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    Recently I met a boy who I really like, we've been going out and he's asked me to go back to his a couple of times but i've made excuses. I dont want to keep on making excuses incase he thinks I don't like him or ends up getting bored.
    I'm 18 and still a virgin and I do want to go with him its not really the sex im nervous about ( obviously I'm a bit nervous but more of a good nervous , more worried about disappointing him and also should I tell him cause he's bound to know?
    I just dont want to be rejected coz I havent slept with anyone before...help !:confused:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Recently I met a boy who I really like, we've been going out and he's asked me to go back to his a couple of times but i've made excuses. I dont want to keep on making excuses incase he thinks I don't like him or ends up getting bored.
    I'm 18 and still a virgin and I do want to go with him its not really the sex im nervous about ( obviously I'm a bit nervous but more of a good nervous , more worried about disappointing him and also should I tell him cause he's bound to know?
    I just dont want to be rejected coz I havent slept with anyone before...help !:confused:

    Before I suggest any course of action, first you must realise that there is nothing embarrassing about virginity. It really does hold a certain value. For example, I am so completely loved up with a boy, and when I think about it sometimes it is difficult to swallow that he has had two other boys before me. Ideally, I would be his only lover for life, but I'm very traditional. Either way, being a virgin at 18 is a good thing. I wish I still was and I'm nearly 20. Don't let societal ideas on virginity=lame distort your ability to think. It's not lame, it means you're not a filthy little skank girl.

    And if he doesn't appreciate your virginity, then he is a completely unworthy person for you - quite frankly. I suggest you let him know; tell him it's not him (that you're severely attracted to him - complimenting his self-esteem will work a charm - it does with anybody), it's just that you've never done it before and you're afraid you won't be as good as his past exploits (if he's had any).

    To be honest, most men are simple creatures. You could lay back and just think of England and he would still probably have the time of his life. However, if you want to spice things up, ie. climb on top, slap his chest and talk dirty (which if course I suggest, along with industrial rope to tie him up), then just drink half a bottle of whisky beforehand. Inebriation will loosen you up, remove any inhibitions you might have. I hope all of this is helpful?
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    (Original post by dannymccormick)
    Before I suggest any course of action, first you must realise that there is nothing embarrassing about virginity. It really does hold a certain value. For example, I am so completely loved up with a boy, and when I think about it sometimes it is difficult to swallow that he has had two other boys before me. Ideally, I would be his only lover for life, but I'm very traditional. Either way, being a virgin at 18 is a good thing. I wish I still was and I'm nearly 20. Don't let societal ideas on virginity=lame distort your ability to think. It's not lame, it means you're not a filthy little skank girl.

    And if he doesn't appreciate your virginity, then he is a completely unworthy person for you - quite frankly. I suggest you let him know; tell him it's not him (that you're severely attracted to him - complimenting his self-esteem will work a charm - it does with anybody), it's just that you've never done it before and you're afraid you won't be as good as his past exploits (if he's had any).

    To be honest, most men are simple creatures. You could lay back and just think of England and he would still probably have the time of his life. However, if you want to spice things up, ie. climb on top, slap his chest and talk dirty (which if course I suggest, along with industrial rope to tie him up), then just drink half a bottle of whisky beforehand. Inebriation will loosen you up, remove any inhibitions you might have. I hope all of this is helpful?

    This!!

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    (Original post by Laurah5498)
    This!!

    Bloody good advice from a bloke! Have some +rep for it
    But...HE'S GAY!!! :facepalm: :eek3:
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    (Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
    But...HE'S GAY!!! :facepalm: :eek3:

    So? Its still good advice
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    If you like him this much, you should be able to tell him.
    If he's not willing to wait until you're ready, he's not worth knowing.
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    (Original post by Laurah5498)
    This!!

    Bloody good advice from a bloke! Have some +rep for it
    I completely agree!
    OP, follow his advice!
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    (Original post by Antimatter)
    If you like him this much, you should be able to tell him.
    If he's not willing to wait until you're ready, he's not worth knowing.
    This. Don't feel pressured!
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    (Original post by Laurah5498)
    This!!

    Bloody good advice from a bloke! Have some +rep for it
    (Original post by writergirl)
    I completely agree!
    OP, follow his advice!
    I agree with them OP! Gay or not, its still really good advice and that's what OP needs :yep:

    Virginity is not something you should be ashamed of. It's something you should embrace! It doesn't matter what age you lose it. You should lose it when you feel comfortable and ready! You've only got it once ... don't waste it!
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    [QUOTE=mlo90]I agree with them OP! Gay or not, its still really good advice and that's what OP needs :yep:

    Virginity is not something you should be ashamed of. It's something you should embrace! It doesn't matter what age you lose it. You should lose it when you feel comfortable and ready! You've only got it once ... don't waste it![/QUOTE]

    and i agree with this completely!
    OP, the amount of people i know who have lost 'it' and regret it immensely is alot more than you'd expect. Wait for someone who truly respects you and who for the rest of your life will be glad to have lost it to.
    there's no shame in respecting yourself after all
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    (Original post by dannymccormick)
    Before I suggest any course of action, first you must realise that there is nothing embarrassing about virginity. It really does hold a certain value. For example, I am so completely loved up with a boy, and when I think about it sometimes it is difficult to swallow that he has had two other boys before me. Ideally, I would be his only lover for life, but I'm very traditional. Either way, being a virgin at 18 is a good thing. I wish I still was and I'm nearly 20. Don't let societal ideas on virginity=lame distort your ability to think. It's not lame, it means you're not a filthy little skank girl.

    And if he doesn't appreciate your virginity, then he is a completely unworthy person for you - quite frankly. I suggest you let him know; tell him it's not him (that you're severely attracted to him - complimenting his self-esteem will work a charm - it does with anybody), it's just that you've never done it before and you're afraid you won't be as good as his past exploits (if he's had any).

    To be honest, most men are simple creatures. You could lay back and just think of England and he would still probably have the time of his life. However, if you want to spice things up, ie. climb on top, slap his chest and talk dirty (which if course I suggest, along with industrial rope to tie him up), then just drink half a bottle of whisky beforehand. Inebriation will loosen you up, remove any inhibitions you might have. I hope all of this is helpful?
    Eh!? I don't get that at all and I read the entire flippin' essay to try and figure it out. I was gonna say I think you accidently referred to this person you're loved up with as a boy but you've done it twice! You said two other boys before me though? So he's what? He used to be homosexual and now he's corrected his ways? I certainly wouldn't get involved with an ex homosexual if I were you. Sinfulness can be contagious.
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    Thanks for the replies. I know people think 'well if you can't tell him then you aren't ready' but I do want to go further with him I just don't want things to go wrong because I don't know how or whatever plus its going to be strange as i've heard that I probably won't enjoy my first time.

    God I wish things were simple ha ha
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    nothing wrong with being a virgin. most guys find it exciting anyway, the prospect of popping a girls cherry and all etc etc, from what ive seen anyway...

    but if you're not comfy with losing it to him, DONT FEEL PRESSURED. i cannot stress that ENOUGH. you are NOT a loser or anything negative if you dont give it up.

    if he keeps being pushy about trying to get you into his house, and you've only been seeing each other for a short while, he's just a horny kid who wants sex.
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    (Original post by writergirl)
    and i agree with this completely!
    OP, the amount of people i know who have lost 'it' and regret it immensely is alot more than you'd expect. Wait for someone who truly respects you and who for the rest of your life will be glad to have lost it to.
    there's no shame in respecting yourself after all
    I see you like to agree with everything 'completely' lol :p:

    She's right though OP wait for someone who'll respect you! You don't want to regret doing it with some guy ... You want to do it with the guy
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    (Original post by screwyouguysimgoinghome)
    Eh!? I don't get that at all and I read the entire flippin' essay to try and figure it out. I was gonna say I think you accidently referred to this person you're loved up with as a boy but you've done it twice! You said two other boys before me though? So he's what? He used to be homosexual and now he's corrected his ways? I certainly wouldn't get involved with an ex homosexual if I were you. Sinfulness can be contagious.
    That made no sense.

    OP, follow dannymccormick's stellar advice.
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    Of course it would be great if it was 'the guy' but i really like this one. I'm thinking he's just a horny kid who wants sex like you said mitsabeeba. This doesn't put me off though lol. The whole thing of wanting sex and not having done it before is so confusing, I want to say yes when he invites me round but then if it gets to a certain stage and I get too embarrassed and then I don't want to say no to him.
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    If you feel you want to loose your virginity with him then make sure you make it special. For example you two could go away to a hotel for the night and really make it something you will look back on with good feelings. Tbh not every guy screws like a porn star and if this boy knows what he is doing he will guide you. If anything I think the whole virginity thing is really hot...I was with a girl and she was a virgin...we went out for a few months and kept talking about it. So I planned a suprise night away one weekend, kept winding her up all week to keep it free, didnt say what we were doing tho. On the night she said it was perfect and romantic and what she dreamed of...and you know what comes next. Make him do something special for it when you are ready to loose it. .
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    (Original post by screwyouguysimgoinghome)
    Eh!? I don't get that at all and I read the entire flippin' essay to try and figure it out. I was gonna say I think you accidently referred to this person you're loved up with as a boy but you've done it twice! You said two other boys before me though? So he's what? He used to be homosexual and now he's corrected his ways? I certainly wouldn't get involved with an ex homosexual if I were you. Sinfulness can be contagious.
    Yes, I am what you would call a homosexual and so is the 'boy' that I refer to. Still, the advice I've given you is sound advice for heteros and homos alike. I would take it if I were you. Good luck with it.
 
 
 
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