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    I may be a bit biased because I don't like porn, I feel unattractive compared to the women, but whatever. My boyfriend watches porn from time to time, and while i don't like it, I don't try to control him. It's ocassional.

    He's been watching porn since he was a teen. And even though I find it sickening that he shared porn with one of his mates, I know it's normal and it's just my opinion, so ok. He only had one girlfriend before me and they didn't have much sex. So most of what he knows, he learned from porn.

    Now I was even more inexperienced. Can't say I watch porn or read romance novels, so most of what I know, I've learned from him, it has been instinctual or reading advice from trashy women sites (kind of like Cosmo's "8768 ways to make him blah, blah"). He loves how much I've improved, though, so it's paid off for both of us. Nothing better than receiving the compliments after he orgasms.

    But sometimes our sex sessions feel so much like a scene from a porno. You know, he's aggressive, sometimes he'll ejaculate on my breasts or face (yeah, I allow him). I don't particularly enjoy anal, but I don't mind it, because I know he likes it... I don't know WHY he likes it, since hey, **** comes out of that hole. He also thinks it'd be cool if I learned how to deep throat... still can't get the gag-reflex thing quite right (never have vomited, though). And whenever he busts a new move, I ask and get the same response "I got it from a porn movie". We onced tried titty ******* and it didn't work because I'm small chested and trust me I felt very bad, lacking in a way. Also because when I give him oral, he'll almost always finish with his hand... I asked and he said "Well, it's because when I'm close to finishing, my glans is more sensitive so it kinda hurts with the mouth, so I finish gently with my hand, you know, touching the shaft." Which I don't know if it's true. Maybe my mouth just doesn't cut it?

    I just don't find conventional porn arousing. And you know, I asked once what was his ideal body type and you got it: busty, slim, big bum. I'm not quite that and I'm glad he's quite happy with my body, but when I asked why he liked that body type he said "Well... we're culturally conditioned to, most men like it because it's what society dictates". Which I think it's a very stupid answer.

    He's not a pervert, he doesn't watch it much, and he can make me orgasm, he likes cuddling afterwards (without asking) and prefers me... but somehow this porn-style sex we have makes me feel... weird. Like maybe one day he'll want more porn stuff going on and maybe then I won't be enough? It's the only "sex ed" he received, so yeah, I guess it's understandable. I'm just worried the influence it may have on how he perceives our sex life and my body. I don't know what's up with this fear of mine. I mean he usually gets me off first, and then the porn-sex begins. It doesn't feel like an emotional connection, it just feels like porn-sex. Don't know if that makes sense?

    Anyway, he's a great guy, I love him and wouldn't dump him... is it ok to have this porn-style sex and all?
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    You need to talk to him, he's not fulfilling any of your needs and making you feel like **** during sex. It should not be like that at all.

    And you don't know how much he watches porn. He sounds like a guy pretty obsessed with it tbh.
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    Have you actually told him this?
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    He seems some kind of porn-wannabe monster, but he's sort of right about the glans. Except it's only uncomfortable (for me at least) if it's with a hand job and it's rubbing a particular area.

    It's not the case with oral until right after I've come.
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    Sound to me like all this porn has made your sex lives pretty good. I don't see the problem.
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    (Original post by Hypnotoad)
    Sound to me like all this porn has made your sex lives pretty good. I don't see the problem.
    Well it doesn't seem like she's enjoying it....

    Whatever happened to porn with decent storylines....?
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    (Original post by Hypnotoad)
    Sound to me like all this porn has made your sex lives pretty good. I don't see the problem.
    For him...
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    I enjoy when he gets me off, usually with oral sex, but then intercourse well, it's a bit too pornish you know. I just keep doing these things because he enjoys them a lot so it's good for him. I guess as long as I get to get off first, it's alright. But sometimes I don't like feeling like a porn star to him. I'm also afraid he'll get bored with my body eventually, since my breasts are small and while I trim my hair down there (it is more comfortable) I would never get rid of it all.

    Not that he wants me to, but you know, just like some girls live deluded lives and have really high expectations due to watching too many romantci comedies and reading too much Twilight, some guys may get too picky after watching so much porn. He's already given signals that he's easily influenced by some of that stuff, like when he said his ideal body was that of porn stars because it's a cultural thing. He also worries about his penis size sometimes, which is stupid, because I've never been with another guy and his penis is enough and in some positions it can feel too big and hurt. Anyway...
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    I don't particularly enjoy anal, but I don't mind it, because I know he likes it... I don't know WHY he likes it, since hey, **** comes out of that hole.
    Lol, I'm a guy and I wouldn't want my shaft in that hole either... I mean, wouldn't the shaft be really dirty if you give him a blow job after? Sounds disgusting
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    From a lot of the posts, it seems that people here consider porn-style sex as quite normal. You're fortunate enough to have a boyfriend that is at least honest about his reasons and isn't just trying to tell you "it's normal, everybody does it blablabla", which is usually a much better excuse to convince a girl to do something in bed.

    Loads of guys have grown up with porn, myself included although probably at an older age than most as I didn't have internet access until later and apart from the occasional magazine, I didn't see any.

    Usually when some girl says that her boyfriend is doing something porn-like (coming on a girl's face, anal), there's a rush of posts saying "it's standard, everyone does it, it's the most normal thing ever" (when actually, it's not really and nowhere is it written that this or that is normal. It's just guys are far more influenced by porn than they used to be)
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    Porn creates ridiculous expectations of sex, tell him to cut down, be realistic.
    You should discover having sex with each other properly, not by trying to imitate those whores on camera.
    Sex should be just between you and him, not you, him and the fantasied bimbos in his head
    I personally would tell him to shove his porn up his arse ¬___¬ (and he probably watches it a lot more than you think).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just don't find conventional porn arousing.
    That's because it's not. All the girls have the same fake, annoying moan, and all you see is a disembodied **** going in and out of a disembodied pussy for a long time. It's kind of monotonous, really, and the actors don't ever seem to be really into it. For me, that makes it kind of boring.

    But you might be able to find some alternative porn that's more interesting. Stay away from the mass-produced stuff, and try introducing him to amateur porn if you some find good stuff. Then he'll see some actual, realistic sex instead.

    But anyway, an even better idea would be for both of you to take a fun, sexy trip to a sex shop. Look for a woman-friendly, sex-positive store near you. Then go to their book section and buy yourselves some books about sex. Both of you will learn things and have fun trying out the ideas together, and it will be a much healthier and more realistic representation of sex.

    It could be a fun project! I'd really recommend doing that.

    The advantage of doing things this way is that then you're not trying to pit yourself against his porn collection. You probably won't win. Instead, just fill his head with healthier, more realistic ideas, and the porn-style sex may just fall by the wayside naturally.
 
 
 
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