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    what is the best way to turn somebody down? i've been speaking to my coursemate a lot online recently and lately the conversation has got deeper and he keeps inviting me for drinks and to meet up. Normally i'd be thrilled and say yes as i'm free and single , but as much as i love his personality, i'm just not attracted to him, he's been hurt before in the past and i don't want to lead him on and hurt him even more, i just want him as a friend, what can i do?
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    anyone?
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    Oh i dont think there is ever a nice way if he really likes you,
    will be hurt anyway you do it. Good luck
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    Tell him as it is. Friends or nada. Not hard really.
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    God I've had this problem, one of the boys in my year asked me out >5 times and it became more and more difficult to be nice about turning him down.
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    (Original post by twizzle)
    anyone?
    can I ask what is it that's so bad about him? he sounds like a really nice guy, not like those people who act as if they're God's gift for women...
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    Get straight to the point, but don't be rude about it.
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    (Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
    can I ask what is it that's so bad about him? he sounds like a really nice guy, not like those people who act as if they're God's gift for women...
    they're's absolutely nothing wrong with him, it's just i've known him for 2 years now and i just view him as a friend, there's just nothing there if you get me?
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    Tell him you just got out of a long term relationship.
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    (Original post by twizzle)
    they're's absolutely nothing wrong with him, it's just i've known him for 2 years now and i just view him as a friend, there's just nothing there if you get me?
    oh right...well, er, I really don't know how you could put it without hurting his feelings. perhaps get his/your mates to tease him so much that he's put off by you? persuade another girl to be with him?

    also just visited your profile...thought I recognised that face :p:
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    i had this problem before. i think better just turn him down straightly,if u do it too polite or nice,some boys will just not give up...
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    (Original post by twizzle)
    what is the best way to turn somebody down? i've been speaking to my coursemate a lot online recently and lately the conversation has got deeper and he keeps inviting me for drinks and to meet up. Normally i'd be thrilled and say yes as i'm free and single , but as much as i love his personality, i'm just not attracted to him, he's been hurt before in the past and i don't want to lead him on and hurt him even more, i just want him as a friend, what can i do?
    Ignore them. They seem to get the idea eventually.
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    (Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
    also just visited your profile...thought I recognised that face :p:
    I post far too much on TSR then hahaa
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    Urgh i've been in this situation, just be as honest as possible but keep it polite.
    Nevertheless, i've had experience where a guy didnt get the message for month(s) as much as a tried, until he saw me with someone else then backed off.
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    the word sorry and then any excuse you have.
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    If you're not straight up with him, he'll keep thinking he has a chance
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    play him at his own game. he's been sneaky and subtle about it so it would be hard to call him on it. you be subtle about it too!

    start talking to him about boys you fancy. make it up if neccessary.

    if you pass by a good looking guy say "oooh he's nice" or something like that.

    start saying how he's a really good friend, like the brother you never had.
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    Maybe you should give him a chance. There's nothing saying you have to rush into an intimate relationship with him! Just take your time, you may grow to love him - the potential's there if you see him as a friend.
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    Lying is not all that bad in a situation like this. Alternately you can go out for drinks as long as you make it very, very clear that it is as "friends only".
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    (Original post by twizzle)
    what is the best way to turn somebody down? i've been speaking to my coursemate a lot online recently and lately the conversation has got deeper and he keeps inviting me for drinks and to meet up. Normally i'd be thrilled and say yes as i'm free and single , but as much as i love his personality, i'm just not attracted to him, he's been hurt before in the past and i don't want to lead him on and hurt him even more, i just want him as a friend, what can i do?
    If he asks, just tell him that you're not interested. That's what - and - did to me. Oh, and - ...

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    Just be kind; don't make it seem like you're letting him down, but don't make it seem like you're disguising what you're saying.
 
 
 
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