Why do I seem unable to get a gf? Advice plz!! Watch

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Hey people.

Basically, i would really like a girlfriend (i'm 21), only ever had one before, but that ended about a year ago.

My housemates at uni say i'm a really nice guy, and that i'm not that bad looking, but for some reason I don't have any luck!

I dress well, basically wear stuff from places like topman etc, and I have grown in confidence, and am just lost at why i can never get anyone!

Help much appreciated!!
Thanks!
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Do you approach women , or do you wait for them to approach you ?.

Do you potray youserself in a way that makes you look interested in a relationship ?.

How often do you go out with mates ?. Are you an outgoing person ?

Answer these questions , and then I might be able to see why you find trouble getting a GF. From what's currently in your thread it seem down to bad luck.

All I can say is good luck in the future
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You actually have to ask them out.
Read 'He's Not That Into You', and don't do any of the chapter titles. Simples
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Never really approach them...approached this one girl who I saw was deffo interested, there were massive signs there...we went out for literally a few weeks...it was good while it lasted!

What do u mean by portray yourself in a way that makes you look interested in a relationship?

I go out with mates about one maybe twice a week while at uni, I would say that recently I have become more outgoing!
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Maybe you need to aim for the right type of girls.
Go for the more average girls rather than the hot ones who have like 20 guys chasing her.
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thts what i tend to do...no point being unrealistic!
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Choose the right company of friends for a gf-hunt.
If u r with some sort of totally geeky ppl, u won't ever find a girl. Even though u like them(the geek ppl), they are ur friends, they are funny, for that sort of thing try hanging out with more talkative and confident guys.

I may sound *****y, but at least I'm bluntly honest :>
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i do hang out with confident people I would say...maybe one of the problems recently has been the fact tht one female housemate, has been taking a fancy towards me...eg like holding my hand whilst in a club, so i suppose this would give out the wrong impression...she alreasdy has a bf so is out of the picture really.
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Don't go looking for a relationship... people can pick up on it and it can come across as desperation. Honestly just relax and be yourself and you'll find what you're looking for eventually. I'm in similar situation so don't think I'm being patronising or anything, this is the advice I've been given too!
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(Original post by lovelife)
Hey people.

Basically, i would really like a girlfriend (i'm 21), only ever had one before, but that ended about a year ago.

My housemates at uni say i'm a really nice guy, and that i'm not that bad looking, but for some reason I don't have any luck!

I dress well, basically wear stuff from places like topman etc, and I have grown in confidence, and am just lost at why i can never get anyone!

Help much appreciated!!
Thanks!
Try your luck with guys.
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(Original post by lovelife)
i do hang out with confident people I would say...maybe one of the problems recently has been the fact tht one female housemate, has been taking a fancy towards me...eg like holding my hand whilst in a club, so i suppose this would give out the wrong impression...she alreasdy has a bf so is out of the picture really.
so why do u agree for this "holding hands"
she is just flirting or acting childish
and if u don't have anything for her, try saying that u actually want to be in a relationship and she is an obstacle.
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Never really approach them...approached this one girl who I saw was deffo interested, there were massive signs there...we went out for literally a few weeks...it was good while it lasted!
That would seem to be your problem. If you don't approach a girl how's she going to know you're interested ?
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back to the holding hands...its difficult cos i do like this housemate girl...she may like me to, so i just go along with it
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back to the holding hands...its difficult cos i do like this housemate girl...she may like me to, so i just go along with it
then don't whine about not having a gf, lol
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Don't go looking for a relationship... people can pick up on it and it can come across as desperation. Honestly just relax and be yourself and you'll find what you're looking for eventually. I'm in similar situation so don't think I'm being patronising or anything, this is the advice I've been given too!
This. The best approach is not to go looking for a relationship, and not to treat women as goals, but just as people to talk to and socialise with. Eventually you'll find someone you click with, and it'll snowball from there.
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Why don't you try surrounding yourself with a group of friends that are girls so then they will be able to hook you up with some of their girlfriends who are in your position.
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It seems that the girls want you from reading this thread tbf, it's good signs that you are getting out more and being more sociable, more experiance you get around any girl the more confident you get.
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(Original post by lovelife)
Never really approach them...approached this one girl who I saw was deffo interested, there were massive signs there...we went out for literally a few weeks...it was good while it lasted!

What do u mean by portray yourself in a way that makes you look interested in a relationship?

I go out with mates about one maybe twice a week while at uni, I would say that recently I have become more outgoing!
By potray I mean , make youself stand out , so that she see's you first !. Smile , rather than look dull , walk upright and confidently , rather than slouching along . That's what I mean. Make youself approachable
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(Original post by emerley)
Don't go looking for a relationship... people can pick up on it and it can come across as desperation. Honestly just relax and be yourself and you'll find what you're looking for eventually. I'm in similar situation so don't think I'm being patronising or anything, this is the advice I've been given too!
Amen to that sister.
I am also in this boat ahem situation
Its very frustrating, but you've just be yourself
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