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    Ive never really found it hard to make friends throughout my school life... but the problem with me is that I simply never go out because I'm just not comfortable with clubbing or whatever.

    To tell you the truth, I'm pretty much a nerd - all I do is game, and I've got plenty of friends from simply doing that, but after spending so many years of gaming, I'm not sure if I'll be able to cope in the real world when I go to university.

    I really need advice, I'm just avoiding it and pushing it away when I should be working on it for the next few weeks and months.
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    There are plenty of similar people at uni, probably even a gaming soc or something. Once you get to uni everyone will have to make new friends, so it's not like you'll have to go out on a limb. There are plenty of people that don't want to go to clubs and have other ways of socialising.

    If it's advice you want I'd say don't spend 3 years of uni gaming, you can do that anywhere, try to do the things that you won't have the opportunity to do after you graduate.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ive never really found it hard to make friends throughout my school life... but the problem with me is that I simply never go out because I'm just not comfortable with clubbing or whatever.

    To tell you the truth, I'm pretty much a nerd - all I do is game, and I've got plenty of friends from simply doing that, but after spending so many years of gaming, I'm not sure if I'll be able to cope in the real world when I go to university.

    I really need advice, I'm just avoiding it and pushing it away when I should be working on it for the next few weeks and months.
    In fresher's week you won't have time to game, there's so much stuff going on your feet probably won't touch the ground.

    At uni you have a chance to completely reinvent yourself, everyone is in the same boat (You will hear that a million times before you get to uni and when you finally arrive there aswell...) but it's true. Everyone else is nervous about leaving their comfort zone aswell.

    Don't panic about not being able to "cope" with the "real" world at uni. Uni still isn't a "real" world, you're living with your friends (flatmates and whoever else you meet on your travels) away fromyour parents. You'll find you get completely caught up in uni life and you don't realise there's actually anything going on outside your halls or campus

    As for nt feeling comfortable in a clubbing environment, you'll find uni clubs are VERRRRY different to ones you go in at home. I'm at Nottingham Trent and Oceana is for the people who want to get dressed up and Ocean is like the grimiest club ever where everyone goes in fancy dress every week and just wants to get messy and have a good time. There will be a club or a bar or a set of them that you will fall in love with visiting so don't worry and if it's still not appealing, societies and clubs will hold meetings where you can still socialise without the vast amount of drunk people and loud music.

    There's no way you can prepare for uni really just go with an open mind xo
 
 
 
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