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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    I beleive I said "Trolls, GTFO"
    it was genuine advice, not trollage lol

    quit the game and tell her that. go out in to the real world. do you ever think how little all the years on wow will get you?

    shiny new epics that upon each new patch become worthless. social skills constantly dwindling and becomming more and more distant from the real world.

    sorry to be brutal but just quit the game and get a life or forget your fantasy friend and keep raiding to your hearts content.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Don't quite get what you mean.
    How can you not get what he means? He means, quite simply, stop taking the game so ******* seriously.
    I even had the patience to read your other thread, and although you were more unlucky than I've been with what's happened to your family, I was bullied all throughout school till I left for university. You even started bullying and verbally abusing another girl yourself.
    There is no excuse for your behaviour. I never felt the need to let the **** that happened to me be a reason for sitting on my arse and expecting stuff to start getting better, or allow it to make me feel sorry for myself.
    If you give a **** about this girl, start talking to her by any means but bloody world of warcraft. And to stop using it in general would always be a good thing.
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    (Original post by *Star*Guitar*)
    How can you not get what he means? He means, quite simply, stop taking the game so ******* seriously.
    I even had the patience to read your other thread, and although you were more unlucky than I've been with what's happened to your family, I was bullied all throughout school till I left for university. You even started bullying and verbally abusing another girl yourself.
    There is no excuse for your behaviour. I never felt the need to let the **** that happened to me be a reason for sitting on my arse and expecting stuff to start getting better, or allow it to make me feel sorry for myself.
    If you give a **** about this girl, start talking to her by any means but bloody world of warcraft. And to stop using it in general would always be a good thing.
    Ive tried for 11 ******* years to make friends in the real world and failed.
    I finally make 1 in the game and then I get people telling me to quit the game. If you don't understand why I can't quit, I give up.

    I guess I was stupid to think I would get any proper advice.
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    So basically, you're online friend told you to do something you wanted to do, and then ignored you when you did it? and you're still chasing her around via the internet? Get some balls. For a start. If she wants to be your friend, then she should do it in real-life. Save on the WoW fee and go and visit her, if you really think the two of you should be friends. Also, if what you're doing to make friends isn't working, do something else. Maybe you should try sorting out your own emotions (possibly with some help from a ... therapist) before you pile them on someone who obviously isn't the best person to advise you. Be indepedent. Obviously this ... arrangement isn't working out for you, so why are you hanging on to it?.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    I beleive I said "Trolls, GTFO"
    What he said wasn't really trolling at all (except the WoW detox thing) I think there are already a lot of comments on this thread which count as trolling over it. :/

    Tbh you'd be better off chatting to people on forums like this than playing on WoW. Seriously. The best way would be to get out there but if you're not willing to do that then forums would be best. Its still on the computer, yes but at least you talk about normal things and see other peoples points of view on real life matters(even if they can be a bit dodgy!) On WoW that is probably difficult to do when your just focussing on raiding etc all the time.

    If it really means that much to you to fix the friendship then you'd try at least to join back up with the old guild and if you can't bring yourself to do it then you might want to question how much it really means to you.

    Also by the looks of it you're going to uni soon? Thats a totally fresh start and you should try your best to make friends then!
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    (Original post by jesty)
    it was genuine advice, not trollage lol

    quit the game and tell her that. go out in to the real world. do you ever think how little all the years on wow will get you?

    shiny new epics that upon each new patch become worthless. social skills constantly dwindling and becomming more and more distant from the real world.

    sorry to be brutal but just quit the game and get a life or forget your fantasy friend and keep raiding to your hearts content.
    I refuse to leave the only friend that I have. (or had )
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    (Original post by *Star*Guitar*)
    How can you not get what he means? He means, quite simply, stop taking the game so ******* seriously.
    I even had the patience to read your other thread, and although you were more unlucky than I've been with what's happened to your family, I was bullied all throughout school till I left for university. You even started bullying and verbally abusing another girl yourself.
    There is no excuse for your behaviour. I never felt the need to let the **** that happened to me be a reason for sitting on my arse and expecting stuff to start getting better, or allow it to make me feel sorry for myself.
    If you give a **** about this girl, start talking to her by any means but bloody world of warcraft. And to stop using it in general would always be a good thing.
    well said. we have all had horrible stuff happen to us but its no excuse. you can regret what you do all you want but its what you dont do you will regret the most. forget who said that but i think its very true. its easy to hide away playing in a fantasy world but its no substitute for real life.

    just read wowdetox.com it just makes me laugh all the time at how sad that game is. cant believe i ever played it really as its not me at all.
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    I agree that you should try and socialise face to face.
    I have had to start doing the same thing recently as my home friends have moved away. I have joined fitness classes, where I had to force myself to make chit chat with strangers, which was difficult, but easier each time I go back.
    Could you join something similar, or some kind of club, or maybe volunteering in a charity shop, my mother used to volunteer in a charity shop, mixture of people in there, some are chatty as hell which makes talking to them soo much easier. If you do manage to strike up some kind of friendship with someone, suggest going to the cinema or for a cup of coffee(depending on the age and stuff of the other person).
    It won't be easy, I know you said you have tried to make friends, but your just gonna have to keep trying and try harder, cos how much fun is life going to be with one or no friends. Thats the kind of thinking that is pushing me atm.
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    You sound really, really self-pitying. Your other thread and this one are basically your "woe is me" speech. Well "poor you", I suppose would be the initial answer. But after a while whining on an internet forum about how the world has treated you badly won't get you anywhere, and it certainly isn't endearing. If you channeled half the energy you have put into TSR threads/WoW, apparently, you probably would have more of a social life than you currently do. Get a grip.
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    (Original post by HighSkies)
    Tbh you'd be better off chatting to people on forums like this than playing on WoW. Seriously. The best way would be to get out there but if you're not willing to do that then forums would be best. Its still on the computer, yes but at least you talk about normal things and see other peoples points of view on real life matters(even if they can be a bit dodgy!) On WoW that is probably difficult to do when your just focussing on raiding etc all the time.

    If it really means that much to you to fix the friendship then you'd try at least to join back up with the old guild and if you can't bring yourself to do it then you might want to question how much it really means to you.

    Also by the looks of it you're going to uni soon? Thats a totally fresh start and you should try your best to make friends then!
    I do go on forums when I can't play wow. (parental controls mean I can only log on X hours a day where X is a very low number). I would have gone insane without any form of communication.
    I doubt I'll get into uni. Im just not smart enough to get the grades despite putting in a rediculous amount of revision hours.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Ive tried for 11 ******* years to make friends in the real world and failed.
    I finally make 1 in the game and then I get people telling me to quit the game. If you don't understand why I can't quit, I give up.

    I guess I was stupid to think I would get any proper advice.
    what did you do? punch people in the face for 11 years or something?

    if you play that game you will always be socially retarded.

    i know your type. you probably raid 4+ nights a week for 3-4+ hours at a time. you may have all the shiny new epics that mean nothing when you are walking down the street next to normal people. You are probably grouchy with friends (or maybe not) or housemates etc. Whenever you are not playing wow you are thinking about it or thinking how can you be playing it as soon as possible. THAT is the life of a classic wow addict so at least some of that is probably true.

    quit it and get a real hobby. make some real life friends and you will wonder why you ever wasted so much time. go meet this girl outside of wow if you need to
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    Wait, so in 11 years you have made 0 friends? Do you go out armed with a chainsaw in full bondage equipment or something?
    How in 11 years have you made no friends, i do not understand quite how that is possible. In all fairness, at school i don't think you can go an entire day without speaking to NO-ONE? Surely this is impossible, please enlighten me how you have not made one friend?

    Also, World of Warcraft is an online game i have played many Online Games, however i stop at WoW. But still, yes you do make "friends" on there, however they are not "true friends" that you can talk or go see whenever you wish etc, as you said you only have a few hours a day on the computer. I think due to you not making any friends in the "real" world, you are mistaking this girl who as you have said has emotional and possibly mental problems like yourself as your best friend, so is she due to her mental and emotional state.

    All in all, i suggest leaving World of Warcraft studies have proven it is the "crack-cocaine of online gaming" combine this with your evergrowing list of problems it doesn't seem a very good idea.
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    (Original post by jesty)
    what did you do? punch people in the face for 11 years or something?

    if you play that game you will always be socially retarded.

    i know your type. you probably raid 4+ nights a week for 3-4+ hours at a time. you may have all the shiny new epics that mean nothing when you are walking down the street next to normal people. You are probably grouchy with friends (or maybe not) or housemates etc. Whenever you are not playing wow you are thinking about it or thinking how can you be playing it as soon as possible. THAT is the life of a classic wow addict so at least some of that is probably true.

    quit it and get a real hobby. make some real life friends and you will wonder why you ever wasted so much time. go meet this girl outside of wow if you need to
    Your right, I will always be socially retarded. I'm already socially retarded.
    Its easy for you to say "go and get some real friends" but Ive tried so hard, for so long.
    As for meeting her outside of wow, I doubt she will want anything to do with me.
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    (Original post by Troubled_Student)
    Wait, so in 11 years you have made 0 friends? Do you go out armed with a chainsaw in full bondage equipment or something?
    How in 11 years have you made no friends, i do not understand quite how that is possible. In all fairness, at school i don't think you can go an entire day without speaking to NO-ONE? Surely this is impossible, please enlighten me how you have not made one friend?

    Also, World of Warcraft is an online game i have played many Online Games, however i stop at WoW. But still, yes you do make "friends" on there, however they are not "true friends" that you can talk or go see whenever you wish etc, as you said you only have a few hours a day on the computer. I think due to you not making any friends in the "real" world, you are mistaking this girl who as you have said has emotional and possibly mental problems like yourself as your best friend, so is she due to her mental and emotional state.

    All in all, i suggest leaving World of Warcraft studies have proven it is the "crack-cocaine of online gaming" combine this with your evergrowing list of problems it doesn't seem a very good idea.
    Sadly, all I did was be myself which turned out to be the equivilent of a chainsaw and bondage gear.
    I genuinely did go days without saying a word to anyone (not out of choice).

    She may not be a real friend, but I know she cares about me and I care about her. It feels like I have a friend and thats all that matters right?
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Sadly, all I did was be myself which turned out to be the equivilent of a chainsaw and bondage gear.
    I genuinely did go days without saying a word to anyone (not out of choice).

    She may not be a real friend, but I know she cares about me and I care about her. It feels like I have a friend and thats all that matters right?
    How on this earth, can nobody talk to you for days or you cannot make friends? Do you shun society or look like you will bite someone's head clean off if they came and spoke to you?

    You went days without saying a word to anyone, not out of choice? You always have a choice! So your telling me, that you cannot physically open your mouth to talk to someone? You shouldn't wait for people to initiate conversation with you, try and speak to them as well.

    No that is not all that matters. Although she feels like a real friend, she isn't She's off the internet and probably lives thousands of miles away from you. Your probably never going to meet her, and in real life if you did meet her she probably wouldn't care about you. Yes have friends over the internet, i have a few as well, but you also need real friends.

    At the moment your like

    "I have an internet friend and she cares about me, i no longer need real friends"

    Quit World of Warcraft right now, delete your account whatever. Go out and make friends.
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    i've got no clue how wow works but have you tried asking her to join your guildie mabob?
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    (Original post by Rooster523)
    i've got no clue how wow works but have you tried asking her to join your guildie mabob?
    Shes the leader of the old guild, she won't abandon them for me.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Can i have this locked please.
    I'm getting nothing but troll replies from people with 0 understanding.
    You're just expecting people to feel sorry for you. I think you feel sorry enough for yourself without everybody else having to chip in.
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    (Original post by archlord destin)
    Your right, I will always be socially retarded. I'm already socially retarded.
    Its easy for you to say "go and get some real friends" but Ive tried so hard, for so long.
    As for meeting her outside of wow, I doubt she will want anything to do with me.
    right this is the last comment i will make and imo a decent bit of advice from someone with a little bit more life experience.

    everyone generally warms towards positive, confident (not all the time) and friendly people. Ill tell you right now that wow will do nothing for you in the future as its just there to grab in as many people as it can then absorb all of your time and money. Its what the game is designed to do!

    If you quit and join some clubs by the time you start uni or get a job you will have the social skills you require to make friends. It will happen. i dont think there is anyone out there that cannot make friends or get girlfriends/boyfriends.

    my best mate always said "noone likes a matyr" which is such a good bit of advice. These people who just whine about their lives, being bored etc etc will get the odd bit of sympathy but that doesnt mean friendship. Get excited about ceroc dancing, a book club or if you are a gamer maybe even join a LAN party group so you at least get face to face with people. random examples i know but theirs tonnes of things you can get in to. Even though you have had some tough times being positive and an addictive person to be around will get you more friends than you know what to do with!

    when you start chatting to new people just keep it light and fun and eventually you can ask them to do soemthign like getting a coffee or going for a pint.

    if you really wanna keep in contact with this girl ring her and just say "look ive decided to quit wow and get on with life. I would really liek to come and see you sometime and even treat you to a glass of wine if your lucky hahaha. Ive had enough of getting nothing out of wow and i got some stuff im looking forwar dot doing"

    she will respect you for it at least.
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    Whats with all the **** replies, Trolls GTFO

    Ok OP personally I don't know how this WoW works as i've never played it, I read your previous thread and you seem quite desperate to make freinds or just one. Can I ask you if your going to uni? You are a nice guy but you must be very shy which is understandable due to the bullying and lack of confidence.
 
 
 
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