Turn on thread page Beta

New boyfriend didn't get me a present for my birthday - should I be concerned? watch

    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by ttx)
    That's a really really bad thing to say. I'd quite possibly dump a girl for saying that.
    if u dump your gf over this then i think she deserves better.
    Offline

    13
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by speedstacker)
    if u dump your gf over this then i think she deserves better.
    I don't want to date a girl whose opinions of me are formed by what her friends think. Simple as that.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    sounds like he just wants to take it super slow.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes indeed.

    I'm not sure what to think. Maybe it's a sign that he doesn't really care.

    But then, why does he want me to meet his parents? and why has he done other huge things that shows he cares (like travel accross the world just to see me when he was at a long conference).

    It's all so strange.
    christ woman chill out. he's taking thing slowly, he doesn't want to scare you off, he doesnt want to risk buying you much in fear you might see it as too serious, too fast!
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Be concerned when your boyfriend gets you £40 vouchers for GAME because "you've been mentioning you've wanted a DS for a while"
    Offline

    14
    ReputationRep:
    He got you a card.

    Anything more after 6 weeks would be coming on pretty strong IMO.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    Simple answer...yes

    unless he is planning some form of meal or day out...or its not arrived from ebay yet (used that excuse many a time)
    Offline

    18
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm worried that it may be a sign of general apathy regarding our relationship. A sign of something deeper?
    oh good gods he doesnt get you a present and thats the conclusion you come to how insecure are you?

    anyway it is a little odd, at six weeks i wouldnt buy soemthing deep and meaningful but i would get my gf something even if its only a box of chocs or some flowers but after six weeks i wouldnt think its that big a deal
    Offline

    20
    (Original post by khalaf)
    Maybe he's trying to take it slow and not make it seem like he's getting too attached..After all, 6 weeks in relationship terms is not that much..
    I'd say this. Though I did once get a girl (who hads never been my girlfriend) something for her birthday because she'd said she wanted one. We never spoke since then, actually... I don't even know if she still has it.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by nouvelle_vague)
    Exactly
    What exactily do you mean by that? That he's somehow lying about his conference? Pretty hard to do when the conference and his attendance has been widely publicised.

    So what exactily did you mean?
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Nick_000)
    I'd have at least took you out for a meal or something.

    Thanks . I didn't even get that. Because he's at his sodding coference at the other side of the world.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by little_red_sox)
    I was with my boyfriend 4 years and he didn't get me a card, OP. If i were you, I wouldn't say anything, I wouldn't do anything. Knowing me I'd make a huuuge fuss of him on his birthday so he gets the idea that it's a big thing for me. Don't go sounding ungrateful by complaining, it's not sexy.
    Thank you. That's good advice.

    My only fear is that he's taking the piss. That the lack of birthday gift is a sign that I'm just a shag.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by MichaelG)
    christ woman chill out. he's taking thing slowly, he doesn't want to scare you off, he doesnt want to risk buying you much in fear you might see it as too serious, too fast!
    Then why view houses with me? why ask if i want to meet his parents? Why say the L word?
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Then why view houses with me? why ask if i want to meet his parents? Why say the L word?
    because those are the important things to him! If you aren't happy about viewing houses with him, or meeting his parents, or even him loving you, why the hell does one present for a birthday mean so much to you?!

    Appreciate what you have, stop picking on the negatives! So many people in this world would give anything to have a man like you've got..
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: July 23, 2009
Poll
A-level students - how do you feel about your results?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.