Feeling let down

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It was my 18th birthday party on saturday and I invited pretty much all of my year, plus family and stuff. Everyone knew how excited I was and how much it meant to me, particulalry my close friends. One of my closest male friends turned up with his girlfriend and made a big fuss of telling me how much I meant to him and writing lovely things in my guest book but he left after just over an hour without telling anyone, least of all me. I felt really let down by it and asked him why and he said his girlfriend was ill. Lots of ppl were with her up until just before she left and they said she seemed fine and she looks perfectly healthy on the DVD...am I right to feel a bit let down by him?

Reply 1

*starry_eyed_*

14

awww i'm sorry if didn't turn out the way you wanted.. i can see why you are feelin let down... not havin the person you care about there with you. have you talked to your mate since?? do u talk to his gf?

Reply 2

rachplatt

OP

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It didnt exactly spoil my night...I had fun at the time because I assumed he must have had a good reason. But now I know why and knowing he has lied to me hurts, he's already drifting away from his lad mates cos of all the time he spends with his girlfriend and now I think its affected us too. His friends are disgusted, as far as theyre concerned if he'd do it to me, he's a lost cause as the old him would never do anything to hurt me. I usually talk to his girlfriend but she wrote something odd in my guestbook and I havent spoken 2 her since. I'm finding it really hard to be mad with him, but i feel hurt.

Reply 3

rachplatt

OP

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I suppose you are right. I just didnt want to have to still be mad with him by the end of the week cos we're leaving 6th form and have the prom and everything. thanks x

Reply 4

Trigger

18

what did she write?

Reply 5

hippieglitter

19

If i know relationships then the gf was probably jealous of how lovely he was being to you. But in my opinion that was no excuse for him to leave your party without telling you.

Reply 6

Piggsil

16

He didn't do it on purpose to upset you. I think he was between a rock and a hard place - does he choose you or his gf? If he chooses her you get upset, if he chooses you she gets in a hissy fit and he won't get any snuggling ( :wink:

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Looks like she put him in an awkward position and he had to choose. I think it's just there's moe incentive to go with his gf, it's not that he wanted to hurt you.
Did anyone actually understand what I was trying to say then? :biggrin:

Reply 7

Planxty

Why are you getting hung up on him????

He sounds like an asshole.

And i can tell you for 99% sure, he was lying throught his teeth

Reply 8

LubyLoo

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Rebecca/Becca

He didn't do it on purpose to upset you. I think he was between a rock and a hard place - does he choose you or his gf? If he chooses her you get upset, if he chooses you she gets in a hissy fit and he won't get any snuggling ( :wink:

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Looks like she put him in an awkward position and he had to choose. I think it's just there's moe incentive to go with his gf, it's not that he wanted to hurt you.
Did anyone actually understand what I was trying to say then? :biggrin:

I agree with you. It was as if he was put in an awful dilemma and he probably didn't want to hurt either of you.

I suppose you could feel let down by him, but think of how caring he seemed before he left. It's all about compromise I suppose.

Maybe you should talk to him, I'm sure he will understand how you feel.

Reply 9

LubyLoo

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Planxty

Why are you getting hung up on him????

He sounds like an asshole.

And i can tell you for 99% sure, he was lying throught his teeth

I think it's more 'if I annoy my girlfriend I won't be getting any tonight.'

Being in a relationship makes you do strange things. It sometimes makes you forget about the important things going on around you.

Reply 10

Inverurie Jones

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rachplatt

am I right to feel a bit let down by him?

Yes. His girlfriend's a nut and he's hen-pecked.

Reply 11

kateington

What did she write?

Reply 12

rachplatt

OP

2

its kinda all over with now....but for anyone who was left curious, she wrote: 'youre the other woman in (insert boys name here) life but i guess il share'

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