confusing guy :( grr

i asked a guy i have thought was cute for ages to go with me to the 6th form ball and he said yes. great! or not..
i havent seen him in person since but i have text him a few times. however when i text, all he texts back is a reply to what i put. he doesnt put anything else. this is really giving me the impression he doesnt like me or something. for example i asked him if he was coming out this fri and how was he. he just put im fine thanks, and yes i am coming on fri. useful!!
all my friends and people that know him have said he was really pleased that i asked him to the ball.
doesnt seem like it to me :|
i dont know that he has had lots of experience with girls, maybe thats it? or if he is just generally not very talkative in texts :s-smilie:

or that he just doesnt really like me.
confusion.
any ideas? guys what is your opinion, is he just being a typical bloke pretending not to be bothered!

Reply 1

Planxty

Dunno thats strange... He sounds like a bit of an oddball...

could be that he doesnt fancy you too much OR he does and hes really shy

Reply 2

thunderstorm

OP

1

i dont know what to make of it as everyone else told me he was really chuffed etc.
he is one of my ex boyfriends friends but i dont think he was that bothered about that, maybe it has a tiny bit to do with it i just dont know. sigh!

Reply 3

k@tie

10

Well, what's it like between the two of you in person?

Reply 4

naelse

15

a lot of guys are just quite uncommunicative. some people also find it strange to chat via text. and also he could be shy/nervous and trying not to scare you off by being too full on. This doesn't mean that he doesn't like you. If he didn't, do you not think he would have said no when you asked him out?

Reply 5

Ferret_messiah

8

This is special "guy code" he's using here. See, what it means is that he's actually a KGB agent, and he wants to be involved with you but doesn't want to compromise his role as a Russian spy. Of course he can't tell you this outright, so he has to try and hint at it by not telling you.
Or, y'know, he just might not be very talkative in texts.

Reply 6

SB

2

Some people are just like that. I wouldn't worry, it could be a million and one reasons - maybe he doesn't like text conversations and prefers to have them in person/on the phone, maybe he's shy, maybe he thinks you're really just texting him for information, maybe he's short on credit and doesn't want you to text him back because then he'd have to text back...
I've got friends who do this, it used to be weird but I've got used to it. Don't get upset, he said yes (congrats on asking him btw) and thats really what counts. If he's weird at the ball, that'd be the time to start worrying :smile:

skevvybritt x

Reply 7

ruthiepoothie

11

thunderstorm

i asked a guy i have thought was cute for ages to go with me to the 6th form ball and he said yes. great! or not..
i havent seen him in person since but i have text him a few times. however when i text, all he texts back is a reply to what i put. he doesnt put anything else. this is really giving me the impression he doesnt like me or something. for example i asked him if he was coming out this fri and how was he. he just put im fine thanks, and yes i am coming on fri. useful!!
all my friends and people that know him have said he was really pleased that i asked him to the ball.
doesnt seem like it to me :|
i dont know that he has had lots of experience with girls, maybe thats it? or if he is just generally not very talkative in texts :s-smilie:

or that he just doesnt really like me.
confusion.
any ideas? guys what is your opinion, is he just being a typical bloke pretending not to be bothered!

I think that a lot of guys tend to be like this- i know my ex thought of texts as just a way to ask stuff etc, not really as a method of communication, he prefered to talk in person. My current bf is also a bit like that, he just replies with whatever I've asked and that's it...but the main thing is that, firstly he's replying and secondly he's agreed to go to the ball with you :smile:

So don't worry....some people just aren't the texting kind :smile:

Ruthie xx

Reply 8

ClosetGinger

1

thats what guys are like, be thankful he isn't texting you every 3 minutes asking you how you are. If he said yes to the ball then he likes you, but maybe he doesn't want to appear too keen. I remember an ex of mine telling me that when we first started going out he deliberately waited half an hour before texting me back, so i wouldn't think he had nothing better to do. Guys are confusing, yes it's true but if they weren't then girls would have so much less to talk about!

Reply 9

Agrippina

15

Lots of guys are just rubbish at texting, to be honest. They don't mean to be confusing I think, they just don't put as much effort into texting as girls do, perhaps seeing it as more functional than emotional!

Reply 10

magiccarpet

2

thunderstorm

i asked a guy i have thought was cute for ages to go with me to the 6th form ball and he said yes. great! or not..
i havent seen him in person since but i have text him a few times. however when i text, all he texts back is a reply to what i put. he doesnt put anything else. this is really giving me the impression he doesnt like me or something. for example i asked him if he was coming out this fri and how was he. he just put im fine thanks, and yes i am coming on fri. useful!!
all my friends and people that know him have said he was really pleased that i asked him to the ball.
doesnt seem like it to me :|
i dont know that he has had lots of experience with girls, maybe thats it? or if he is just generally not very talkative in texts :s-smilie:

or that he just doesnt really like me.
confusion.
any ideas? guys what is your opinion, is he just being a typical bloke pretending not to be bothered!

he DOES like you.
1)he said he'd go with you. if he liked someone else he'd have said no.
2)he texts you back- if he didnt lik you he wouldnt bother

conclusion. he is shy.
solution: take him out for coffee and cheer him up/feel him up

Reply 11

khil

15

thunderstorm

i asked a guy i have thought was cute for ages to go with me to the 6th form ball and he said yes. great! or not..
i havent seen him in person since but i have text him a few times. however when i text, all he texts back is a reply to what i put. he doesnt put anything else. this is really giving me the impression he doesnt like me or something. for example i asked him if he was coming out this fri and how was he. he just put im fine thanks, and yes i am coming on fri. useful!!
all my friends and people that know him have said he was really pleased that i asked him to the ball.
doesnt seem like it to me :|
i dont know that he has had lots of experience with girls, maybe thats it? or if he is just generally not very talkative in texts :s-smilie:

or that he just doesnt really like me.
confusion.
any ideas? guys what is your opinion, is he just being a typical bloke pretending not to be bothered!

Don't worry about it - my ex was like that sometimes. I came to realise it's just the way he was, in emails, in texts etc - didn't mean anything - he's just a quiet person. Although never start a debate with him or you'll be there for hours. :rolleyes:

Reply 12

khil

15

magiccarpet

he DOES like you.
1)he said he'd go with you. if he liked someone else he'd have said no.
2)he texts you back- if he didnt lik you he wouldnt bother

conclusion. he is shy.
solution: take him out for coffee and cheer him up/feel him up

Yeh that's actually true. My ex doesn't bother replying to a lot of my texts and emails - which is why I've stopped texting and emailing lol! - he replies sometimes though, briefly - but yeh!

Reply 13

username18215

0

10

Could be getting his own back on the female race by playing "games".

You certainly are worried and seem quite interested, would you be so if he was being talkative etc.?

Reply 14

Flicker

13

texts are a terrible way to communicate because you can't tell tone of voice or anything! my boyfriend doesn't like to use them to talk about anything apart from matter of fact/day to day things. maybe this guy is the same.

talk to him in person and then you'll know how he feels, but don't speculate about text messages because you'll just convince yourself something is wrong when it isn't.

confusing guy :( grr

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