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Reply 1

rajandkwameali

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it shouldn't matter. somebody who cares for you shouldn't care about a lack of experience.

i think with more confidence you would be able to be social and meet an SO.

significant other?

significant other.

Hey, don't lose your youth drive. 26 is just the beginning of your life and, to answer your question, YES you decide what happens in your life to a great extent and waiting for luck, love, money and opportunity to come to you is unwise. It's not going to come to you, but the good news is that it's somewhere close to you, waiting to be picked up. You just need to open your eyes, get some courage and meet new people, do new things and think about what you want to achieve.

Reply 5

rajandkwameali

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jludvig

thanks thats very kind of u i just feel a freak tbh at times

Why?

Do you work? Why not chat with people at work? On Monday, just chat with your co-workers and ask them what they did on their weekend and thing.

Join clubs, or learn a new hobby.

Reply 6

xps.systems

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jludvig

im kinda embarrassed bout it really

Please convince yourself that you don't NEED a relationship.

I know you may want one but it doesn't mean you NEED one - it isn't essential.

In the same way that I crave a Lamborghini Galliardo but I can't have one just yet (though could maybe work towards this goal).

Surely there must be other stuff in your life you can excel at (e.g. career, sport, music, drama, travel) - you must have some hobby/interest/talent.

If you have a good circle of friends then I'm sure you will be fine. Just to add, I have never been in a relationship or gone on a date before in my life yet there are other areas of my life where I focus heavily on and have reaped rewards - couldn't you do that too?

squish.

Reply 7

xps.systems

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jludvig

thanks tahts very kind of you hopefully i will get out of this dark spell but im surrounded by girls who are in out of rellies so i do feel out of it

So what if these girls are in 'rellies' - by the looks of things they can't be THAAAT interesting sincepeople have been having relationshippies since the beginning of time (i.e. before there was internet and strategy games and Coke and Lamborginis).

Don't they talk about anything apart from their 'rellies'? Can you imagine how bored you'd get if I only talked about my career prospects and the S&P500 to people? Surely there are other interests/hobbies that you have which you can excel at which can distract you from this - people aren't and shouldn't judge you just because you are not in a relationshippy.

squish.

Reply 8

generalebriety

16

jludvig

im kinda embarrassed bout it really

And you will continue to be forever embarrassed about it unless you do something about it. Yes, it's easier said than done. Yes, it's going to involve a few ****-ups, a few foot-in-mouth situations, and plenty of awkwardness initially, but all of that will soon fade. It's not easy, but you know as well as we do that it's necessary; if you don't start today, you probably won't start tomorrow either, and before you know it you'll be 30 and still trying to work up the courage.

Bite the bullet and take our advice.

Reply 9

generalebriety

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jludvig

so u think some people will find it a bit of a joke? what u mean plenty of xxx ups and foot in mouth situations is this what u mean

The same teething problems everyone who suffers from low confidence goes through.

Reply 10

meandmyimaginaryfriend

Yes you are to blame for your lack of life. Everything in your life like this, is entirely your own fault. Depressing thought? Not really. You're the one in control, and the only person who can get yourself out of this rut you're stuck in. I think you should just get out there and chat to people. If you really are a freak, it's the only way you're going to become more normal and fit in, socialising with other normal people, and if you're not you're worrying about nothing. This from a person who has only just outgrown the nickname of "weirdo" and managed to stop her hands shaking every time she has to meet someone new or say something in a class discussion.

Reply 11

football mad

I think its just bad luck, the same happens to me. For the ones who are slagging off the op, just give the advice and go no need for this childish baiting!