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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    There are quite a few occasions where men are maligned for being picky.

    E.g. when one of the female friends of the female who for some reason fancies the disinterested male object of desire informs the said male of the woman's desires and encourages him to 'make a move'. When the said male does not make any such move because he well...just doesn't feel the need, questions are asked as to why and accusations may be made of his excessive selectivity, etc.

    Maybe the women who bounce on many rods are maligned mainly only by the people who they are cheating upon? If a horny woman who enjoys being penetrated wasn't anybody's partner and sought out many penises it wouldn't really affect men at all (since she would be unattached as oposed to in a relationship).

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    Just because you can think up one particular occasion where a man may be maligned for being picky doesn't mean that men are generally maligned for being picky or maligned for it any more than women are.

    Your second paragraph makes no sense, of course women who cheat on their partners are criticised for it by their partners. Women who aren't in a relationship and have casual sex are usually maligned whereas their male counterparts aren't, that's why these women are often insulted for it using words like slut, **** etc. whereas men are praised for it e.g. playa, G etc.
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    (Original post by rlw31)
    Just because you can think up one particular occasion where a man may be maligned for being picky doesn't mean that men are generally maligned for being picky or maligned for it any more than women are.

    Your second paragraph makes no sense, of course women who cheat on their partners are criticised for it by their partners. Women who aren't in a relationship and have casual sex are usually maligned whereas their male counterparts aren't, that's why these women are often insulted for it using words like slut, **** etc. whereas men are praised for it e.g. playa, G etc.
    I don't understand why this is to be honest. I have never called anyone a sl*g in my life because I have never been in a relationshippy so if x or y woman slept with many people it wouldn't affect me at all, would it?

    I thought that gender equality operated in the UK, no?

    Why dont' you start branding men who sleep around (who are not in relationshippies) sluts to make things more equal?

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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    I thought men can be considered sluts.

    I'm not saying that women shouldn't be picky - it's fine. But men should be entitled to be equally (if not more) picky if that is how they wish to be and should not be maligned for it - at the end of the day that affects their probability of getting a partner and the 'quality' of the said partner too.

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    Who is stopping you from being picky, exactly?
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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    I don't understand why this is to be honest. I have never called anyone a sl*g in my life because I have never been in a relationshippy so if x or y woman slept with many people it wouldn't affect me at all, would it?

    I thought that gender equality operated in the UK, no?

    Why dont' you start branding men who sleep around (who are not in relationshippies) sluts to make things more equal?

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    I didn't say you did, but just because you don't, doesn't mean than many others(both male and female) don't, or that they don't praise/respect men who do the same thing.

    Gender equality does operate in the UK, with regards to employment, not so for people's opinions or right to free speech.

    I'm not going to start branding men who engage in casual sex whilst not in relationships as sluts just to make things more equal. I don't think there's anything wrong with casual sex(outside of relationships) provided that it's safe.
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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    Why do you think this is?

    Inspired by the thread on 'women's turn-off's in guys'

    If we thought more rationally about people we fancied or not there would be less pain in the future.

    Do you think that men aren't allowed to be as picky as they prefer?

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    it shouldn't be.

    anybody should be entitled to any preference they want.
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    (Original post by blondyx)
    If a man see's a fit girl, he will want to shag her. For alot of men, they can have sex without having any feelings for her. Guy's find it very hard to say no to sex
    When you say 'fit' do you mean that the man who sees her is highly sexually attracted to her? Or do you mean that she fits society's general view of female beauty?

    Again, I very much doubt that these men you talk off are especially common. Granted, maybe a male virgin who is curious about sex may be very tempted when a drunk lady propositions him but when he learns that sex with a drunk may feel not too different from sex with a dead body the chances are he will learn to refrain sometimes (unless he is heavily intoxicated as well).

    E.g. En route to work on Fri evenings I see many stereotypically attractive women but I have never felt the urge to 'shag' them - otherwise I would have acted on that urge - on the other hand I am able to acknowledge that they may be considered attractive - see what I'm saying?

    And do you reckon that a completely sober man would REALLY be unable to refuse sex with a very very drunk and possibly nearly unconsciuos woman?

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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    When you say 'fit' do you mean that the man who sees her is highly sexually attracted to her? Or do you mean that she fits society's general view of female beauty?

    Again, I very much doubt that these men you talk off are especially common. Granted, maybe a male virgin who is curious about sex may be very tempted when a drunk lady propositions him but when he learns that sex with a drunk may feel not too different from sex with a dead body the chances are he will learn to refrain sometimes (unless he is heavily intoxicated as well).

    E.g. En route to work on Fri evenings I see many stereotypically attractive women but I have never felt the urge to 'shag' them - otherwise I would have acted on that urge - on the other hand I am able to acknowledge that they may be considered attractive - see what I'm saying?

    And do you reckon that a completely sober man would REALLY be unable to refuse sex with a very very drunk and possibly nearly unconsciuos woman?

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    fit as in, nice legs, big boobs, nice bum.. typical attractice women.

    When i say want to shag them... i mean think about it. obviously alot fof people wouldnt act on it even if they were thinking about it. Its not always practical

    I didn't say anything about sober men and extremely drunk. In those circumstances it would properly be different

    If men wern't so sexually driven they wouldn't watch porn and ****.
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    This is one topic I might be slightly biased about. But generally for women they get to say the yes/no in a relationship from the man asking her out to say choosing a film. Generally the man wants the women to be happy and plays along with what she wants. Its kind of sad that the man has to do most of the work and will also be the one rejected in the event of an unsuccessful attempt to ask a women out. It is sometimes frustrating and I do think this is partly having an effect on the increase of gay men. Ok people dont agree with me but if you dont think about it carefully.
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    rule of thumb - generally those that have had the least number of girlfriends are generally more stable and better to have as a partner. These are normally the people than women think, "oh hes just a nice guy", but infact he would be much better than the guy with the big biceps and more.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    rule of thumb - generally those that have had the least number of girlfriends are generally more stable and better to have as a partner. These are normally the people than women think, "oh hes just a nice guy", but infact he would be much better than the guy with the big biceps and more.
    Haha, I've never had a firlgriend but doubt I could be a 'stable' or 'better' partner - I'd spend most of my time in the workplace or in front of a computer screen.

    Can't nice guys have big biceps and tough six-packs?

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    (Original post by blondyx)
    fit as in, nice legs, big boobs, nice bum.. typical attractice women.

    When i say want to shag them... i mean think about it. obviously alot fof people wouldnt act on it even if they were thinking about it. Its not always practical

    I didn't say anything about sober men and extremely drunk. In those circumstances it would properly be different

    If men wern't so sexually driven they wouldn't watch porn and ****.
    I don't think I'd want to 'shag' them to be honest. Even if I see a very attractive woman I just acknowledge the attractiveness (i.e. turn my head - look a little longer maybe) but I certainly don't think about them in bed at all!

    Sure men have sex drives and all that but porn is just about pleasuring oneself - they just use the porn to turn themselves on - I doubt many viewers actually think about 'shagging' the woman in question.

    When you see an attractive man do you visualize yourself bouncing on him?

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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    I don't think I'd want to 'shag' them to be honest. Even if I see a very attractive woman I just acknowledge the attractiveness (i.e. turn my head - look a little longer maybe) but I certainly don't think about them in bed at all!

    Sure men have sex drives and all that but porn is just about pleasuring oneself - they just use the porn to turn themselves on - I doubt many viewers actually think about 'shagging' the woman in question.

    When you see an attractive man do you visualize yourself bouncing on him?

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    aren't you the asexual guy anyway?
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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    I don't think I'd want to 'shag' them to be honest. Even if I see a very attractive woman I just acknowledge the attractiveness (i.e. turn my head - look a little longer maybe) but I certainly don't think about them in bed at all!

    Sure men have sex drives and all that but porn is just about pleasuring oneself - they just use the porn to turn themselves on - I doubt many viewers actually think about 'shagging' the woman in question.

    When you see an attractive man do you visualize yourself bouncing on him?

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    They will be thinking about sex and a womans body though which is turning them on.

    No i don't visualise that, im a woman. my point is that men and women see sex very differently.

    Btw, i saw on your profile you may be asexual.. so you are not that into sex anyway
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    (Original post by blondyx)
    They will be thinking about sex and a womans body though which is turning them on.

    No i don't visualise that, im a woman. my point is that men and women see sex very differently.

    Btw, i saw on your profile you may be asexual.. so you are not that into sex anyway
    Yes, I have a low sex drive but I have still viewed pornography so I know what I'm talking about.

    If men were really thinking about sex then they would maybe possibly have an erection and that is very very unlikely in public.

    Tbh, I (and many men with higher sex drives) would still look at a stunningly attractive woman (instinct) but wouldn't actually FANTASIZE about sex with them - at least not on a conscious level! I promise.

    Maybe men may think about having sex with the said woman in a sexually charged environment (e.g. if the 2 people were in a club/bedroom but not in a public place).

    So what would you do if you saw a very attractive man? If you wouldn't think abuot bouncing on him would you just stare (but not view it sexually)?

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    (Original post by Danielle89)
    I feel the opposite - seeing a guy just now and I really really like him but I see it as his decision as to whether he's interested and dont understand why he does seem to be interested in me because he's so much better looking and so much more interesting a person lol. I suppose girls are never happy haha
    I think this too. Looking at what's going on in the media, especially with Strictly Come Dancing, and also This Morning, it seems that once the woman is old and no longer as good looking, she is more easily disposable of than a man of the same age. It also appears this way if you look at footballers and other rich and famous men. They can get whatever girl they like because they have the money and power. However it's usually the more physically attractive the person is, the more picky they can be, regardless of sex
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    (Original post by xps.systems)
    Yes, I have a low sex drive but I have still viewed pornography so I know what I'm talking about.

    If men were really thinking about sex then they would maybe possibly have an erection and that is very very unlikely in public.

    Tbh, I (and many men with higher sex drives) would still look at a stunningly attractive woman (instinct) but wouldn't actually FANTASIZE about sex with them - at least not on a conscious level! I promise.

    Maybe men may think about having sex with the said woman in a sexually charged environment (e.g. if the 2 people were in a club/bedroom but not in a public place).

    So what would you do if you saw a very attractive man? If you wouldn't think abuot bouncing on him would you just stare (but not view it sexually)?

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    Theres nothing wrong with being asexual, just that because of it, what your saying doesn't come from a normal male point of view because your alot less sexual so you are not the same, you think differently about it.

    Ok, so maybe not actually think about having sex with them but would still look at them for longer and probably think 'nice tits' or whatever
 
 
 
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