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    Networking is the dark art of pretending to be friends with people in order to advance one's own self - even though that self has precisely nothing to offer the world barring an extraordinary aptitude for self-advancement.

    In times of boredom when an internet connection is near I find myself sitting on facebook and browsing through people's profiles and judging them and even more shamelessly comparing them to myself. This is incredibly egotistical, egocentric and shallow. I care to much about how others perceive me and I am working on eradicating this weak element of my persona which I lean back on in times of trouble. Like, for instance when I am bored. If you are focused and passionate in life about something petty things don't seem to feature.

    Even more bizarrely I find getting tagged with a beautiful women and I look good gives me a huge-self esteem boost. How depressing is that that the most active generator of self-esteem in my life is pictures generated online and hopefully seen by other people? That's practically what other people are "thinking" about me gets me really excited.

    I suppose what I'm asking is for people who don't give a damn about facebook and don't get status anxiety, how do you do it or how do you get over it? I know that it is pathetic and I don't like it. I want to be myself and ignore other perceptions.
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    Bumped as this took a while to get approved.
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    You're just describing the average facebook user :rolleyes:
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    yeah... sadly, average facebook stuff going on here
    we're all the same.. unfortunately.
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    You never can entirely, but striking a balance is something that we all strive to achieve, and hardly if ever manage to do so...
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    Maybe you should try limiting your FB use...like only logging in a couple times a week. Will be hard at first but eventually you'll forget about it, trust me!
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    Didn't get the response you were hoping for, did you OP? How's that for your ego?
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    delete facebook
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    Very true about this being an average Facebook thing. I have one "friend" from back at school, he updates his status at least 6 times a day - and they always seem to have a meaning like they are at some of his inner friends, so I was there expecting him to be hyper-popular, I went on his profile and he didn't have a single comment from somebody else anywhere on there, just hundreds and hundreds of updates. I think he must have a desperate need for attention, but he isn't getting it.

    However, I wish to note here that since joining Facebook three years ago I have updated my status just once, when I got my Uni offer. I next plan to update it on August 20th. I see it as being somewhat self-indulgent, I don't mind one or two a day, I'm interested in how my friends are doing after all, but half a dozen seems a bit much! Like they are forcing their lives on you.
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    I go on facebook everyday , and don't have any of these traits. I use FB to keep in touch with mates , not to compare myself to others .
 
 
 
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