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    I've been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years now, but I think she's started having feelings for another guy. They used to be close friends (and hooked up once) a few years ago and I think they've talked on MSN over the years, but nothing extensive or anything, and she never sees him other than at parties.

    However, this girl had a gathering a few days ago and my gf was talking to this guy for most of the night. I was a bit drunk though, so I didn't notice, but the next day loads of my friends were saying how they'd been looking a bit too close and that I should talk to her, even though nothing phyisically happened between them. So I asked her about it and she said they'd just been talking and she'd never cheat on me, and I don't she would. She said she liked speaking to him because they were good friends. I really wanted to tell her to stop talking to him on MSN and in "real life", but I thought that'd be a bit controlling so I told her it was fine, even though I was still pretty angry. Because of their past and this party, I'm convinced she's got feelings for him, even if they aren't huge or anything. It's killing me that she could like this guy, but I'm not normally the possessive type and I don't want to do anything stupid.

    So what would you do in my situation? Is it fair to expect her to not talk to him, or am I being too jealous?
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    I wouldn't say you can't talk to him - she'd go mental and probably do the opposite. But then I don't think you're being too jealous. I'd leave it for a while, perhaps talk to the friends that told you that she was getting 'close' with him. Try talking to you girfriend also... tell her it's making you feel insecure and see what she thinks...
    Good luck xx
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    Cheers for the input. I did talk to her about it a bit the day after it happened, and she offered to stop talking to him, but I don't think she would have agreed to it really - I think she was just expecting me to say "No, don't worry, I wouldn't make you do that" etc. He's known as being a bit of a **** though, in terms of messing girls around, which is why I don't get why she wants to speak to him.
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    I'd go and punch him... but that's just me - plus I have a lame punch Mainly cos I'm a girl.

    If he's a ****, then I'd certainly do something because you're in trouble otherwise. They get around man, seriously quick and are very sly. Be careful!!

    You need to talk to her asap. Explain your concern. If something's going on, then she's not worth it anyways. xx
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years now, but I think she's started having feelings for another guy. They used to be close friends (and hooked up once) a few years ago and I think they've talked on MSN over the years, but nothing extensive or anything, and she never sees him other than at parties.

    However, this girl had a gathering a few days ago and my gf was talking to this guy for most of the night. I was a bit drunk though, so I didn't notice, but the next day loads of my friends were saying how they'd been looking a bit too close and that I should talk to her, even though nothing phyisically happened between them. So I asked her about it and she said they'd just been talking and she'd never cheat on me, and I don't she would. She said she liked speaking to him because they were good friends. I really wanted to tell her to stop talking to him on MSN and in "real life", but I thought that'd be a bit controlling so I told her it was fine, even though I was still pretty angry. Because of their past and this party, I'm convinced she's got feelings for him, even if they aren't huge or anything. It's killing me that she could like this guy, but I'm not normally the possessive type and I don't want to do anything stupid.

    So what would you do in my situation? Is it fair to expect her to not talk to him, or am I being too jealous?
    Actually, PM me, if you really want to know what I'd do
 
 
 
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