Ok so i have a decision to make and im looking for some advice/opinions/whatever.
Im thinking about moving out next year, moving into the town centre where i go to uni. At the minute i am living outside the city, abuot 20 mins away by car. I do drive so travel for uni isnt an issue, but i find it hard to do student things at night not being in the actual city. I live rent free with my parents. I dont really have many mates at the minute and im thinking this could be a change i need, however as outlined below im not sure if its a good thing.
There are the obvious plusses abuot living in a student house of course - more freedom, partying etc etc... but im slightly worrid about it for a few reasons:
1) I dont have many friends, so i know noone to share with. If i do move it it will have to be via an ad somewhere and ill have to live with randoms.
2) living in the city will cost me more than it would to stay at home (although this isnt a major concern of mine)
3) At the minute i dont really go out much as i dont have many mates, so im worried ill just end up sitting on my arse all day and night on my own.
What would people do? Can they offer an opinion or their experiences of moving out and whether me in my scenario would be a good idea? Do you need proper mates to make it worthwhile?
I would rent for the first year...so you get to be wild and free and gain that experience...but then maybe move back with your parents and save some money....Depends on your financial situation.....
I should have mentioned, im going into third year. This is why im worrying more about the lack of mates points and whether iv missed the boat with regards to living out. I have lived at home the previous years.
Lol...damn...yeah I would move out....but the question is...would you be living with other mates/people or just by yourself...
It would be with people, albiet people i have never met before.
Thanks for your reply. It is quite the same for me, I feel out of touch with my year. Quick question though, will you be moving in with people you lready know? And would knowing these people beforehand influence your decision? Its a big thing thats holding me back. Also, Im not sure if living with "randoms" will put me more in touch with my actual year group.
I worried about this a lot before making the decision to move out!
Im moving in with randoms...(because of living at home in my first year I havent really made any friends, / I dont have anyone I know well enough to omve in with).
I replied to an advertisment for a housemate....and went to view the house etc;
Ive yet to actually meet the people living there.
If im honest moving in with people I dont know is worrying me a lot! Im worried I wont get on with them etc; Its made me a lot more hesitant about moving out. If I was moving in with a group of friends / people I know well id probably be a lot more excited about moving out and stuff...
Whats really pushed me to want to move out is the fact ive been so ridiculously lonely all year. Im worried / nervous / scared im making the wrong decision etc;...but I absolutly cannot have another lonely year like this one! I know if i stay at home...the chances of me making friends are slim. If I move out im at least putting myself out there to try and make friends and stuff...
Im not too sure if that makes sense (am tired lol)! ButI understand EXACTLY where your coming from because im in the same situation!
I think if your lonely / out of touch / miserable now...giving moving out a go is a good idea! I mean it'll help you meet more people and feel more involved in the uni!
Apologies for bumping, but im hoping ill get more responses during the day time.
Fair points - just to clarify though, by not knowing people, i meant most people usually get to know people before they live with them through other means, eg same year at uni etc.
Im just worried that the main reason im doing this is becuase i currently have no friends, and im thinking that this will solve my problem. Whereas in reality it wont, its just going to be the same problem with me living in a different place. Living in town isnt going to get me friends.