Why do women complain about lack of compliments?

Urgh, sorry but I'd hate to have a boyfriend like you. Begrudging of a compliment. Making your girlfriend 'earn' it.

But she's your girlfriend... doesn't that count for anything? I just don't get why your opinion is so highly regarded that it's got to be a special event for you to give your girlfriend a compliment.

Urgh, sorry but I'd hate to have a boyfriend like you. Begrudging of a compliment. Making your girlfriend 'earn' it. Get over yourself, seriously.

But she's your girlfriend... doesn't that count for anything? I just don't get why your opinion is so highly regarded that it's got to be a special event for you to give your girlfriend a compliment.

Urgh, sorry but I'd hate to have a boyfriend like you. Begrudging of a compliment. Making your girlfriend 'earn' it. Get over yourself, seriously.

Perhaps that's why you don't have one?

Ok I get that you're not gona say like every 'Wow that perfumes great' - That is a waste of time. But if she's down find other ways to pick her up. Like 'you look prettier when you smile!' If you've got a girlfriend who completely rejects these things then maybe I wouldn't bother but if she's just shy about accepting that she looks amazing then obviously she's worried you're just saying it.

It might be ok to say that being with someone obviously means you like them, but me and my ex grew apart so obviously would didn't really like each other anymore but were still together. If he'd have done something nice for a change, such as actually looked like he missed me when he came back off holiday then it probably would have been different. I think you just need to remember that in a relationship things will get tedious when you spend a lot of tie together, and just putting little bit of effort in here and there really keeps the relationship alive.

First of all, saying something is hardly going out of your way!

Secondly, if you've told her the second bit in bold, you've probably gave her th impression that you're not impressed when you don't compliment. Girls really can be this paranoid.

I understand what you mean, saying things just for the sake of it does get tedious. But it also gets tedious, imo, when you and your boyfriend are constantly doing and saying the same things. I like it when my boyfriend changes from saying 'I love you', to saying something just as nice but different. It makes a change. Little things you do and say get noticed, even a little bit of banter is better than the same old conversation you always have. Doing things out of the ordinary. Even if it's just a random kiss on the back of her head that she wasn't expecting. It's much better than feeling like the relationship has become boring, or stick in a rut, surely?

Obviously, I think the girls should put in effort like this too. It just keeps relationships interesting.[/QUOTE]

Absolutely!
I love complimenting guys...i'm much more comfortable giving it out than receiving, although i've now taught myself to acknowledge it and say 'aw thank you' politely so they know its not been disregarded, even if i don't always believe them!

I don't think comments should be used on things that are 'spectacular' or 'different' necessarily - I wouldnt expect compliments anyway, and my boyfriend doesn't compliment me when I've got all dressed up for a party or whatever, in the 'expected' situation. And Id be sort of confused if he ever commented on something like me having nice shoes!

Instead he might just turn to me when Im sitting on the sofa in my dressing gown, and say that I look beautiful, and he prefers me without makeup and fancy clothes. Its just the little everyday noticing things like that which are lovely. I guess that, if you really like someone, you should be attracted to them and think they look nice a lot of the time, not just on special occasions when they're all dolled up. Plus even if theyre not looking too hot, there's always the fact that they make you laugh, or look after you, or remember whats important to you, and compliments about stuff like that are often more meaningful because theyre not based on transient external looks.

what girls say and do are two different things
don't give a girl compliments, she has to work for them

the problem is alot of guys think that paying girls compliments will get them into her pants. girls like being challenged, not everything eeasy for them

its psychological,
say you want to buy a ferrari. you work your ass of for it, you get one. then when you get home, you realise there's another ferrari there. which one would you treasure more? the one you worked for because of the effort you put in made it worth it
while girls aren't material objects, they work like that so do humans in general
you want or like something more when you have had to work for it
Lesson:don't pay girls unnecessary compliments unless its just being friendly, even then don't do it

I love where you got that quote from, It's 100% true

Oh, of course. It's nothing to do with the fact that I'M the picky one? Nah, course not, women aren't allowed to be the one's to say 'no thanks' are they.

You just sound begrudging to me. Like it's an effort to say something nice to your girlfriend. My Dad's the same. He rarely says anything nice about my mum and getting a 'you look lovely' off my Dad is like getting blood out of a stone. I don't blame you, you're a bloke after all.

If you're picky then good for you. When I said that's probably why you haven't got a boyfriend, I meant that first of all, you assumed my personality immediately and made a conclusion that you couldn't stand me, and if you do that to me, then you most likely do it to others.
Second of all, if you want somebody to compliment you all the time and make you feel good, just because it's of no effort to them, that screams high maintenance at me. It's to be coupled with many other similar demands women make of the their boyfriends, and their attention.
You'll probably come back at me and argue that expecting a compliment a day isn't high maintenance, well, there's no smoke without fire, and this probably means you demand/expect other things too.

And no, i'm not being hypocritical and assuming your personality, i'm just telling you what you're giving off. I'm not telling you what you are, and i'm not making any conclusions on your personality from a few posts.

I don't actually like getting compliments. I rarely feel they're justifed and they're often used to fill the air between conversations.
I personally don't compliment anyone unless I genuinely like what they've said or done or something they're wearing etc. I'm high maintenance in that I expect the same back. I hate empty compliments, but that's beside the point....

I'm simply seeing it from an outsider's perspective. You're wondering why women complain about not getting compliments, it's either because they are high maintenance or are used to it and feel insecure when they don't get complimented - maybe they were 'spoiled' in a previous relationship, who knows.

Sorry but you've just reiterated what I was originally saying. Yet you criticised me for it :\

I said I don't usually give them when they don't deserve one, and you came back at me saying that I think so highly of myself that compliments have to be earned . Which is partly true as they should be earned. And your quoted message above agrees with me.

And for what you say about other women that may hate lack of compliments; A) it's their fault if they're high maintenance, not the boyfriend. B) If they were used to it in a previous relationship then that's no fault of the boyfriend either.

I'm not the one with a girlfriend here. I'm talking about compliments in a long term relationship. What I compliment my girlfriends on, is different to what I may compliment a future boyfriend on.

And to end: Why is it assumed that it's her fault? If she's with a guy who gives compliments out willy-nilly then it's his own fault that she's come to expect it.

I think the key here is to be able to decide whether you're going to placate an already high maintenance woman for a quiet life, or be stingy with the compliments and take the wrath

Haha I finally agree with you on the last point. I'll go with being stingy and taking the wrath, over-complimenting can lead to her being bored of you, and for your compliments to mean less. Lack of compliments keeps her more interested (yet angry at times), and makes her happier when you do give them, at least you don't lose her with the last option, and you get to be honest