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    sorry- another 'why is my life so ****?' threads.
    I'll make this short.

    I haven't had friends in my home town since I was 14. I'm 19 now. I'm going to a University I really want to go to this October where I hope I'll make some good friends, and I made lots of good friends where I spent my gap year abroad in france.

    Even though my home town is a really nice place to live and I couldn't ask for a better home/family, I just hate being here (I'm living with my parents and working this whole summer may-October)- basically because it reminds me of what a friendless loser I was all those years. It was only when I finally lived in france and made new friends and lived in a new situation I feel I could move on and start to be happy.

    I feel really pathetic trying to find ways to make friends in a city I've lived almost my whole life, and I really don't like living with my parents- I just feel like I've grown out of that. I desperately want to spent my university holidays living and working somewhere else-
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    Yeah I think you have a right. I also think that you are doing the right thing by wanting to socialise in Uni.

    What town do you live in?
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    university will change ur life.
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    but is it understandable?
    I ask because my parents keep saying 'don't try to externalize the problem- you can't solve your problems by just moving to somewhere else'- but living in france did change my life and was the first time in 6 1/2 years I had a decent social life- it did sort out all my problems. I know this is illogical- but it weighs down on me to be in the same place I grow up- bumping into childhood friends I barely recognise any more. They have a point that I must try not to be always counting on the future and live in the present and make the most of the situation I'm in- but I tried making new friends for years and it never worked, and I'd rather live in Berlin or somewhere that here anyway- so what's the point in investing in my life here?
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    I think you are
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    Not really, put up and shut up until you move to uni. What difference does a few months make? Just go to uni and never come back. Simple really, we all have to do some **** things we don't enjoy every now and again, it's called life.
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    I feel the same way... so I moved to Canada.
 
 
 
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