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cant cope with my dad
Me and my dad row ALL the time. he always acts irrationally if I do the slightest thing wrong. Like once, i tried to have a conversation with him (he'd just come in from work) he then proceeded to yell at me and tried to push me and said "Cant you just stop annoying me?" I was only asking him how work was and being inquisitive for fu(ks sake!
Other time he hides my car keys from me even though he knows I have sixth form in the morning, deliberately says things to upset me and just generally treats me like crap.
I dont know what to do cos my mum is scared of him so wont confront him and my grandparents just say that things will change in time,
He makes my life a misery and I can honestly say I cannot WAIT until uni when I can escape him... but hes threatening to ruin that as well cos he wont fill out the student finance forms.
what can I do?
Other time he hides my car keys from me even though he knows I have sixth form in the morning, deliberately says things to upset me and just generally treats me like crap.
I dont know what to do cos my mum is scared of him so wont confront him and my grandparents just say that things will change in time,
He makes my life a misery and I can honestly say I cannot WAIT until uni when I can escape him... but hes threatening to ruin that as well cos he wont fill out the student finance forms.
what can I do?
aw mate that sounds tough-
i can kind of relate to you even though my dad doesnt do things like that he does act irrationally in other ways. The fact is no-one else can really understand your situation because its your own. Just look forward to uni and make sure your mums ok with him (it sounds a bit worrying). look after her,
xx
i can kind of relate to you even though my dad doesnt do things like that he does act irrationally in other ways. The fact is no-one else can really understand your situation because its your own. Just look forward to uni and make sure your mums ok with him (it sounds a bit worrying). look after her,
xx
That sounds horrible. Could you not ask a friend of his to have a word with him? Your family don't sound too supportive, so perhaps you should take it elsewhere. Maybe your school/college coud help with the finance side. He should know better, as an adult and as a parent. Do you know if he has problems at work or something that are making him grouchy? Nobody acts like that without reason. Good luck with getting help, I hope everything turns out ok. 
If you can't get a loan you can stay in my room while i'm at Uni :P
BUt seriously, try and let it go over your head.
Are you close with ur mum and or siblings?
BUt seriously, try and let it go over your head.
Are you close with ur mum and or siblings?
He acts like he does because him and my mum are having problems, a bit complicated! But he takes it out on me cos Im the nearest thing to take it out on i guess.
Dont get me wrong on the odd day he can be normal and pleasant, its just the majority of the time he cant control his temper. Plus for some reason he treats my brother fine (my brother never confronts him when he does someting irrational). Because Im the only person in the house who stands up to him im the one he takes it out on.
The thread I wrote may sound like he hits me, but he doesnt do anything like that, its just the things he says and does really
Dont get me wrong on the odd day he can be normal and pleasant, its just the majority of the time he cant control his temper. Plus for some reason he treats my brother fine (my brother never confronts him when he does someting irrational). Because Im the only person in the house who stands up to him im the one he takes it out on.
The thread I wrote may sound like he hits me, but he doesnt do anything like that, its just the things he says and does really
That sounds exactly like my relationship with my mum... right down to the student finance forms. Really grinds you down, right? You have my utmost sympathy.
I'm just trying to stay quiet and hope she comes round... sorry, it's not very helpful is it? But if you need to talk... PM me or something, I'll add you to my MSN.
Hope it improves.
skevvybritt x
I'm just trying to stay quiet and hope she comes round... sorry, it's not very helpful is it? But if you need to talk... PM me or something, I'll add you to my MSN.
Hope it improves.
skevvybritt x
i dont know about your dad, but when my parents are picking on me or being nasty or whatever, i eventually get really riled up then flip out and start shouting then start crying. if you cry, maybe he'll see how much he's hurting you?
or you could play up the guilt and say "why are you being so nasty to me? you're supposed to love your children not bully them".
i dunno if they'd work or if they'd be suitable, but that's what i'd do.
or you could play up the guilt and say "why are you being so nasty to me? you're supposed to love your children not bully them".
i dunno if they'd work or if they'd be suitable, but that's what i'd do.
jeni8686
Me and my dad row ALL the time. he always acts irrationally if I do the slightest thing wrong. Like once, i tried to have a conversation with him (he'd just come in from work) he then proceeded to yell at me and tried to push me and said "Cant you just stop annoying me?" I was only asking him how work was and being inquisitive for fu(ks sake!
Other time he hides my car keys from me even though he knows I have sixth form in the morning, deliberately says things to upset me and just generally treats me like crap.
I dont know what to do cos my mum is scared of him so wont confront him and my grandparents just say that things will change in time,
He makes my life a misery and I can honestly say I cannot WAIT until uni when I can escape him... but hes threatening to ruin that as well cos he wont fill out the student finance forms. what can I do?
Other time he hides my car keys from me even though he knows I have sixth form in the morning, deliberately says things to upset me and just generally treats me like crap.
I dont know what to do cos my mum is scared of him so wont confront him and my grandparents just say that things will change in time,
He makes my life a misery and I can honestly say I cannot WAIT until uni when I can escape him... but hes threatening to ruin that as well cos he wont fill out the student finance forms.
what can I do?exactly the same with me with my dad. hes really annoying in the way if i come in the dining room for breakfast he will immediatly say ur looking fat/tubby or huge today (depending on his mood) always trying to pick a fight. and like you i cant have a civilised convo with him. i try talking to him and he either dosent respond or starts shouting at me for something. and i always get the blame if he loses something (he lost his camera the other day and blamed me)
i have the same situation with student finance forms.....but everyone is telling me that he will fill them out adventually. (cuz believe it or not dads so have a bit of kindness in them)
i envy u for putting up with it....its so hard.
Cazzi_Bear
exactly the same with me with my dad. hes really annoying in the way if i come in the dining room for breakfast he will immediatly say ur looking fat/tubby or huge today (depending on his mood) always trying to pick a fight. and like you i cant have a civilised convo with him. i try talking to him and he either dosent respond or starts shouting at me for something. and i always get the blame if he loses something (he lost his camera the other day and blamed me)
i have the same situation with student finance forms.....but everyone is telling me that he will fill them out adventually. (cuz believe it or not dads so have a bit of kindness in them)
i envy u for putting up with it....its so hard.
i have the same situation with student finance forms.....but everyone is telling me that he will fill them out adventually. (cuz believe it or not dads so have a bit of kindness in them)
i envy u for putting up with it....its so hard.
yeah, he blames me for every little thing! like if he loses something, its always "my fault"!! Ive decided Im not gonna bother trying to get him to change cos he wont. il just wait until he fills out the finance forms and then Ill be on my way really !!
jeni8686
yeah, he blames me for every little thing! like if he loses something, its always "my fault"!! Ive decided Im not gonna bother trying to get him to change cos he wont. il just wait until he fills out the finance forms and then Ill be on my way really !!
yeh.
have faith he will fill out the finance forms. i mean despite how dads are, most do actually care and dont want you to end up in a gutter somewhere.
im stuck with mine for another year as im working for a year before uni....
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