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    Just over 6 months - 12 months
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    Just over 12 months - 2 years
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    (Original post by TheJudge)
    Some nursery worker put children in paedophile porno very recently, it was front page news..... Do you read the news?
    I read in the news that somebody somewhere killed their own child. Parenthood is bad.
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    The year before they go to school and even then it'd only be for a morning or afternoon each day. I wouldn't want to go back to work and leave my baby with somebody else, I want to be there and bring my kids up myself
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    (Original post by TheJudge)
    I want my wife to be a stay at home mother and my kids to never go to nursery. I dont want minimum wage looking after my children.

    Where is that option?
    There was a time when this was the norm, but now so many women are highly educated (degree and above) that they couldn't cope with not having the intellectual stimulation of a working environment for months or years. There are still women who want to be SAHM's, but they fewer and further between than they used to be.

    (I'm one of the ones who'd go mad, I just couldn't cope with a baby - for too many reasons to count...I won't be having a baby!)
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    (Original post by TheJudge)
    I want my wife to be a stay at home mother and my kids to never go to nursery. I dont want minimum wage looking after my children.

    Where is that option?
    Why don't you look after them instead? If you're gonna be so fussy about who brings up your children...
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    I would send them when I started - which I think was when I was about 3.

    I do see why parents send their children their from a very young age - its stimulating and educational, but I want have quailty time with them, like me and my mum did before their education begins.
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    (Original post by la fille danse)
    I read in the news that somebody somewhere killed their own child. Parenthood is bad.

    I trust myself and hopefully my future wife.
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    (Original post by The Referee)
    There was a time when this was the norm, but now so many women are highly educated (degree and above) that they couldn't cope with not having the intellectual stimulation of a working environment for months or years. There are still women who want to be SAHM's, but they fewer and further between than they used to be.

    (I'm one of the ones who'd go mad, I just couldn't cope with a baby - for too many reasons to count...I won't be having a baby!)

    I know feminism has destroyed these sort of women. However there is a whole world of women and many want to be stay at home wives.


    I wouldn;t mind a part time working wife but defiently i need a full time mother.
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    (Original post by TheJudge)
    I trust myself and hopefully my future wife.
    Are you going to send your children to school ever?

    I hear some bad things have happened at schools. :eek:
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    (Original post by petitepiaf)
    Why don't you look after them instead? If you're gonna be so fussy about who brings up your children...

    Ideally i would be a stay at home dad looking after my children. However its imperative that i send my children to top schools and offer them a high standard of living. I am studying mechanical engineering at a top uni i hope that if i get a good grade and a good job (read high earning) then i can afford a stay at home wife, a good house in a nice area, private education for my children and everything else i desire.

    As things stand i have to make my own path i can't rely on meeting a high earning woman.
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    (Original post by la fille danse)
    Are you going to send your children to school ever?

    I hear some bad things have happened at schools. :eek:
    Yes but i can't segregate my children from society. I willt ell you if any man or woman abused my child it'd be the last thing they ever did.
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    i wouldnt do it
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    I think i'd be a stay-at-home mom until my youngest child is five years old. That's what my mom did and i'm really grateful for that because i do think its important for children to be brought up by their own parents and not by some stranger :dontknow: Having said that, I'm not even sure i ever want to have children of my own..
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    (Original post by timetokill)
    I would never put my child as a baby into a nursery ever ever ever.
    Part time from around 3 I think is reasonable before they go to school.

    I will never understand anyone who has kids just to farm them off to a nursery soon/a few months after they are born. If you cant afford or dont want to take the time off work to look after the baby, dont have kids.
    Well done, possibly the most naive post I have read for some time.
    Your post clearly shows a rather immature view of the real world, a world that apparently you have yet to experience.
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    My mum didn't work was a little kid and I think it did me and my brother a lot of good so I'd probably want to follow in her footsteps and not use nursery that much. If I have a child, I want to at least spend time with the thing. I might send them to a playschool or hang out at a children's centre so they could spend time with other kids, but I don't think I would work and have them at nursery.
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    I think it would depend entirely on the circumstances at the time, hopefully by this point I'll be freelance so would able to take as much time off as I wanted then the baby could go to nursery around about 2 (part time) so they can learn to interact with others and get ready for school.

    I do think it's important for bonding though, my mom went back to work part time very very early after she had me- I was looked after by my nan for a long time before going to nursery- and I feel like our relationship was completely different because of that to my mom's relationship with my sister because she waited a long time to go back to work after having her so they formed that bond when my sister was tiny.
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    Not until 3. I think I started nursery at school when I was 3, just before I was 4 - I don't think babies should be allowed to go into nurseries, what's the point of having a baby if you're going to palm it off on others as soon as it's born?!
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    (Original post by Mrm.)
    Well done, possibly the most naive post I have read for some time.
    Your post clearly shows a rather immature view of the real world, a world that apparently you have yet to experience.
    How on earth is her post naive?

    The fact is simple: if you do not want or cannot afford to take time off work, DO NOT HAVE KIDS.

    Having kids is not a right, it's a gift, and one that should be treasured. If you aren't going to look after your child yourself and he's going to be in the care of others from an early age, why bother having one?
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    I am not sure whether I want kids at all but even if I have them I can not imagine staying home wth them too long to be honest. I have always been very determined about my career and can not imagine taking up to 10 years out of work, it would probably drive me insane to be home all day. And honestly I think an upset mother (I would be to be stuck in the house) is probably worse for a child than going to a nursery early.
    My mother started working pretty early after my birth (stayed home a year for my sister but a, not exactly sure how long it was for me) and it worked out fine.
    I didn't go to a nursery that early though, instead I was cared for by an other woman who was home with her own child. I would love to find something like that because I really loved being there. The other girl was around my age, sometimes there were some other kids there too and we became really good friends. It was more like a daily playdate than anything else.
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    (Original post by TheJudge)
    I know feminism has destroyed these sort of women. However there is a whole world of women and many want to be stay at home wives.


    I wouldn;t mind a part time working wife but defiently i need a full time mother.
    Alas feminism has made it hard for women who WANT to be SAHMs or SAHWs, because they're often looked down on by certain parts of society, and in particular by working women.

    I know someone who wanted to be a SAHM, but because of sneering by working friends, she returned to work instead so she didn't get 'cut out'.

    Such a shame.
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    (Original post by TheJudge)
    I know feminism has destroyed these sort of women. However there is a whole world of women and many want to be stay at home wives.


    I wouldn;t mind a part time working wife but defiently i need a full time mother.

    There's nothing wrong with this point of view, but for the sake of marital harmony I'd recommend making sure you and your potential wife are in agreement :yep:
 
 
 
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