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    Me and this girl have sent about 7 emails to each other where we are basically getting to know each other and stuff.

    Yesterday I casually asked if she is up for a meeting for a drink sometime soon and she has not replied! (She normally replies by now)

    Why the hell would you be happy chatting and making an effort to speak to someone on a dating website and then not want to actually meet them!
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    they're called timewasters. you get used to them in my business. they use dating websites too.
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    She didn't like you?

    Can't tell without seeing the convo, but then again, neither can you really - she could have been thinking anything.
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    Wasting time or taking the mick maybe?
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    She werent taking the mick, they were quite long emails from her, she let me have her msn address and added me on facebook, and seemed very chatty to me
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    and why would you go to the effort and time of writing emails and getting to know someone if she werent interested!
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    Why use match.com?
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    maybe you asked too soon! I would only consider meet up with someone online after I had talked to them on the phone at least once because ultimately it's okay to write emails etc when you have loads of time to think, but you need to be able to have a conversation with each other - not necessarily a long one - but simlarly one all the same.
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    (Original post by Voltex)
    and why would you go to the effort and time of writing emails and getting to know someone if she werent interested!
    Maybe she just wanted someone to speak at the time and nothing more. Probably just a time waster, just forget about her. And maybe avoid match.com.
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    Look at the bright side, your next 6 months will be free.
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    maybe she thought you wanted to meet her for 'more' and you made your move too soon
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    (Original post by Jinxy)
    maybe she thought you wanted to meet her for 'more' and you made your move too soon
    No, it was just for a drink. It was obv she liked me thats why she winked at me on the site. And you cant really get to know someone that well from emails, you really need to meet them. We had sent a total of 14 emails anyway, a total of around 5,000 words!
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    I don't think she's a time waster, I think she's just nervous! Let's face it, there's a big leap going from e-mails to meeting.

    Why not send another e-mail saying how you would love to talk to her and that, if she's not ready to meet you face to face, then she can call you. If you give her your mobile number and she calls you can then build up to meeting in person.

    I've been in the same position as her (I met my husband on match.com and I cancelled our first "first" date because of nerves). Guys seem to jump to the "meeting up" part faster than girls so don't discount her just yet!

    Also, by talking on the phone, you can get to know her better so when you finally do meet up it will be less awkward.

    Good luck.
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    (Original post by Voltex)
    No, it was just for a drink. It was obv she liked me thats why she winked at me on the site. And you cant really get to know someone that well from emails, you really need to meet them. We had sent a total of 14 emails anyway, a total of around 5,000 words!
    Maybe your just over reacting she may well have gone out. Check her fb is she online has she been active? If so then maybe she's found someone else to talk to..
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    Is this "very strange behaviour" the fact that she has a life outside the internet, and is doing something else in the real world?
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    (Original post by almassy)
    I don't think she's a time waster, I think she's just nervous! Let's face it, there's a big leap going from e-mails to meeting.

    Why not send another e-mail saying how you would love to talk to her and that, if she's not ready to meet you face to face, then she can call you. If you give her your mobile number and she calls you can then build up to meeting in person.

    I've been in the same position as her (I met my husband on match.com and I cancelled our first "first" date because of nerves). Guys seem to jump to the "meeting up" part faster than girls so don't discount her just yet!

    Also, by talking on the phone, you can get to know her better so when you finally do meet up it will be less awkward.

    Good luck.
    Jesus christ, its just a date. Im not going to faff around getting her to call me and having all that palaver. Its just a bloody drink with someone you like. Whats hard about that? Why join a dating site if you dont want to meet someone?
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    Off the computer for a bit?
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    Well, Voltex, given your attitude, I think she's had a lucky escape!
 
 
 
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