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    By this I mean sexual OCD.

    My boyfriend feels bad if he sees a naked woman or if he sees a woman he find attractive in the street, he feels guilty.

    Most other men would simply disregard it and completly forget about that person or image, but my boyfriend will constantly think about it for days on end and keep on feeling bad about it.

    He tries not to think about it, but then it comes back into his head and other images/thoughts then come into his head whilst he is trying to avoid thinking about them (so, say if he saw a naked woman on television, he would try not to think about it, but then he'd end up thinking about like, my best friend naked and stuff - which really distresses him)

    Or, he'll think that he doesn't find me attractive anymore, when he swears he does because his mind tries to trick him into thinking he doesn't, when deep down he says he really does (we've been together for 5 years so its not just a silly little fling, its serious)

    Is this a form of OCD? What can I do to help him and who can we see to fix this problem as it is really distressing for him?

    What would be the procedure in resolving this problem?

    thank-you so much!!!!!
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    That is not OCD. OCD is Obsessive Compulsive disorder. Kinda like touching wood or having coins all heads up and in size order. :ninja:
    That seems to be some sort of anxiety disorder. Am no doctor though :p:
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    (Original post by Terryw)
    That is not OCD. OCD is Obsessive Compulsive disorder. Kinda like touching wood or having coins all heads up and in size order. :ninja:
    That seems to be some sort of anxiety disorder. Am no doctor though :p:
    How would it be treated though? I don't like seeing him this upset, its putting a strain on our relationship
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    How would it be treated though? I don't like seeing him this upset, its putting a strain on our relationship
    He would have to go and see his GP and tell them, if it is serious enough, he will be referred to a specialist who can try and get to the bottom of the issue.

    You could maybe try and talk to him about it too.
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    It is a form OCD. It's like intrusive thoughts. I suffer from it a little, not as bad as him by the sounds of it.

    Tell him to see a doctor. It can be treated using meds and/or therapy.
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    (Original post by Hmm.)
    By this I mean sexual OCD.

    My boyfriend feels bad if he sees a naked woman or if he sees a woman he find attractive in the street, he feels guilty.

    Most other men would simply disregard it and completly forget about that person or image, but my boyfriend will constantly think about it for days on end and keep on feeling bad about it.

    He tries not to think about it, but then it comes back into his head and other images/thoughts then come into his head whilst he is trying to avoid thinking about them (so, say if he saw a naked woman on television, he would try not to think about it, but then he'd end up thinking about like, my best friend naked and stuff - which really distresses him)

    Or, he'll think that he doesn't find me attractive anymore, when he swears he does because his mind tries to trick him into thinking he doesn't, when deep down he says he really does (we've been together for 5 years so its not just a silly little fling, its serious)

    Is this a form of OCD? What can I do to help him and who can we see to fix this problem as it is really distressing for him?

    What would be the procedure in resolving this problem?

    thank-you so much!!!!!
    .....haooooooww.. he's got you sucked in hasn't he!!

    My brain also tricks me into staring a beautiful girls in the street

    when I'm in a club, my brain tricks me into buying girls drinks and talking to them..

    then my brain tricks me into inviting them back to mine, then it tricks us 'both' into getting naked..

    Then it tricks me into stickin my wotsit up her dooda and moving it in and out... I don't know whats going on!!! All this trickery in 1 day!!

    Moron...
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    (Original post by Terryw)
    He would have to go and see his GP and tell them, if it is serious enough, he will be referred to a specialist who can try and get to the bottom of the issue.

    You could maybe try and talk to him about it too.
    We talk about it all the time.

    He says one of the issues is that he thinks it will hurt me if I know the things he thinks of/ has seen.

    I used to be VERY insecure about myself and he helped me overcome a lot of issues I had and has made me more confident in my own body. He stopped watching porn after about 2 years into the relationship as he felt bad after watching it and thinking what I would think if I knew he had been.

    (he used to feel bad for watching porn before we were together, too)

    Now he tries to avoid everything that's like porn, or music videos with semi-nude women on...even staring at other women in the street.

    I know its not normal what he's doing, but I tell him I don't care if he sees another women in the street and thinks "oh, she's attractive" and then carries on with his business and forgets about her like normal men do, but he just can't do it
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    (Original post by ToeRag)
    .....haooooooww.. he's got you sucked in hasn't he!!

    My brain also tricks me into staring a beautiful girls in the street

    when I'm in a club, my brain tricks me into buying girls drinks and talking to them..

    then my brain tricks me into inviting them back to mine, then it tricks us 'both' into getting naked..

    Then it tricks me into stickin my wotsit up her dooda and moving it in and out... I don't know whats going on!!! All this trickery in 1 day!!

    Moron...
    He's in a relationship with me, why would he do all of that?!
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    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intrusive_thoughts
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    (Original post by Terryw)
    That is not OCD. OCD is Obsessive Compulsive disorder. Kinda like touching wood or having coins all heads up and in size order. :ninja:
    That seems to be some sort of anxiety disorder. Am no doctor though :p:
    Yeah, it ain't OCD, seems more of a worrying, stress related thing to me. Just needs something to calm him down, worth seeing a Doctor actually to get it diagnosed (if it needs diagnosing) and some pills will do the trick
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    As people have said it sounds like it has some OCD like symptoms or type symptoms. I know its going to a little hard for him to talk to a doctor about this but this really is the way forward, the doctor is there to help him and they will to the best of their ability. The best call is to go there, as we cant really help im afraid.
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    (Original post by Hmm.)
    He's in a relationship with me, why would he do all of that?!
    Why do people cheat?, have thoughts about other people (in hushed tones..) NAKED???

    I am at a loss.. (insert sarcastic shrug)

    Although top marks to your bloke for convincing you that him having very normal, male thoughts about other people whilst in a relationship with you, is a medical condition....

    Awesome!
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    (Original post by ToeRag)
    Why do people cheat?, have thoughts about other people (in hushed tones..) NAKED???

    I am at a loss.. (insert sarcastic shrug)

    Although top marks to your bloke for convincing you that him having very normal, male thoughts about other people whilst in a relationship with you, is a medical condition....

    Awesome!
    I feel sorry for any of your future girlfriends.

    If you're not going to help, please don't contribute to the thread.
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    Has he been brought up in a really strict family? I know some people think sex is an extremely taboo subject and avoid any mention of it because of their upbringing.

    I would suggest counselling as he needs to talk through his issues with a trained professional. It's great that he has you for support but a counsellor will maybe have a better idea how to get him over the issue...or at least help a little.
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    (Original post by haz220807)
    Has he been brought up in a really strict family? I know some people think sex is an extremely taboo subject and avoid any mention of it because of their upbringing.

    I would suggest counselling as he needs to talk through his issues with a trained professional. It's great that he has you for support but a counsellor will maybe have a better idea how to get him over the issue...or at least help a little.
    No, his family are really up front when it comes to sex and they aren't strict about it at all - they even make jokes about it and things
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    (Original post by Hmm.)
    I feel sorry for any of your future girlfriends.

    If you're not going to help, please don't contribute to the thread.
    How to you know I'm not gay.... such a racist...!!
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    So, how do we arrange a meeting with a GP for mental issues?
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    (Original post by Hmm.)
    So, how do we arrange a meeting with a GP for mental issues?
    If he makes an appointment with his regular GP (or even a nurse in the practice) and explains the issue they will be able to refer him to a relevant professional, it may take a while but should get done.
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    (Original post by Terryw)
    That is not OCD. OCD is Obsessive Compulsive disorder. Kinda like touching wood or having coins all heads up and in size order. :ninja:
    That seems to be some sort of anxiety disorder. Am no doctor though :p:
    Yes it is! Touching wood or having coins all heads up and in size order are minor cases of OCD.

    This is like, intrusive thoughts. My mother suffers from it too. A part from instead of sexual thoughts its cleaning; if someone prepares meat in her kitchen or handles eggs she cries then goes in and cleans it from top to bottom for hours. She hates outdoor shoes coming into the house because she thinks that we'll get germs, she hates other people sitting on her toilet and cleans it every night. If someone has been to an outside toilet she makes them take their clothes off and shower (me, my dad and sister, not random people visiting) then clean the toilet before she feels better.

    She's talked to me about it before and she said it's thoughts taking over, she tries to ignore them but they just grow and grow more out of control.

    I made scrambled eggs for lunch and she said that she'd crack the eggs and stuff and pour it into the pan 'incase you spill anything and i put some food on top of it and we all die'

    My advice, OP, is to talk to him, get him to a GP and try to get him some professional help.
 
 
 
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