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    Hey,

    I've jsut started a job at H&M and all of my co-workers are really outgoing and confident. I'm normally a confident and chatty person but i find it difficult to be myself around them all.

    These two girls from work are going out this saturday and i wanna go out with them but i dunno how to "invite myself" i don't want to sound desperate or anything! Its just that i'm pretty new and everything so i think it'd be good for me to socialise with them out of work too.

    Don't get me wrong, i'm not like socially retarded or anything i just need some confidence tips from you.

    Thanks lovelies!

    xx
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    just ask to go along. ask them what they did last weekend, and ask to come along next time.
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    Shall i just be like "I heard your going out this weekend, do you mind if i come out with you aswell?" I don't wanna come across as desperate you see! lol
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    Get talking to them about the night out, then say I really wanted to go but none of my mates are up for it. They should then invite you, if not then just ask if you can come along.
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    Discuss going out generally? Say you'd fancy going to such and such a club but have never been before (they might invite out that weekend or in future?)... Just get a good discussion going really. Ask if there are many "work dos" or anything.

    I'm not a big outgoing person either but I had a great work crowd in a previous job where we all went out after work on a friday for pizza or for birthdays. I hope it works out for you! You could make a suggestion for another night out if they don't take you up on their own night out
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    Personally I wouldn't ask if you can go out with them as that inevitably would sound a little desperate. If I were you I'd take lostdoll's advice - ask if there are any work dos coming up as it'd be lovely to go out with them and get to know them and stuff.
    That way you're not asking them if they'll take you along on a night out, it's more of a casual suggestion and complimenting them at the same time don't know if this makes sense but it made sense in my head :p:
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    Why not leave this weekend, but suggest to them that you all go out together at some point in the future, as a works night out and see what they respond to that.
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    i wouldnt invite myself to be honest.

    get to know them in work better first then im sure theyll invite you out
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    why dont you invite them to go somewhere?
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    If I was you I would not ask or 'invite yourself' to go out with them- just wait and get to know them better and inevitably they will invite you out with them sooner or later.
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    Ask them the worst they can say is no
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey,

    I've jsut started a job at H&M and all of my co-workers are really outgoing and confident. I'm normally a confident and chatty person but i find it difficult to be myself around them all.

    These two girls from work are going out this saturday and i wanna go out with them but i dunno how to "invite myself" i don't want to sound desperate or anything! Its just that i'm pretty new and everything so i think it'd be good for me to socialise with them out of work too.

    Don't get me wrong, i'm not like socially retarded or anything i just need some confidence tips from you.

    Thanks lovelies!

    xx
    Fortunately i didn't have this problem when i started my new job. I was invited out on the first shift but i'm a really confident guy so i don't have any problems there. The best advice i can give you Miss Anon. is to ask them out yourself. Just bring it up in conversation "fancy a drink friday night?".

    Best Wishes.
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    just say that you would like to get to know your workmates better and do they fancy a drink sometime, if they are worth knowing they will invite you along
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    I wouldn't ask, just ask them indirect questions about it. If they don't invite you wait til next time or go out with other people.
 
 
 
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