about not getting close to people on your course though, sometimes you just dont bond with people.

    What uni do you go to? And do you know what type of accommodation is available? Is it all houses? A girl on my course moved into private halls for her 3rd year. There was a mixture freshers, 2nd and 3rd years in her flat. Do you have anything like that near your uni? Halls tend to have a more sociable atmosphere and its more likely that people will be moving into them alone.
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    I'm going to have to stay at home really, hope I make friends ok. I'm going to do a course at Brackenhurst at Nottingham Trent Uni. I live very near the actual city(short bus journey) and that is obviously where everyone will go to socialise but the actual campus is about 30-40 mins out of Nottingham but there is a bus there. Hopefully some people will be in a similar situation, like living at home or having accommodation in the city itself so will also be getting that bus. Hope I'm not alone!

    I'd think about moving out but:

    A) Best friend lives with me, don't want to leave them really.

    B) I can't take all my exotic pets with me and I can't expect my mum to look after them, no way do I want to have to get rid of them all since it would destroy a hobby of mine.
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    (Original post by Vixen)
    Thats ok

    Is there anyone on your course you think you could get closer to? Like after a lecture ask them if they would like to go for a coffee? I know thats easier said than done though, spesh if you dont know people very well. Is there any other ways you fancy making friends? Like an societies/clubs you could join? Dont feel bad about not getting close to people on your course though, sometimes you just dont bond with people.

    What uni do you go to? And do you know what type of accommodation is available? Is it all houses? A girl on my course moved into private halls for her 3rd year. There was a mixture freshers, 2nd and 3rd years in her flat. Do you have anything like that near your uni? Halls tend to have a more sociable atmosphere and its more likely that people will be moving into them alone.
    Well, not really. Most people just go with their seperate ways after class really, i do medicine so most people are shattered and just go home. To add to that, this year we are on placements so are in small groups - could go either way really. Oh, adn theres 350 in my year, so the not bonding thing doesnt really hold much water with my scenario.


    Id prefer not to say my uni name in case people i know are reading, but the halls are only big enough for first years, and a handful of second years, so it isnt really an option. I really do think its house with randoms or stay at home, although it would do no harm to inquire.
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    (Original post by WibbleWooble)
    Well, not really. Most people just go with their seperate ways after class really, i do medicine so most people are shattered and just go home. To add to that, this year we are on placements so are in small groups - could go either way really.


    Id prefer not to say my uni name in case people i know are reading, but the halls are only big enough for first years, and a handful of second years, so it isnt really an option. I really do think its house with randoms or stay at home, although it would do no harm to inquire.
    Woah, medicine. Yeah, I guess the hours would be pretty long :eek:

    Is there any halls that are not owned by the uni but in the city centre?? The ones I was on about were privately owned but exactly the same as uni halls and anyone could apply for them. That was in Cardiff though so I dunno if they do that sort of thing anywhere else.

    How long is your course? 5 or 6 years is it?? You could move out for 1 year and see how it goes I suppose. I guess it would be worth looking through some ads and seeing what sort of people are advertising
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    (Original post by Vixen)
    Woah, medicine. Yeah, I guess the hours would be pretty long :eek:

    Is there any halls that are not owned by the uni but in the city centre?? The ones I was on about were privately owned but exactly the same as uni halls and anyone could apply for them. That was in Cardiff though so I dunno if they do that sort of thing anywhere else.

    How long is your course? 5 or 6 years is it?? You could move out for 1 year and see how it goes I suppose. I guess it would be worth looking through some ads and seeing what sort of people are advertising
    Theres nout that im aware of, no. And ive had a glance round gumtree, some decent listings in the area around the place. Not sure where else to look aside from the papers though. And its 5 years long, im going into third.
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    Apologies for bumping, but im hoping ill get more responses during the day time.
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    (Original post by WibbleWooble)
    Ok so i have a decision to make and im looking for some advice/opinions/whatever.

    Im thinking about moving out next year, moving into the town centre where i go to uni. At the minute i am living outside the city, abuot 20 mins away by car. I do drive so travel for uni isnt an issue, but i find it hard to do student things at night not being in the actual city. I live rent free with my parents. I dont really have many mates at the minute and im thinking this could be a change i need, however as outlined below im not sure if its a good thing.

    There are the obvious plusses abuot living in a student house of course - more freedom, partying etc etc... but im slightly worrid about it for a few reasons:

    1) I dont have many friends, so i know noone to share with. If i do move it it will have to be via an ad somewhere and ill have to live with randoms.

    2) living in the city will cost me more than it would to stay at home (although this isnt a major concern of mine)

    3) At the minute i dont really go out much as i dont have many mates, so im worried ill just end up sitting on my arse all day and night on my own.

    What would people do? Can they offer an opinion or their experiences of moving out and whether me in my scenario would be a good idea? Do you need proper mates to make it worthwhile?

    thanks

    You say you dont have any mates but you are worried about moving in with randoms?

    Usually the only way to meet friends is not knowing them before i.e. you dont just order friends off the internet lol.

    My advice is move in to the city/town and meet as many new people as you can. I was in the exact same position as you 3 or so years ago, lived 30 mins from city out in the country and all of my friends lived in the city and i hated having to rely on other people for everything like staying out. I moved in with a new mate i worked with and I had the best 6 months of my life. Got into a serious relationship with a girl i met then moved in with her and wish i had of stayed single and living with my mate.

    invite people round, have parties, have drinks before going out and stuff like that. freedom is awesome

    now get looking for a pad! :yep:
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    Fair points - just to clarify though, by not knowing people, i meant most people usually get to know people before they live with them through other means, eg same year at uni etc.

    Im just worried that the main reason im doing this is becuase i currently have no friends, and im thinking that this will solve my problem. Whereas in reality it wont, its just going to be the same problem with me living in a different place. Living in town isnt going to get me friends.
 
 
 
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