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    (Original post by Bludclotzz)
    how do you know ?
    because she said
    "Originally Posted by Anonymous
    The sad thing is most of the things you've suggested i've already tried, but thanks anyway. I've tried dressing up, porn(even though i didn't want to), being dominant, being naked.EVETHING I CAN THINK OF. I also had a few talks with him but he's insisting he still finds me attractive etc etc, but it hurts being rejected every time i try, and he knows exactly how i feel. Any more ideas? "

    There's no other explanation :p:
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    Don't put out for a few weeks, she how he likes it.
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    tbh it sounds like its nothing you've done or not doing..because you're trying everything! I think it's him with the issue. It seems unfair that its only on his terms and you should maybe tell him this? I don't know what to suggest really.
    It ould be that he just doesn't want that much anymore and he's content and is perfectly happy with things, or it could be something in the relationship or it could be something else unrelated to your relationship. Maybe just tell him your concerns and ask if he's noticed and what he thinks about it etc..?
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    (Original post by Ice_Queen)
    With Tom it's easy. Sleep naked.
    Crazy coincidencesince it's my name and my persona!
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    Ahhh this really sucks. I don't think he's gay... He likes porn, lesbian porn especially, and when we do stuff he seems really into it... i guess that means the only thing left is that im the problem. Cheers for trying any more ideas welcome!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ahhh this really sucks. I don't think he's gay... He likes porn, lesbian porn especially, and when we do stuff he seems really into it... i guess that means the only thing left is that im the problem. Cheers for trying any more ideas welcome!
    nah really, it sounds like its him not you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The sad thing is most of the things you've suggested i've already tried, but thanks anyway. I've tried dressing up, porn(even though i didn't want to), being dominant, being naked.EVETHING I CAN THINK OF. I also had a few talks with him but he's insisting he still finds me attractive etc etc, but it hurts being rejected every time i try, and he knows exactly how i feel. Any more ideas?
    Doesn't sound fair on you tbph. Why don't you dress up, preferably something which looks sophisticated yet sexy. Whatever he decides, tell him you're off out, a girls night out or whatever. He'll be wanting you, so make him wait, show him what he's missing. :yes:
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    Cant beleive noones said this but... talk to him?
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    (Original post by mipegg)
    Cant beleive noones said this but... talk to him?
    Stupid idea :rolleyes:
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    I had this in the past with a guy, like you I was trying everything. I remember feeling really embarassed, as it seemed my own boyfriend wasn't even attracted to me when I was doing all this, the one person who is supposed to be, and I was making such an effort like you.

    Anyway turned out he'd found a lump in his testicle, he was really worried about it and it was putting him off sex. It turned out to be nothing, once I'd practically forced him to the doctor, and then it was fine after that. The point is the issue is going to be with him, not you. Whether it is medical, emotional, or whatever. I've had friends this has happened too as well, it's varied from things such as the guy not being in love with her anymore despite being attracted to her so felt guilty having sex still, as he felt like he was using her, another was two timing his gf and didn't have the energy/appetite for more sex. I had a male friend who, during a bout of depression, completely lost all his sex drive, and was so embarassed by it he never said anything and just let her think he wasn't attracted to her anymore. It could be a number of reasons, and sometimes lack of sex drive is a sensitive issue for guys, whatever the reason, as they think they're meant to be horny maniacs etc. This often makes them bad at communicating with their partner about this issue. He probably feels your frustration and it makes him feel worse, and close up even more.

    I don't think trying all these different things to get him to have sex with you is going to help, as his problem will still be there if you succeed or not - it clearly isn't an issue of him not being excited enough by you. Instead, just sit down (forget sex) and ask him if he has anything on his mind, as you feel he's been acting differently. Perhaps an issue will arise that is the root cause, whether he is aware of it or not.
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    (Original post by rscully)
    Don't put out for a few weeks, she how he likes it.
    :yes:
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    As others have said, it sounds like you need to talk to him about whether or not there something else on his mind, be it relationship based or not. Then hopefully the sex will return. It might be less painful for you and less stressful for him if you let him initiate (or not) sex for the time being until things are sorted out. I don't think this is as simple as turning up at his work in stockings unfortunately.
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    refuse to have sex with him at all until he's explained his behaviour?

    good luck
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    Make him a sandwich.
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    You have to seduce your own boyfriend? Loser.

    But there's a suggestion in the spoiler:

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    Talk to him in a David Attenborough voice
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    tie him down and put a sock into his mouth and then do what ever you want to do - he wont be able to SAY no and he wont be able to stop you. it's a veeery sexy move!
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    hmm maybe you've just reached that 'comfortable' stage in your relationship where u dont feel like you need to rip each others clothes off every minute?
    i dont think you should see it as offensive, he obviously considers this relationship to be far more important than just easy sex.
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    fart in his face, you'll become irresistable
 
 
 
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