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    Edit: Please don't troll. She is an internet friend but her friendship means a lot to me.

    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=894741
    ^^ most of this is still relevant (long read and I was the OP)

    Anyway, about 3 months ago, I made a friend through WoW (trolls, GTFO). We became friends because we were in the same guild and she seemed a little off, so I asked her what the matter was. From there, we became best friends because we were both emotionally F***ed and needed eachother.
    I just want to stress at this point, that I have tried every method under the sun and she was the only proper friend that I have made in 11 years.
    Anyway, in the game, I love raiding. Its an amazing feeling to go with 24 other people and kill something with infinity-gazillion hp. She had told me that we would still be friends if I wanted to go to a proper raiding guild. We would still be in touch by text, e-mail, msn and in game whispers so we would still be best friends.
    last night, I left and joined a proper raiding guild, but now she doesn't want anything to do with me.
    Apparently she "didn't know it would hurt this much" when she said we would still be friends.
    And now I don't know what to do. I'm going to be completely alone again and death is preferable to that. Ive tried to talk to her but she just doesn't want anything to do with me.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=894741
    ^^ most of this is still relevant (long read and I was the OP)

    Anyway, about 3 months ago, I made a friend through WoW (trolls, GTFO). We became friends because we were in the same guild and she seemed a little off, so I asked her what the matter was. From there, we became best friends because we were both emotionally F***ed and needed eachother.
    I just want to stress at this point, that I have tried every method under the sun and she was the only proper friend that I have made in 11 years.
    Anyway, in the game, I love raiding. Its an amazing feeling to go with 24 other people and kill something with infinity-gazillion hp. She had told me that we would still be friends if I wanted to go to a proper raiding guild. We would still be in touch by text, e-mail, msn and in game whispers so we would still be best friends.
    last night, I left and joined a proper raiding guild, but now she doesn't want anything to do with me.
    Apparently she "didn't know it would hurt this much" when she said we would still be friends.
    And now I don't know what to do. I'm going to be completely alone again and death is preferable to that. Ive tried to talk to her but she just doesn't want anything to do with me.
    Don't be so pathetic.

    Losing friends is always hard, but gaining them is easy - talk to your class mates, work mates and generally people your age, and try to make friends. As for your e-friend, give her some time and see how she feels - if she still doesn't want to be friends then who cares, you don't actually know her.

    Also, why are you emotionally ******? I'd like to hear this.
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    (Original post by ChunkymunkyDJC)
    Don't be so pathetic.

    Losing friends is always hard, but gaining them is easy - talk to your class mates, work mates and generally people your age, and try to make friends. As for your e-friend, give her some time and see how she feels - if she still doesn't want to be friends then who cares, you don't actually know her.

    Also, why are you emotionally ******? I'd like to hear this.
    Gaining them is easy?
    It ******* isn't! Ive made 1 friend in 11 years and its easy?!
    And who cares if we haven't met physically? Shes always been there when I needed her before and if that isn't friendship, I don't know what is.
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    Dude you have some serious issues.
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    (Original post by DannyBoy123)
    Dude you have some serious issues.
    Which is why I came here.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Gaining them is easy?
    It ******* isn't! Ive made 1 friend in 11 years and its easy?!
    And who cares if we haven't met physically? Shes always been there when I needed her before and if that isn't friendship, I don't know what is.
    How have you tried to gain friends then? Enlighten me.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Which is why I came here.
    To get advice from a bunch of unqualified A-level students?
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Gaining them is easy?
    It ******* isn't! Ive made 1 friend in 11 years and its easy?!
    And who cares if we haven't met physically? Shes always been there when I needed her before and if that isn't friendship, I don't know what is.
    Lets not kid ourselves here - you don't need her, you need what she does for you (i.e vent your anger, listens to your problems, relates to what you're saying).

    You have problems man and they're not going to go away just because you're putting your mind off them by playing a game. Talk to family about your problems, don't keep them locked up or you'll emotionally implode. Try and make friends outside the game, there are some threads on here that'll help you with that. If you "can't" then you're just doing something wrong, it might be easy to fix. :yes:
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    (Original post by ChunkymunkyDJC)
    How have you tried to gain friends then? Enlighten me.
    Half a dozen clubs and talking to my class mates.
    Just seems to drive people further away.
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    This is probably the funniest and saddest thing I've read in quite a while.
    When I say sad I mean in both senses, and I didn't even think that was possible..
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    (Original post by Altruistic1)
    Lets not kid ourselves here - you don't need her, you need what she does for you (i.e vent your anger, listens to your problems, relates to what you're saying).

    You have problems man and they're not going to go away just because you're putting your mind off them by playing a game. Talk to family about your problems, don't keep them locked up or you'll emotionally implode. Try and make friends outside the game, there are some threads on here that'll help you with that. If you "can't" then you're just doing something wrong, it might be easy to fix. :yes:
    Maybe I don't need her, but I need someone to stop me being alone.
    Talking to my family isn't an option (abusive mother, dead father, brother refuses to acknowledge my existence).
    I want to fix this with her though.
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    I know nothing about world of warcraft, so you may as well have been speaking Afrikaans for most of that.

    But seeing as your friendship was based on the fact that, as you say you were both, "emotionally ******," surely it wasn't going to be the healthiest of relationships. It isn't really a great thing to have in common.
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    (Original post by Deano88)
    I know nothing about world of warcraft, so you may as well have been speaking Afrikaans for most of that.

    But seeing as your friendship was based on the fact that, as you say you were both, "emotionally ******," surely it wasn't going to be the healthiest of relationships. It isn't really a great thing to have in common.
    Its not ideal. I know that.
    But we became so close. She drove 400 miles in the middle of the night because she was worried about me despite not knowing precisely where I lived or having any way to contact me at that point. She just drove all over the county looking for me. (she was back home before I had means to contact her again)

    The game is more or less irrelevant, its just how we met.
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    leave the guild? Show her you care more about your friendship than a game?
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    uninstall wow then sign up to wowdetox.com

    that game is nothing but evil for people that treat it as more than a hobbie. It also stunts your social skills so you will always struggle to make friends while playing it. Some majorly sad **** are on there with nothing to live for but a little cartoon character.

    before you attack i am talking from experience. i used to play then when my guildies had an actually arguement over ventrilo i thought WTF am i doing? they all take it sooo seriously but to me it was just a bit of fun. quit that boring **** and get socialising in the real world my friend!

    also you say you talk to other people, get asking them to do something like coffee, play some xbox, go out for drinks or cinema etc etc
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    (Original post by scanningforlifeforms)
    leave the guild? Show her you care more about your friendship than a game?
    That was my first thought.
    but what if she won't let me back into her guild?
    Then Ive lost both her and raiding. (sounds stupid I know, I genuinely do care about her 1000 times more than raiding.)
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    That was my first thought.
    but what if she won't let me back into her guild?
    Then Ive lost both her and raiding. (sounds stupid I know, I genuinely do care about her 1000 times more than raiding.)
    That's big of you.
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    (Original post by jesty)
    uninstall wow then sign up to wowdetox.com

    that game is nothing but evil for people that treat it as more than a hobbie. It also stunts your social skills so you will always struggle to make friends while playing it. Some majorly sad **** are on there with nothing to live for but a little cartoon character.

    before you attack i am talking from experience. i used to play then when my guildies had an actually arguement over ventrilo i thought WTF am i doing? they all take it sooo seriously but to me it was just a bit of fun. quit that boring **** and get socialising in the real world my friend!

    also you say you talk to other people, get asking them to do something like coffee, play some xbox, go out for drinks or cinema etc etc
    I beleive I said "Trolls, GTFO"
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    Good read i lol'd, would recommend to others and also read again.
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    (Original post by ashy)
    That's big of you.
    Don't quite get what you mean.
    It sounds stupid that I don't want to do the obvious thing and leave the raiding guild. caring about her far more than raiding isn't stupid and i know it.
 
 
 
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