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    Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against gay people, and have a few gay friends but I'm beginning to suspect this one's coming on to me, and it's getting a little disturbing. He sent me a text message a few days ago about me and him (I'm obviously not going to post the exact message otherwise it would be obvious) which was very disturbing

    How do I explain to him that I'm not gay and I'm not interested?

    Sometimes I act camp but that's just for fun and I think he's been picking up the wrong signals.

    Help :o:
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    Just tell him that your'e not interested in that way and hope that you can still be friends.

    But if you knew he was gay, youre a bit of a kn*b if you came on to him 'for fun'.
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    (Original post by Walkin'Butterfly)
    Just tell him that your'e not interested in that way and hope that you can still be friends.
    Do this.
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    Stop acting camp would be a good place to start...
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    just say sorry ,u r not the kind of person he thought was?dont sound rude or u r disgusted would be fine...
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    "By the way, in case you were getting the wrong impression, I'm straight."

    Depending on how facetious you're feeling you could imply that he'll be terribly disappointed, but in my experience sarcasm has a tendency to be misinterpreted when it most matters.
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    Start eating rocks and passing gun powder, grunt at women and watch porn in public. You will be ok.
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    Get a girlfriend?...:dontknow:
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    (Original post by Walkin'Butterfly)
    But if you knew he was gay, youre a bit of a kn*b if you came on to him 'for fun'.
    i dont think he meant that he was coming onto his friend. but yeh it would be a good idea to stop acting camp around him
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    (Original post by Walkin'Butterfly)
    Just tell him that your'e not interested in that way and hope that you can still be friends.

    But if you knew he was gay, youre a bit of a kn*b if you came on to him 'for fun'.
    I act camp around everyone sometimes, not specifically around him. Just in a jokey way, using words like "honeybun" etc lol :rolleyes:
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    If you really think he's coming onto you, tell him to cut it out or you can't be friends.

    I've got two mates who are gay and I love both of them but they're well aware of the fact that I'm straight and they know not to try anything silly with me, just as I know my boundaries when I'm socialising with my female friends.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I act camp around everyone sometimes, not specifically around him. Just in a jokey way, using words like "honeybun" etc lol :rolleyes:
    Then don't be surprised if he thinks you're gay
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    (Original post by Camden Town)
    If you really think he's coming onto you, tell him to cut it out or you can't be friends.

    I've got two mates who are gay and I love both of them but they're well aware of the fact that I'm straight and they know not to try anything silly with me, just as I know my boundaries when I'm socialising with my female friends.
    Ok I think I will try this.

    That txt message he sent me a few days ago makes me scared, I'm scared to meet up with him now...lol
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    Make sure he was coming on to you before you say anything, can't say how important that is. A lot of straight people just imagine this because they expect it from gay guys (completely wrong idea btw), and he will understand if you tell him you are completely straight.
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    Use the word friend alot. Act normal his behaviour shouldnt affect how you should behave
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    Next time you go out be like "God, look at the tits on that girl - they're great. I love tits. I love women. I really want to go out with a woman. A woman."
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok I think I will try this.

    That txt message he sent me a few days ago makes me scared, I'm scared to meet up with him now...lol
    You don't need to be scared - he's gay, not a rapist lol. Also, as others have said, make sure he's coming on to you before you talk to him - I know this one stupid guy at uni who thinks that all gay guys are attracted to him and that they want to have sex with him. True story.

    (Original post by Pickford)
    Next time you go out be like "God, look at the tits on that girl - they're great. I love tits. I love women. I really want to go out with a woman. A woman."
    :toofunny:
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    Tell him ur not interested cuz it will be too late and will end in a bad way and am sure you dont want that. Tha sooner you do it the better and if he is smart and understand where ur coming from then he will still be friends with you and happily ever after.

    Just talk to him try to use empathy its really good technique
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    Make love to him. Then punch him in the face. He then has a choice to have sex with you again and get punched in the face or leave it. If he pursues it, that shows his commitment to you and you should admire that dedication.
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    (Original post by ojpowermake)
    Make sure he was coming on to you before you say anything, can't say how important that is. A lot of straight people just imagine this because they expect it from gay guys (completely wrong idea btw), and he will understand if you tell him you are completely straight.
    This is really good advice. He might not actually fancy you at all and just be messing around - he might just be trying to provoke a reaction. i've been guilty of doing that myself in the past and i'm sure other people do it.

    But the fact that you say you act camp probably makes it more likely that he is trying to come onto you. If i were you i would just tell him exactly what you've said on here but using fluffier words (especially if he's quite sensitive); just say that you would rather he didn't write those kinds of texts etc because you find them a bit awkward because you're straight and don't fancy him. Some people on here have said you should stop acting camp but i don't think you should - you shouldn't have to change the way you behave simply because it gives off the wrong message to one of your friends.
 
 
 
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