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Is Love a game? A competition? watch

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    I increasingly feel that love, dating and relationships are marketed as something just and magic - sometimes even spiritual - while in fact people treat it like a game, or even a competition...

    ...to the point that "competition rules" are established and perceived as more important than honesty, being genuine and straightforward in love.

    I was talking to a typical player last night (a good family friend, so I know he's not boasting).

    HE:"There was a time when I had a girlfriend and I occasionally slept with other girls just for fun without telling her. One guy - who liked my girlfriend - went and told her everything. I went to him with my gang and told him to leave us alone or he would be in trouble. If I go out with other women, it's MY issue and not his. It is totally spineless what he did. And unfair."

    I was obviously enraged at what he was implying. Basically he was saying that the other guy took advantage of his mistakes to get the girl for himself.

    I believe that it is more than right that the girlfriend knows the full situation, and the other guy is entitled - obliged! - to tell her the truth. If she doesn't know the full truth 100%, how can she even know which of the two guys is better for her?

    This is just one example. There are many such examples in which the values of a relationship between two lovers are substituted by competition norms between males.

    I mean, what is more important: your relationship to the person you love (or are interested in), or the being fair towards your "competitors"?
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    Your friend sounds like a ****.
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    Your friend is an *******. Secretly video him taking a dump then upload it onto youtube / facebook / bebo and lol at his life.
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    If you are in a relationship with someone, you stay with that person, and no-one else. Them's the rules. I wouldn't take relationship advice from a 'player'.
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    im sad to hear about that player story, that sucks. i hate guys like that.

    but yeah, love is just a game. well, the act of finding love is a game anyway. at least at this age.
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    I'm not an expert on the subject, but I imagine that your 'friend' isn't an accurate descripition of most peoples opinions on love.

    Also, I feel sorry for the guy who built up the courage to tell the girl she had been cheated on only to get threatened by the irresponsible boyfriend. Just thought I needed to say that.
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    (Original post by 300mg)
    Your friend is an *******. Secretly video him taking a dump then upload it onto youtube / facebook / bebo and lol at his life.
    Conjured from past experience?
 
 
 
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