keep anon as friends use this and I'd rather they didn't find out over tsr.
I'm female, 17 and bisexual.
but noone close to me actually knows, I've had 2 boyfriends. which people knew about.
But a girlfriend noone really knew about.
It didn't last very long, but I'm still sure I'm bisexual.
so, do I actually have to 'come out'?
Or do I just wait untill I find a girl I'd like a relationship with?
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- Thread Starter
- 19-07-2009 22:26
- 19-07-2009 22:42
It's really up to you. Nobody can make that decision for you but yourself. Do whatever feels best for you.
You may prefer to be out as bisexual now, if you feel that you would be being honest with your friends. It may also make it easier for you to meet other lesbian/bi girls, if you're already out it's more likely you'll find it easier to go to places you can meet other people or other girls may find it easier to approach you. Equally, you may feel like you could feel more free to make comments about liking girls as much as boys to your friends.
However, if you're not sure and you don't want to be labelled, then there is no hurry for you to come out. Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.
You could of course always test the waters. You do not need to come out to everyone at the same time. Do you have a trusted best friend, a close family member? It may be easier to talk things through with one person and help gain a cleaer idea of your sexual identity before announcing it to everyone.
- 19-07-2009 23:12
If you don't feel comfortable with coming out, or if you're quite happy for people to not know, then don't do it yet. Don't feel pressured to tell people until you feel the time is right.