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    Sorry if im being offensive to anyone that has Aspergers - I may be just being paranoid - ive been working as a secretary for a community learning difficulties team and have read some notes re: 'aspergers'. I thought i'd come on here to read some posts about it, and am feeling a little unsure as to whether I may have Aspergers....

    I sometimes feel like people at work feel awkward to speak to me, or sit by me at meetings. i do chat to people, and enjoy interacting with people - oviously find it easier to interact with someone closer to my age - someone with more interests and same sense of humour etc, and i am absolutely RUBBISH at generating a good conversation - sometimes i feel like i must be the most boring person ever!

    ive always - for as long as i can remember been shy - not very talkative, and not particularly outgoing, i didn't particularly struggle to make friends at school, and still have good friends from school now (im 22)...however, im worrying that because ive never been in a realtionship, and my social life is pretty poor becuase most of my friends are in relationships, and im fairly shy and crap at generating conversation with people I sometimes feel a little 'abnormal'.

    Since my teenage years I have been v.v.self concious - i cannot imagine ever letting a man see me naked - ive only ever got to 2nd or 3rd dates and a snog with guys because although they tell me they really like me and show alot of interest, i just can't believe them, and why would they want me?!

    I feel that the situation is getting worse as i get older, and i wish i could do the last 6 years of my life again and be more confident from the start - go out on nights out at every opportunity etc...i now it sounds a bit far-fetched but i feel like thats it now, time to grow up, nt gonna have the chance to goout have fun, get wasted etc.....y didn't i do that at 16/17/18?!?! and more and more people around me are beginning to settle down...thats why i feel like theres something wrong with me....am i just depressed and shy/low self esteem? i need more friends, feel like such a loner and sooo keen to get a social life...i sometimes hate weekends and would rather be at work to keep busy!!

    i am a member of a gym, which i enjoy, but dont never speak to anyone as im too shy to generate conversation, if boys look at me i just look away - sometimes too shy to even smile! sometimes i just cant help but blaitently ignore boys that are looking as i may blush.... im feeling really depressed about this, completely wasting my life...dont know what to do!? i swear if i ever manage to regain my social life anytime soon, im gonna enjoy to the full extent - not ever worry about what bpeople think etc..... (sorry for rant!)
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    I would shy away from using internet quizes to try and determine a health problem or mental problem as they are known to be highly unreliable.

    If you are worried, about what you feel, it may be worth talking to your GP about things and seeing if they are able to help in anyway etc.

    They will be able to say more then we can.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Sorry if im being offensive to anyone that has Aspergers - I may be just being paranoid - ive been working as a secretary for a community learning difficulties team and have read some notes re: 'aspergers'. I thought i'd come on here to read some posts about it, and am feeling a little unsure as to whether I may have Aspergers....

    I sometimes feel like people at work feel awkward to speak to me, or sit by me at meetings. i do chat to people, and enjoy interacting with people - oviously find it easier to interact with someone closer to my age - someone with more interests and same sense of humour etc, and i am absolutely RUBBISH at generating a good conversation - sometimes i feel like i must be the most boring person ever!

    ive always - for as long as i can remember been shy - not very talkative, and not particularly outgoing, i didn't particularly struggle to make friends at school, and still have good friends from school now (im 22)...however, im worrying that because ive never been in a realtionship, and my social life is pretty poor becuase most of my friends are in relationships, and im fairly shy and crap at generating conversation with people I sometimes feel a little 'abnormal'.

    Since my teenage years I have been v.v.self concious - i cannot imagine ever letting a man see me naked - ive only ever got to 2nd or 3rd dates and a snog with guys because although they tell me they really like me and show alot of interest, i just can't believe them, and why would they want me?!

    I feel that the situation is getting worse as i get older, and i wish i could do the last 6 years of my life again and be more confident from the start - go out on nights out at every opportunity etc...i now it sounds a bit far-fetched but i feel like thats it now, time to grow up, nt gonna have the chance to goout have fun, get wasted etc.....y didn't i do that at 16/17/18?!?! and more and more people around me are beginning to settle down...thats why i feel like theres something wrong with me....am i just depressed and shy/low self esteem? i need more friends, feel like such a loner and sooo keen to get a social life...i sometimes hate weekends and would rather be at work to keep busy!!

    i am a member of a gym, which i enjoy, but dont never speak to anyone as im too shy to generate conversation, if boys look at me i just look away - sometimes too shy to even smile! sometimes i just cant help but blaitently ignore boys that are looking as i may blush.... im feeling really depressed about this, completely wasting my life...dont know what to do!? i swear if i ever manage to regain my social life anytime soon, im gonna enjoy to the full extent - not ever worry about what bpeople think etc..... (sorry for rant!)
    ok, so you are quiet, not talkative, shy, and not outgoing?

    lol..isn't this proof that psychology is just belief and not fact? Why do medical professionals not have any clue as to how human beings are, and that human beings are complex as a species?

    You are you, and you shouldn't conform to what some doctor says is normal (which is just his/her own personal and narrow belief twisted into objective fact :yes: ).
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    The only way you can find out is by asking you GP to put you in touch with a specialist and getting tested. All I would say to you is that if you do have Asperger's Syndrome, do not let it make you see yourself differently. Asperger's sufferers generally lead very fulfilling lives and you can too. We just find ways to deal with our difficulties, and if you do end up having Asperger's, you must not let it beat you, nor define you. Until you receive a diagnosis, however, it's not advisable to worry so much.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Sorry if im being offensive to anyone that has Aspergers - I may be just being paranoid - ive been working as a secretary for a community learning difficulties team and have read some notes re: 'aspergers'. I thought i'd come on here to read some posts about it, and am feeling a little unsure as to whether I may have Aspergers....

    I sometimes feel like people at work feel awkward to speak to me, or sit by me at meetings. i do chat to people, and enjoy interacting with people - oviously find it easier to interact with someone closer to my age - someone with more interests and same sense of humour etc, and i am absolutely RUBBISH at generating a good conversation - sometimes i feel like i must be the most boring person ever!

    ive always - for as long as i can remember been shy - not very talkative, and not particularly outgoing, i didn't particularly struggle to make friends at school, and still have good friends from school now (im 22)...however, im worrying that because ive never been in a realtionship, and my social life is pretty poor becuase most of my friends are in relationships, and im fairly shy and crap at generating conversation with people I sometimes feel a little 'abnormal'.

    Since my teenage years I have been v.v.self concious - i cannot imagine ever letting a man see me naked - ive only ever got to 2nd or 3rd dates and a snog with guys because although they tell me they really like me and show alot of interest, i just can't believe them, and why would they want me?!

    I feel that the situation is getting worse as i get older, and i wish i could do the last 6 years of my life again and be more confident from the start - go out on nights out at every opportunity etc...i now it sounds a bit far-fetched but i feel like thats it now, time to grow up, nt gonna have the chance to goout have fun, get wasted etc.....y didn't i do that at 16/17/18?!?! and more and more people around me are beginning to settle down...thats why i feel like theres something wrong with me....am i just depressed and shy/low self esteem? i need more friends, feel like such a loner and sooo keen to get a social life...i sometimes hate weekends and would rather be at work to keep busy!!

    i am a member of a gym, which i enjoy, but dont never speak to anyone as im too shy to generate conversation, if boys look at me i just look away - sometimes too shy to even smile! sometimes i just cant help but blaitently ignore boys that are looking as i may blush.... im feeling really depressed about this, completely wasting my life...dont know what to do!? i swear if i ever manage to regain my social life anytime soon, im gonna enjoy to the full extent - not ever worry about what bpeople think etc..... (sorry for rant!)
    I just stumbled upon this page after getting a score just into the aspy range in that online test (mentioned above) and was amazed to read your post. Everything you've written there could've be written about me as well (with the exchange of "boys" to "girls", although even our age is the same). Incredible! Anyway, makes me feel a little better about myself now that I know I'm not the only one.
 
 
 
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