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    one night in a nightclub i went up to a girl on the dancefloor and started dancing with her. she was really grinding on me and drunk as i was i started touching her chest and eventually under her skirt if you know what i mean. she let me do it for a while and then moved my hand away and she kept dancing until i left to get my friends a minute or so later. since then i cant get it out of my head because i didnt know the girl and dont know if i upset her and also i dont want people to think i am a sex beast because that was totally out of character. some of my friends seen me and just say i creeped up behind her and started touching her but i am pretty certain i didnt because i am sure the girl was rubbing herself on me. do you think this was really bad and would you say it was sexual assault.i really hate myself for going that far i dont know what came over me and now i just feel like a creep and i ffel like ive really let my family down and just want it not to have happened and killing myself would do that for me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    one night in a nightclub i went up to a girl on the dancefloor and started dancing with her. she was really grinding on me and drunk as i was i started touching her chest and eventually under her skirt if you know what i mean. she let me do it for a while and then moved my hand away and she kept dancing until i left to get my friends a minute or so later. since then i cant get it out of my head because i didnt know the girl and dont know if i upset her and also i dont want people to think i am a sex beast because that was totally out of character. some of my friends seen me and just say i creeped up behind her and started touching her but i am pretty certain i didnt because i am sure the girl was rubbing herself on me. do you think this was really bad and would you say it was sexual assault.i really hate myself for going that far i dont know what came over me and now i just feel like a creep and i ffel like ive really let my family down and just want it not to have happened and killing myself would do that for me.
    It sounds like she was consenting so it wasn't sexual assault, however it might be a good idea to try and cut down on the drunkenness so it doesn't happen again. (If it helps, the fact that you feel so ashamed seems to suggest to me that you're a decent sort of guy.)
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    (Original post by Terrorfication)
    ok so when you say "i hate myself and feel like ive let my family down" do you mean you realise you were gay because you are so disgusted with fisting a randomer in a club. no really it happens all the time
    Why do I spend half my time in this forum telling people to be nice! Someone is having a moral crisis and all you can do is mock them?

    Just because it 'happens all the time' is no reason to encourage it. :mad:
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    You horrible horrible rapist. Do you think night clubs are a place where drunk people touch each other sexually? I am personally sickened.

    >.> <.<

    Seriously, don't get worked up over it.
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    Firstly, don't kill yourself.
    Something like this has happened to me in clubs before. I got over it. If the girl wasn't crying and shouting for the police then it's not a big deal, she was probably a bit slutty/very drunk tbh and just moved on.
    Things happen in clubs when people are drunk (much worse than that) and then they are forgotten. She's not going to press charges, your family aren't going to find out and you're friends don't think you're a creep they're probably just jealous you had the guts to go that far with a random girl. Even if they do, again, they'll get over it.
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    Would getting a neg rep make you feel worse. Unlucky if it does.
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    Nah its kl.Keep up the good work mate
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    Sounds to me like she was consenting. Your mates are probably just trying to tease you.
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    ive seen it happen before but because of what one of my friends said about creeping up and because i didnt know i just feel really bad and dont want others to think im a horrible person.
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    Somethings are best not to dwell on. It happened, ok so you're not entirely sure about the circumstances, but put it to the back of your mind and don't let it happen again!
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    erm get over it dont do it again, you're clearly a nice person and you said it was out of character, seriously no need to have a baby over it!!
 
 
 
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