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    Marriage. I am a Juliet.
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    Living together. I love him just as much.
    12.50%
    Marriage. I am a Romeo.
    27.08%
    Living together. I love her just as much.
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    Cohabitation discourages marriage, simple as that.

    Marriage is always the better alternative, it involves commitment and as well as that, well most of us are aware of the situation between cohabiting couples.

    You dont believe in marriage, come on now? Lighten up a little, you may be lucky/unlucky in love or something but every dog has its day !
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    (Original post by PrincessAriadne)
    Haha, I've just got married and it cost £100 (payment of the registrar). I believe that marriage is about committing to the person you love, and all the ridiculous pomp and ceremony people have is unnecessary and not at all conducive to a happy marriage. Many people bankrupt themselves paying for their wedding day, and this puts a huge strain on their relationship then. Also, I think that the point of the day is that you're showing each other how much you love each other, and that's what makes it special, not releasing white doves, or spending £2000 on a dress that makes you look like a meringue!
    I've been saying the EXACT thing - even the meringue comment! - for years now. I don't get the whole thing about spending thousands on a dress you'll wear once.
    My grandma got married in a nice, posh brown dress, and wore it to every formal event that she ever went to after her wedding. I'm going to do something like that, but with a dress from Monsoon :p:

    Congratulations, though!
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    (Original post by Hitsit)
    Cohabitation discourages marriage, simple as that.

    Marriage is always the better alternative, it involves commitment and as well as that, well most of us are aware of the situation between cohabiting couples.


    You dont believe in marriage, come on now? Lighten up a little, you may be lucky/unlucky in love or something but every dog has its day !
    So what is that situation?

    And what about people who get trapped into their marriage? My mum didn't want to marry my dad, but couldn't get out of it. Consequently, 20 years down the line, she ended up having to give £30k to a man who had never worked a full month, never helped her out with raising me or with the house, and who didn't respect her, although she kept him.

    You sound embarassingly naiive.
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    I've been saying the EXACT thing - even the meringue comment! - for years now. I don't get the whole thing about spending thousands on a dress you'll wear once.
    My grandma got married in a nice, posh brown dress, and wore it to every formal event that she ever went to after her wedding. I'm going to do something like that, but with a dress from Monsoon :p:

    Congratulations, though!
    yay! And how spooky, I got my dress from Monsoon, and then sneakily returned it afterwards and got my money back!!! :cool:
    it's good to know someone else see's it how i do
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    I'd love to get married someday, but I think I want to live with my boyfriend for a little while, to see if we can handle it. :P
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    I've decided not to ever get married, just be an eternal bachelor and have girlfriend(s), not a wife. Also, I can't stand living with anyone, not family or a girl. I'd just like my own personal chambers, a house that is my own palace, I'm very much a believer of that each man is his own island. I'm Ibiza
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    (Original post by PrincessAriadne)
    yay! And how spooky, I got my dress from Monsoon, and then sneakily returned it afterwards and got my money back!!! :cool:
    it's good to know someone else see's it how i do
    Oh. My. God! How did you manage that? That's absolutely epic

    I'll be doing the same thing. There's no way I'm spending hundreds, let alone thousands on one day!
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    live together, then marry
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    I think I'll go old-school: marriage first.
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    Oh. My. God! How did you manage that? That's absolutely epic

    I'll be doing the same thing. There's no way I'm spending hundreds, let alone thousands on one day!
    just made sure i didn't crease it (which i would have done anyway really, as it was silk), and then took it back in the bag with the same wrapping. It was fine by me, as I would never have an occasion to wear such a lovely and expensive dress again really. I prefer not to spend too much on clothes anyway, as they so easily get ruined, and dresses that are £30 are just as nice as the £300 ones!

    My husband and I thought it was more sensible to save our money for after we were married, so that we wouldn't be under too much financial pressure, and could make the most of our new life as a married couple.
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    (Original post by PrincessAriadne)
    just made sure i didn't crease it (which i would have done anyway really, as it was silk), and then took it back in the bag with the same wrapping. It was fine by me, as I would never have an occasion to wear such a lovely and expensive dress again really. I prefer not to spend too much on clothes anyway, as they so easily get ruined, and dresses that are £30 are just as nice as the £300 ones!

    My husband and I thought it was more sensible to save our money for after we were married, so that we wouldn't be under too much financial pressure, and could make the most of our new life as a married couple.
    I doubt I could manage that. I'd end up spilling something on it most probably! I wouldn't ever spend £300 on a dress though, not if I could possibly help it, anyway. I'd probably destroy it, or something horrible would happen to me, and it'd get ruined!

    Did you have a party afterwards? Sorry, I'm interested as to how cheaply you managed to do it! :p:
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    I doubt I could manage that. I'd end up spilling something on it most probably! I wouldn't ever spend £300 on a dress though, not if I could possibly help it, anyway. I'd probably destroy it, or something horrible would happen to me, and it'd get ruined!

    Did you have a party afterwards? Sorry, I'm interested as to how cheaply you managed to do it! :p:
    We had the wedding, and had mum, aunts, uncles and a friend there, and then went to have pics taken afterwards and people threw confetti etc, then just went and socialised with guests a bit, and chatted and got given the wedding presents.
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    i want to be a bride but not a wife.
    i beleive in marriage, i jsut dont think its for me.
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    Marriage is fine if thats what you want to do, but I personally wouldn't, because I just don't see why I would really need to. A lot of people say that they would get married before they have kids because it seems like a bigger commitment, and to make the kids feel secure, but my parents never married and have always cohabited, and I never felt worried about the stability of their relationship. I think whether or not a person believes in marriage depends a lot on a person's upbringing, and because it was never a part of mine it doesn't really mean anything to me.
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    So what is that situation?

    And what about people who get trapped into their marriage? My mum didn't want to marry my dad, but couldn't get out of it. Consequently, 20 years down the line, she ended up having to give £30k to a man who had never worked a full month, never helped her out with raising me or with the house, and who didn't respect her, although she kept him.

    You sound embarassingly naiive.
    Im sorry about your situation i didn't mean to sound like such a ***** with regards to the way you put it. I was simply saying that i think marriage would be better rather than cohabiting with some-one because ofcourse you wouldn't marry some-one unless you felt like they meant the world to you and you have a pretty decent shot of making everything last..... Having said that though, i can understand that some marriages dont work out and yes it can be hard for people to get out of marriages, but you should always think of yourself.

    And therefore, the situation i was reffering to is that married couples kno usually that there is a high level of commitment between one another. There is also an expectancy of monogamy in comparison to cohabiting couples who are usually less commited and more relaxed in terms of their relationship which is why despite 50% of married couples end up divorcing, cohabiting couples are less likely to get married and are more likely to have an unstable relationship and family due to the 'less commited ' relationship between the couple.
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    I'm moving in with my boyfriend in a months time, I do want to get married to him eventually though. We've talked about it a bit but we don't exactly have money going spare and I feel too young at the moment tbh. It would be weird being a Mrs. when I'm not even out of my teens yet and half the time people seem to think I look about 16 .
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    I prefer being married to be honest because it feels like we're a family. I like that we have the same surname, and so do the kids, and it just makes me feel like we're a family unit as opposed to just living together.

    I didn't mind living together, we lived together for over 2 years before we got married, but I wouldn't have liked to have just lived together for the rest of our lives, I'm quite traditional.

    It feels like we've made a "proper" commitment to each other, and I'm quite religious really in some ways, and in Catholicism marriage is a sacrament so it's important to me.

    People should do whichever they feel comfortable with though. It's personal preference.
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    I suppose all you girls and boys have a point and I just found out the divorce rate is like 12 per every thousand couples so good news to all you married people but the bad news is that 1 in 5 people who get a divorce has had a divorce before...........

    So pick your girl or boy carefully.........
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    (Original post by Hitsit)
    Im sorry about your situation i didn't mean to sound like such a ***** with regards to the way you put it. I was simply saying that i think marriage would be better rather than cohabiting with some-one because ofcourse you wouldn't marry some-one unless you felt like they meant the world to you and you have a pretty decent shot of making everything last..... Having said that though, i can understand that some marriages dont work out and yes it can be hard for people to get out of marriages, but you should always think of yourself.

    And therefore, the situation i was reffering to is that married couples kno usually that there is a high level of commitment between one another. There is also an expectancy of monogamy in comparison to cohabiting couples who are usually less commited and more relaxed in terms of their relationship which is why despite 50% of married couples end up divorcing, cohabiting couples are less likely to get married and are more likely to have an unstable relationship and family due to the 'less commited ' relationship between the couple.
    That's crap! You can't say that just because you've had a ceremony and gotten a piece of paper that you're more likely to cheat on your partner. I know people who have been living together for more than 20 years with nothing of that sort occuring, and then you get situations like my parents where my dad was cheating on my mum for years on end! Any cheating I've ever seen in relationships - with people older than us, obv - have been where they've been married.

    Are you living in a bubble or something? It doesn't matter whether you're married or not, if you're going to cheat, you will.
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    Has anyone pointed out that Romeo and Juliet didn't stay together for years and years, but instead died?
 
 
 
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