Muslims, am I allowed to go to my white friends funeral?

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That's so ****** up

So no? Urgh, the free-mixing was only because of school (didn't get into any of the local girls schools - but boy am i glad xD) but I really doubt they'll split up the men and women there..

Urgh, it's almost impossible for me to go at the moment, and i feel like total ****

Are you actually a Muslim..? Having Muslim parents doesn't mean you automatically are a Muslim.

Well im a muslim and i dont think there is any harm in attending his funeral. He was your friend afterall and you do owe him.....I would say go, if your dad finds out, well you can deal with that later.

Sounds like it's not much to do with religion, it's more to do with the fact your dad is a complete ****.

My best friend died of cancer recently (at only the age of 15) and his funeral is going to be next week. I was so shocked when I heard the news, he meant so much to me and I haven't stopped crying since.

But my dad always shouts at me when he sees me crying in my bed (when I think I'm alone and just let everything out). Apparently 'he's just a white man, what does he mean to you?' I'm not allowed to argue back, to argue that regardless of colour, race, religion, whatever I am totally hurt and genuinely really really saddened by his death, it hurts so much because I'm meant to be 'daddy's good little girl who cooks and cleans and stays at home'. URGH, it makes me so angry ...

'Your brothers in Palestine are being murdered every day and do you cry then?'

That's all he ever drills in me, but what the hell do random men in Palestine have to do with me?!?

And now he's not letting me go to his funeral because of our cultural/religious differences apparently and the fact that he's male

But Muslims, is he actually allowed to do this?? Is there anything in the Quran that says we can't go to others' funerals??

Yes you can go but you're not (obviously) allowed to take part in any religious ceremony. The fact that he is male and you female is irrelevant once a person dies. There is little chance of you two fraternising or becoming pregnant with a dead man.

You don't think she'd regret passing up a chance to say goodbye to her friend "for a very long time"? If she disobeys her father and he flips out, there will (hopefully) be many years left for her to try and rectify the damage caused, and then if he won't make amends then she knows he's not worth bothering with. If she doesn't go to her friend's funeral, she can't ever change that or make the situation right.

OP, go to your friend's funeral if it's what you want to do. I respect religion as a whole, but this is ****** up beyond belief. Why implicitly condone such abhorrent racism and let your father think you'll submit every time he has a possessive hissy fit?

I think (Even though I went to a mixed school) is arguing that I'll be 'mixing with men' (albeit mourning men) there... it just seems like a pointless argument that will never go anywhere, unless I just pluck up the courage to just lie and go (which I think I'll probably just do)

Thanks anyway