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    As the question states.

    I can say for me, it's a no... but that's more to do with a lack of communication between me to him about what I want (I'm incredibly shy when it comes to sex) than him being inadequate. It's hard to say this when he clearly thinks we have a great sex life :confused:

    I was just wondering how many girls have partners they adore and are incredibly attracted to, but just isn't happy with their sex life. Or some stories of how you handled it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    As the question states.

    I can say for me, it's a no... but that's more to do with a lack of communication between me to him about what I want (I'm incredibly shy when it comes to sex) than him being inadequate. It's hard to say this when he clearly thinks we have a great sex life :confused:

    I was just wondering how many girls have partners they adore and are incredibly attracted to, but just isn't happy with their sex life. Or some stories of how you handled it.
    If you're shy it's hard to talk about this, but you need to. If you love and trust him enough to repeatedly have sex with him, you must feel close enough to him to talk to him!
    Chances are you talking to him about it will only turn him on, not piss him off, and he'll be happier you're enjoying it more (which will in turn make him enjoy it more, as chances are you'll want to do it more :p:).

    If you don't want to just start a conversation with him, you can try other stuff. Maybe whisper in his ear during foreplay, something which you wanna do. That way it's going with the flow and less likely to be embarrassing.
    If you want to, you can always watch some porn together and gently point out things you might wanna try?

    I know this sounds embarrassing, but he'll be so turned on I doubt he'll notice you're embarrassed to be saying it.

    And also, having good sex is much more likely to be shy about sex.
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    To answer the question, yes, yes I am

    As for advice, i'd go with what PoisonDonna has said!
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    nope, hes never made me *** & im quite shy aswel so i cnt tell him what i want!
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    (Original post by PoisonDonna)
    If you're shy it's hard to talk about this, but you need to. If you love and trust him enough to repeatedly have sex with him, you must feel close enough to him to talk to him!
    Chances are you talking to him about it will only turn him on, not piss him off, and he'll be happier you're enjoying it more (which will in turn make him enjoy it more, as chances are you'll want to do it more :p:).

    If you don't want to just start a conversation with him, you can try other stuff. Maybe whisper in his ear during foreplay, something which you wanna do. That way it's going with the flow and less likely to be embarrassing.
    If you want to, you can always watch some porn together and gently point out things you might wanna try?

    I know this sounds embarrassing, but he'll be so turned on I doubt he'll notice you're embarrassed to be saying it.

    And also, having good sex is much more likely to be shy about sex.
    Thanks for the advice I'll definitely the whisper thing... and if not, I will talk to him about it soon, because it really is bothering me. And I don't think it's fair on him either... as sometimes it's putting me off sex altogether, knowing I'll only be more frustrated :redface:

    LouLou, you're a lucky girl
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    I was really shy when we first started becoming sexual with each other, but now i know him so well and feel so comfortable that we can talk about anything to do with sex stuff.

    Communication is key... you just have to pluck up the courage and tell him wat you like or itll stay like that forever and may make you unhappy. Believe me he wont take it as an insult when you tell him what you like, he doesnt wana feel as though hes hurting you or not hitting the right spot, if you tell him he can improve and really make you feel good in bed.
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    NO

    And it's not a communication thing either. When I give him suggestions, he gets irritated. He's selfish, he never goes down on me or fingers me and rarely makes me come through penetration. I'm not sure he knows the meaning of the word foreplay - often I'm not wet enough and rather than making me feel comfortable/ pleasing me he's more interested in ramming it in, which can be rather painful as I'm quite tight. I eventually convinced him to use lube although he seemed hurt and felt that I wasn't attracted to him which is why I wasn't getting wet. I love exploring and trying new things, but he only likes doing new things that pleasure *him* not me.

    I think the problem with a lot of guys these days is they watch a lot of porn - and they think that's 'good sex' and end up picking up a whole load of bad habits. No amount of porn is going to make a man good at sex!!

    Basically guys should forget everything they've seen and not be afraid to explore a woman's body because every woman is different and different things turn different women on.

    Rant over.

    Damn, I'm sexually frustrated.
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    no. he's not my boyfriend, more like a 'mate with extras'. no sex cos he doesnt wanna be my first, said he thinks i should save it for someone i really love and blabla which is a bit frustrating cos i really want to lose it to him, i dont come thru foreplay so maybe ill come thru sex? he loves fingering me and going down on me, and like, it feels good but i dont orgasm i'm really shy too and he asks me if i like it and what do i like and stuff but... i dont knoww and i feel really awkward when he asks about it sorry i've just ranted on and havent given u any advice!
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    yes and no.
    my boyfriend makes me orgasm through oral and fingering (although not every time but thats a mental thing on my part), so thats good, lots of foreplay so happy there.
    sex is good, we're very open and try all new positions and have found the ones that we enjoy most, however he has problems controlling himself and more often than not comes within a few minutes. If we do it regularly then it gets better but then it loses the appeal.

    conclusion- great foreplay, great communication, not so great stamina!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no. he's not my boyfriend, more like a 'mate with extras'. no sex cos he doesnt wanna be my first, said he thinks i should save it for someone i really love and blabla which is a bit frustrating cos i really want to lose it to him, i dont come thru foreplay so maybe ill come thru sex? he loves fingering me and going down on me, and like, it feels good but i dont orgasm i'm really shy too and he asks me if i like it and what do i like and stuff but... i dont knoww and i feel really awkward when he asks about it sorry i've just ranted on and havent given u any advice!
    Don't worry, I'm not particularly looking for advice, just stories to make myself feel better and I will tell him soon anyway.

    Anon. 3, wow... I feel your pain. But wow he sounds so selfish. Stop giving him oral/sex until he pleases you... I'll go down this route if my boy starts having a go at me for being selfish when I just want to have some fun too.

    Thanks for the hopeful stories too More?
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    Yes, I am completely satisfied. :]

    My boyfriend is the first to bring me to climax through sex itself, so there's the bonus.
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    Wonder how many guys arnt sexually satisfied with their girlfriends....
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    100% satisfied - through lots of communication we have achieved a great sex life and I don't even masturbate anymore - he satisfies me enough without me having to do anything else
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    To date I have been. I think i've been pretty lucky though and ive never really had to say much, they have kind of just been naturals
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    He's hot, hard-working, big and kinky, so yes.

    Wish he could last longer though...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    As the question states.

    I can say for me, it's a no... but that's more to do with a lack of communication between me to him about what I want (I'm incredibly shy when it comes to sex) than him being inadequate. It's hard to say this when he clearly thinks we have a great sex life :confused:

    I was just wondering how many girls have partners they adore and are incredibly attracted to, but just isn't happy with their sex life. Or some stories of how you handled it.
    Unless you know how to get yourself off, he will not be able to get you off..

    You have to tell him what floats your boat... saying that he should probably ask... it is very obvious when a girl hasn't..... ya know!
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    Pretty much yes. We never seem to have 'bad' sex. S'all good, with the occasional mind blowing session. :p:
    He's pretty adventurous as well - there's the 'standard' thing we do if we're not feeling adventurous, but at the same time there's the space for experimentation.

    It really is about communication. If something's not right, I'll tell him. We know what either of us will or won't do (he doesn't like giving oral.. but never mind, I'm fine with that).
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous]Pretty much yes. We never seem to have 'bad' sex. S'all good, with the occasional mind blowing session. :p:
    He's pretty adventurous as well - there's the 'standard' thing we do if we're not feeling adventurous, but at the same time there's the space for experimentation.

    It really is about communication. If something's not right, I'll tell him. We know what either of us will or won't do (he doesn't like giving oral.. but never mind, I'm fine with that).[/QUOTE]

    If he ain't licking, you shouldn't be suckin!!
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    (Original post by Q_M)
    Wonder how many guys arnt sexually satisfied with their girlfriends....
    just because we always *** doesn't mean we're satisfied

    it's **** being with a girl who's too scared to talk about what's happening or make suggestions, always having to be the one to suggest new things, desperately trying to figure out what she'd like because she's clearly not enjoying it as much as she could be, just lying still, stroking your back occasionally...

    I used to wonder if I was just finishing too quickly, so a few times I tried doing it for longer to find out. by the time i gave up on that idea we were at it so long one time (nearly two hours) that by the end I could barely move my arms, sweating like it was the olympics or something.

    and she's quite ignorant about sexual positions, I don't think she knows what the g-spot is, in fact she seems to be convinced that anything pressing in that area is somehow bad for her.

    so yeah girls can be **** in bed too
 
 
 
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