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    There's the Girl that I like..
    Now more than ever, she give me butterflies
    She makes my stomach queezy every time she walks by..
    I know I can be cool if I try.

    There's the Girl that I like..
    Over there laughing with that smart--
    "Ey! You're holding up the god damn lunch line!"

    There's the Girl that I like..
    But now it appears that she likes another guy
    It must be because, he's political and stuff..
    I bet I could be political too!
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    Get her cell number or email account. Start the conversation like that to gain confidence and then pounce on her like a tiger.
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    I prefer confident girls tbh.
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    From a guys point of view, a girl lacking confidence in asking you out (as in less than they have usually, not a general low confidence), would not put me off. However it seems that confidence helps when asking out girls.
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    i'd probably find it endearing that you were nervous because it would make me feel like you cared a lot what i said. also presumably you'll know her well enough for her to realise you're not always so nervous? so i say go for it
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    just shag her all right.
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    (Original post by yellowpolkadotbikini)
    i'd probably find it endearing that you were nervous because it would make me feel like you cared a lot what i said. also presumably you'll know her well enough for her to realise you're not always so nervous? so i say go for it
    this!!
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    i suffer from the same sad predicament, i think its best to jst go for broke. i used to drink alot for dutch courage etc, then i noticed i started relyin on it so best thing is trial and error!
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    I have this exact same problem, let me know if you somehow manage to overcome it. It only creeps out during interviews, presentations and talking to girls I like....lol :rolleyes:
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    So..

    You like this girl..but its not typical because when you're around new people and feel like You're being judged you get nervous and shy. You're not normally like that, just in certain situations.

    How exactly is this atypical? - apologies if you have an actual condition, this reply is for if you've got whats commonly called approach anxiety.

    And nervousness isn't necessary for talking to new people in the slightest. You talk to new people most days, whether thats the bus driver, the receptionist at your college on the person on the tills at Sainsbury's. They are probably judging you too, but it doesn't affect you.

    Everyone gets nervous when they approach someone whose emotions they feel will have a bearing upon their life. This might be a boss, crush or loved one.

    The simple answer is to assess about yourself why you consider it that this person has that emotional power over you - especially seeing as, in this instance, its a girl you like from a distance, not a long term spouse.

    Is this person really 'better' than you, or have they done something to earn your nervousness? Probably not. So let it go. They are just 'any other person.'

    Once you realise you've got as much right to be confident in talking to new people as anyone else this anxiety you get about approaching attractive or interesting people subsides.
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    (Original post by meskell)
    There's the Girl that I like..
    But now it appears that she likes another guy
    It must be because, he's political and stuff..
    I bet I could be political too!
    So much win.
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    (Original post by Wanderlust)
    So..

    You like this girl..but its not typical because when you're around new people and feel like You're being judged you get nervous and shy. You're not normally like that, just in certain situations.

    How exactly is this atypical? - apologies if you have an actual condition, this reply is for if you've got whats commonly called approach anxiety.

    And nervousness isn't necessary for talking to new people in the slightest. You talk to new people most days, whether thats the bus driver, the receptionist at your college on the person on the tills at Sainsbury's. They are probably judging you too, but it doesn't affect you.

    Everyone gets nervous when they approach someone whose emotions they feel will have a bearing upon their life. This might be a boss, crush or loved one.

    The simple answer is to assess about yourself why you consider it that this person has that emotional power over you - especially seeing as, in this instance, its a girl you like from a distance, not a long term spouse.

    Is this person really 'better' than you, or have they done something to earn your nervousness? Probably not. So let it go. They are just 'any other person.'

    Once you realise you've got as much right to be confident in talking to new people as anyone else this anxiety you get about approaching attractive or interesting people subsides.
    I think you hit the nail on the head, rather wonderfully. You've certainly made me feel a lot better! I just hope I can hold this mindset, lol. Would rep but understandably mine won't do much good.

    BTW, can you be my counsellor, lol :p:
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    Thank you everyone particularly wanderlust and yellowpolkadotbikini your advice was very helpful and encouraging.
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    (Original post by thatrollingstone)
    I have this exact same problem, let me know if you somehow manage to overcome it. It only creeps out during interviews, presentations and talking to girls I like....lol :rolleyes:
    I’ve tried many things before like imagining their friends or family who I confidently talk too, taking a deep breath etc but they never seem to work. I hope I do eventually overcome it and I hope you do too.
 
 
 
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