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    Basically the title more or less says it all. I met my boyfriend online we have just been having a discussion and he says that having an online relationship is just different and isn't cheating. Am I being stupid for being angry/upset over this as I think its very muchly so cheating and not sure I can be with somebody who thinks this.

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    I think that it probably depends on the couple. Everyone has their own boundaries.

    What I think really matters is whether he accepts that you think that it is cheating and therefore unacceptable within your relationship. While he not believe it to be cheating as long as he doesn't do it during your relationship then there probably isn't a problem. I would try not to be upset over this until you have established whether or not he intends to form these online attachments after knowing that it is something that you don't think is acceptable. If he does continue/intend to continue and you consider it to be cheating and have told him then I think that you absolutely have the right to be upset about it.

    Personally I am with you on this. I would say that online relationships and having cyber sex are cheating and they aren't something that I would be happy with my boyfriend doing while he was with me.
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    As with randdom, relationship borders are determined by the couple - but I think you're justified in being upset. You say you met him online - but he says that online relationships with other people are acceptable? It seems way suss that he would say that when your own relationship developed into something real. Who's to say he won't do the same?
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    Would you think watching porn is cheating? :rolleyes:
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    Id class it as cheating, your deffo not being stupid!
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    What else do you think he might not think of as "cheating", but doesn't dare tell you? You'd better save yourself the trouble and dump him now unless you really think he's worth (potentially) getting hurt over in future.

    (Original post by Fawn)
    Would you think watching porn is cheating? :rolleyes:
    Porn is for the individual. Cyber sex kind of takes two.
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    (Original post by G50)
    What else do you think he might not think of as "cheating", but doesn't dare tell you? You'd better save yourself the trouble and dump him now unless you really think he's worth (potentially) getting hurt over in future.



    Porn is for the individual. Cyber sex kind of takes two.
    You don't know them personally, you know their online alias. Same as with the porn stars you watch.
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    If I cyber you will it make it equal?
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    (Original post by Fawn)
    Would you think watching porn is cheating? :rolleyes:
    There's no attachment to porn. Not to mention it's a one way interaction.

    Of course online relationships is cheating. Cheating isn't confined to just crossing physical boundaries, I think it's ridiculous to think that emotionally being attached to someone else isn't so.
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    The fact that the word "relationship" is used in online relationships says it all really
    Its another relationship, and its cheating
    If it was online friendship it would be different
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    (Original post by Tombola)
    There's no attachment to porn. Not to mention it's a one way interaction.

    Of course online relationships is cheating. Cheating isn't confined to just crossing physical boundaries, I think it's ridiculous to think that emotionally being attached to someone else isn't so.
    Who says cybersex is emotionally attached?
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    just ditch the bf

    he sounds like a douche
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    (Original post by Fawn)
    Who says cybersex is emotionally attached?
    well its not physically attached is it, lol.
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    Well, i would try to explain how you feel to him... but i wouldn't really consider it cheatinf myself. Matter of opinion i guess.
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    If you are happy in the relationship apart from this episode, stay with him.

    If not, this is the perfect chance to get rid!
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    :rofl: If he's going down that route, tell him to gtfo.
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    I'd dump him just for the fact that it's incredibly lame
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    (Original post by Fawn)
    Would you think watching porn is cheating? http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/i...s/rolleyes.gif
    What? Porn is a one way thing, where the porn stars aren't even aware when you are 'using' them. Cyber-sex is two way, directly involving another person.
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    I can't say I really agree.

    It's more like glorified masturbation.... but I guess it depends. If he's doing it with the same person over and over again... maybe?
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    (Original post by EskimoJo)
    What? Porn is a one way thing, where the porn stars aren't even aware when you are 'using' them. Cyber-sex is two way, directly involving another person.
    Yes but they may be just "using" each other as you say, there doesn't necessarily have to be a relationship.
 
 
 
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