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    (Original post by x y z)
    It just went away. I started to take life less seriously and realised it doesn't really matter what other people think of you. There are always going to be people odder than you.
    Ahh I wish I could do that. At what age did you change?
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    I do. It wears you out. But understanding it kind of helps. I studied Psychology and we talked about anxiety a lot. I think know that you're being irrational is the most frustrating part. Apparently, children who suffer from anxiety/social phobia can get a novelty shaped machine which they strap to themselves which monitors their heart rate and "alerts" them when it increases dramatically by bleeping constantly. Fun.
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    I have been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder for several years now.
    Ive been fighting it, and no matter how uncomfortable or frightened i feel, i always try and put myself out there, and ive gained confidence, slowly helping me to feel comfortable in social situations. Still find it very hard sometimes though.
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    Another thing is I can hang around with a few friends i.e two or three but anymore, I am so reserved I just don't like big groups. And normal stuff people do, i.e chat to people like guys or unknown people. I can only do this when I am drunk.
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    I hate answering the phone, but love meeting new people. I agree evering has these symptoms, just some more than others
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    I fit pretty much all the symptoms and it sucks...we were in vegas and I stayed in the hotel room the whole trip while family went out and my mobile I've had for 3 years has only been talked on for about a half hour as I dread using it...but haven't been officially diagnosed as I'm too scared to see someone about it....

    I just hate social situations and stay awake at night panicing about how stupid i must have sounded/looked/ what I should have done...so I doubt it's shyness as some of these incidents happened over a year ago...
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    (Original post by x.Crystal.x)
    I have been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder for several years now.
    Ive been fighting it, and no matter how uncomfortable or frightened i feel, i always try and put myself out there, and ive gained confidence, slowly helping me to feel comfortable in social situations. Still find it very hard sometimes though.

    How did you start to fight it?

    I have been told to snap out of it, 'whats the worst that could happen?' and to get help. But I just avoid doing anything, and get more inward.

    (Original post by Scarletwings92)
    I fit pretty much all the symptoms and it sucks...we were in vegas and I stayed in the hotel room the whole trip while family went out and my mobile I've had for 3 years has only been talked on for about a half hour as I dread using it...but haven't been officially diagnosed as I'm too scared to see someone about it....

    I just hate social situations and stay awake at night panicing about how stupid i must have sounded/looked/ what I should have done...so I doubt it's shyness as some of these incidents happened over a year ago...
    That's me all over, everyday.
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    Yes, I've had social anxiety since my early teens - I'm extremely shy and become acutely embarrassed in social situations. It's very limiting - I don't think I've ever been to a social event that I have enjoyed, due to the anxiety getting in the way.

    I can definitely relate to a dread of speaking to people on the phone. Speaking to people face-to-face is also tremendously embarrassing and difficult - I go bright red and have to constantly force myself to make eye contact, which makes me feel even more uncomfortable. I find speaking to someone one-on-one is easier than group situations, where I can barely speak, if at all.

    I think everyone feels shy at some time in their life, but when it reaches the point of feeling the need to go to any lengths to avoid socialising, it’s very frustrating. One of the worst things about it is that I’ve never met anyone as shy or quiet as me, which makes me feel even more self-conscious.
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    (Original post by Heather_1)
    Another thing is I can hang around with a few friends i.e two or three but anymore, I am so reserved I just don't like big groups. And normal stuff people do, i.e chat to people like guys or unknown people. I can only do this when I am drunk.
    :yes: exactly same...I'm ok with a few people but in big groups I shake and get figety...sucks seeing all your friends doing it all so wasily as well...speaking tests at school suck though even if it's just the teacher but I think that's just an authority thing...:redface:
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    Does anyone have this really bad on some days, but are ok on others?

    I do, actually I'm a nervous reck on most days, but today was great. In fact, I'm only posting on here because it is a good day! I've tried figuring out what supresses my anxiety, or what brings it out, but I there doesn't seem to be a consistent pattern. It doesn't seem to be diet or amount of sleep, or even who I'm around.
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    (Original post by Heather_1)
    How did you start to fight it?

    I have been told to snap out of it, 'whats the worst that could happen?' and to get help. But I just avoid doing anything, and get more inward.



    That's me all over, everyday.
    :hugs: if you find a way to reduce it let me know...I'll do the same...it's so horrible to panic over every little thing...drives me crazy!

    lol I want to be a psychologist as well...that'll go over well...
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    yeah i think i do and have such a strong inferiority complex. but it is the shyness which makes me inferior, because obviously being shy you usually have less friends, then less of a life so your bound to feel inferior to most other people, because you actually are.
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    (Original post by Peachykeen09)
    I've had it for all my life but I got diagnosed with it 2 years ago. If you feel you have it, you should talk to someone.
    What happened after you were diagnosed?

    I'm afraid/embarrassed to talk to someone about it (no, that's not a pun lol)
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    Damn a disorder..The treatment sounds weird though I think Ill pass - Ill solve it myself
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    Yeah I have it, and general panic disorder. It sucks, especially since my tablets don't seem to be working any more.
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    Big time, I still struggle with it. I vomit when I'm stressed in social situations, and this happens fairly often. However, I don't let this stop me from getting out there, so to speak, I force myself to try, and if I do have to be sick, I do so surreptitiously. It's hard, but rewarding when I manage a night out, and I don't lack understanding friends and a very compassionate boyfriend.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah i think i do and have such a strong inferiority complex. but it is the shyness which makes me inferior, because obviously being shy you usually have less friends, then less of a life so your bound to feel inferior to most other people, because you actually are.

    I have a few friends, but generally have one main friend at one time, which I hang about with most. Whereas other friends are more just people to chat with. Sometimes it circulates from one to another.

    I always feel inferior to everyone else.
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    (Original post by Heather_1)
    How did you start to fight it?

    I have been told to snap out of it, 'whats the worst that could happen?' and to get help. But I just avoid doing anything, and get more inward.



    That's me all over, everyday.
    I hate people who say snap out of it and such, they just dont understand.

    Counseling and CBT helped me take the definitive step, stop thinking about the negatives, and focus on the positives. Like not to be afraid of what people think, I was told to stop mind reading in one of my counseling sessions. How do i know what other people think? Maybe they are feeling the same about me.
    But basically im fighting it by faking confidence surprising how it helps, especially when inside you feel so vulnerable. Talking louder, smiling at passers by in the street (getting a smile back is such a great feeling). And walking with my head up, again it comes back to faking confidence. If you fake it enough, in time it will become real and second nature.
    Only today i started talking to a random person at a bus stop, without a second thought, i could never have done that a few months back.
    I have trouble speaking on the phone too. I keep waffling on about it, but the more confident i act, the more confident i feel in my mind, i feel more silly talking quiet and being very blunt on the phone (like i used to) than if i were to talk normally.
    I just feel more confident because of the fake confidence if that makes sense :yes:

    I do have very bad days, where i cant face anybody, and just want to hide away. Im just seeing a bit fewer of them now
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    (Original post by i.am.lost)
    What happened after you were diagnosed?

    I'm afraid/embarrassed to talk to someone about it (no, that's not a pun lol)
    Well I was forced to go to a counselor but it wasn't because of that. I got diagnosed with it after and blah blah blah. They offered me medication but my mother refused it. But I've actually gotten a lot better now maybe it's because I'm used to it. I dunno.

    I never actually told anyone they just erm...found out. It was terrible
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    (Original post by Peachykeen09)
    Well I was forced to go to a counselor but it wasn't because of that. I got diagnosed with it after and blah blah blah. They offered me medication but my mother refused it. But I've actually gotten a lot better now maybe it's because I'm used to it. I dunno.

    I never actually told anyone they just erm...found out. It was terrible
    That's encouraging... Lol.
 
 
 
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