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    (Original post by Flying Cookie)
    You're too concerned about how the other person perceives you and the fact that there is a gap between the way you perceive yourself and the way others see you, you feel uncomfortable.

    Solutions:

    1) You're not really attached to the other person, so meet someone new who you can actually relate to and feel comfortable around.
    2) You might be limiting yourself to just one sex or type of person. Consider your sexual orientation and your attitude towards relationships and sex - are you in just for the sex? Do you want a meaningful emotional bond? Make sure that your partner answers similarly to you to these questions. Good luck and remember: don't have sex if you don't feel comfortable. It's not supposed to hurt or feel wrong, just take it easy.
    Thanks :-)
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    (Original post by twizzle)
    You gain your value from others
    This is me all over; I find it hard to see myself as a good and nice person unless someone else tells me etc. it's a big vicious circle.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please keep anoymous or delete.
    When im in the company of people i find it hard to just relax and be myself and just talk freely.

    In relationships, although i really like sex, i never feel relaxed and sponatenous during foreplay and sex itself.

    Anyone else like this? Or know why im like this or how i can change?
    An introduction to alcohol and myself will help you.
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    (Original post by BossManSingh)
    An introduction to alcohol and myself will help you.
    alcohol will help for a few hours. I shouldn't have to drink all the time just to feel comfortable. Alcohol normally makes me depressed anyway
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Alcohol normally makes me depressed anyway
    Your doing it wrong, only missing thing is me.
 
 
 
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