meeting - the one -

i believe in lots of mr rights, and lots of mr right-nows, and i'm never without a boyfriend (or three!). there'll always be someone there, you just have to find them.

Reply 2

LubyLoo

jeni8686

Do you think that everyone in life has the opportunity to find the person for them?
Its just (I know this sounds sad) but im worried im never gonna meet the right bloke for me. What happens if I go to uni and meet no1 who i click with, and just dont find anyone good enough throughout my whole life?!
i really want the whole perfect marriage and kids thing, but isnt it a bit scary pinning all your hopes on some man who you havent even met and dont even know if he exists?!!
Someone reassure me that life is fair and I will find my Prince Charming (without having to kiss a load of frogs on the way lol) :p:

I believe in this. Surely there is someone out there for everyone? I hope so anyway. But maybe I'm too much of a romantic...

Reply 3

Né Stig

You normally have to give someone a chance before you find out wether they will be perfect for you or not. You can't judge by just viewing and random chat.

If a girl has a nice persoanlity, they'll be snapped up in minutes. If a guy has, then he suffers longer!

Reply 4

OP

walshie

You normally have to give someone a chance before you find out wether they will be perfect for you or not. You can't judge by just viewing and random chat.

Im not like that at all, in fact I usually give more than enough time to the blokes that arent worth it!! If anything Im worried that the bloke for me might just judge straight away that Im not for him and then Ill just carry on being single. Oh Im such a drama queen :biggrin:

Reply 5

Hana_87

16

Kissing the frogs is half the fun!

Reply 6

khil

jeni8686

Do you think that everyone in life has the opportunity to find the person for them?
Its just (I know this sounds sad) but im worried im never gonna meet the right bloke for me. What happens if I go to uni and meet no1 who i click with, and just dont find anyone good enough throughout my whole life?!
i really want the whole perfect marriage and kids thing, but isnt it a bit scary pinning all your hopes on some man who you havent even met and dont even know if he exists?!!
Someone reassure me that life is fair and I will find my Prince Charming (without having to kiss a load of frogs on the way lol) :p:

Yeh I believe there's one person who's perfect for just you out there :smile:

Another guy once said, he reckons there're a lot of people out there who's perfect for you, but what makes each different is the history and the memories - they can never be replaced - and that's what makes the one you're with so special and that's why he/she isn't the same.

Well you may not necessarily meet the one at uni - my friend's sister did she's getting married this Sep. But their parents met each other by chance on a holiday with friends in their late 20's, way way after uni. The same with my small group leader - she met her husband way after uni, and now she's pregnant, her baby's due this June! :biggrin:

Reply 7

spoonofdeath

I don't believe in perfect matches, the person most people end up with I think are the closest they find and those that are most willing to change.

Reply 8

Johnny 5

12

There's no perfect person, but there's a lot of great sex out there.
So I've heard.

Reply 9

grace

i don't think everyone has *one* perfect match...what about people who find their 'true love' and then lose them through death or divorce or something? compatability is the key, and love really isn't just an emotion, but a choice (i know, i know, i need to take my own advice.)

Reply 10

OP

2 5 +

There's no perfect person, but there's a lot of great sex out there.
So I've heard.

Well if anyone knows whereabouts that is Id b v.grateful :p:

Reply 11

spoonofdeath

My room? :P

*sorry that's low*

Reply 12

username18215

10

jeni8686

Do you think that everyone in life has the opportunity to find the person for them?
Its just (I know this sounds sad) but im worried im never gonna meet the right bloke for me. What happens if I go to uni and meet no1 who i click with, and just dont find anyone good enough throughout my whole life?!
i really want the whole perfect marriage and kids thing, but isnt it a bit scary pinning all your hopes on some man who you havent even met and dont even know if he exists?!!
Someone reassure me that life is fair and I will find my Prince Charming (without having to kiss a load of frogs on the way lol) :p:

I think it's both a tribute to Western democracy that we worry about finding 'Mr./Mrs Right': while simultaneoulsy acting as it's downfall; there are more important things to concern yourself with.

Ultimately, i agree with lessthanthree, concern yourself not with this and 'Mr Right' shall see you being yourself - as opposed to the person to you are presenting when you are searching for love - and you will live happily ever after...

Reply 13

OP

md_red_uk

Ultimately, i agree with lessthanthree, concern yourself not with this and 'Mr Right' shall see you being yourself - as opposed to the person to you are presenting when you are searching for love - and you will live happily ever after...

i understand what you're saying, but what I mean is by just being yourself, how can you guarantee that you'll actually meet anyone whos willing to spend the rest of their lives with you? I dont go around with "I need someone to love" on my forehead (at least I hope not lol) but that doesnt mean that necessarily someone is gonna fall for me does it :redface:

I bet everyone thinks of me as some kind of sad lonely person but im not *honest*! Just got a lot of issues going on my head about whether things work out OK I guess :smile:

Reply 14

puppy

jeni8686

i understand what you're saying, but what I mean is by just being yourself, how can you guarantee that you'll actually meet anyone whos willing to spend the rest of their lives with you? I dont go around with "I need someone to love" on my forehead (at least I hope not lol) but that doesnt mean that necessarily someone is gonna fall for me does it :redface:

I bet everyone thinks of me as some kind of sad lonely person but im not *honest*! Just got a lot of issues going on my head about whether things work out OK I guess :smile:

You can't guarantee that. Thinking you can is ultimately going to make you very disappointed.

Some people find that special someone but life can also be pretty cruel. I think it's more important to appreciate what you do have with people, whether it lasts forever or not. I think it's quite unrealistic to suppose that you will be compatible with someone your entire life because people change so much. I don't think life would be any worse if I had, say, 3 long-term perfect partners throughout my life rather than just one. There are other important things in life anyway.

Reply 15

khil

jeni8686

i understand what you're saying, but what I mean is by just being yourself, how can you guarantee that you'll actually meet anyone whos willing to spend the rest of their lives with you? I dont go around with "I need someone to love" on my forehead (at least I hope not lol) but that doesnt mean that necessarily someone is gonna fall for me does it :redface:

I bet everyone thinks of me as some kind of sad lonely person but im not *honest*! Just got a lot of issues going on my head about whether things work out OK I guess :smile:

Well tbh if you're NOT yourself and you're presenting yourself as someone you're not - you find someone who likes you - they're not gonna know who you really are, and who they love is not you but who you're pretending to be. That's not finding the "right" one - that's fooling yourself and fooling them into thinking that you are. Besides, a good relationship - a solid one - is based on trust. If you can't relax around the one you love and you can't be yourself and you can't trust them - where is the relationship?

Reply 16

OP

maybe people didnt understand what I wrote!!! When I said "by just being yourself, how can you guarantee that you'll actually meet anyone whos willing to spend the rest of their lives with you" I wasnt therefore saying you can only guarantee meeting someone by not being yourself.

What I meant was even though I do act myself, that doesnt mean someone is definitely going to fall for me does it?

Reply 17

LonelyDogsBite

Lozza

i believe in lots of mr rights, and lots of mr right-nows, and i'm never without a boyfriend (or three!). there'll always be someone there, you just have to find them.

You must be REALLY good looking then, it's a lottery isn't it.

Reply 18

khil