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Public Displays of Affection.

My boyfriend has taken to this recently, and im not a fan of it. Infact I htink its embarassing not only for us but for our friends if we are all over eachother. Am I right?

Reply 1

finnstar

13

actually, coming from a different country, a definately more conservative land, mindset..
i think it doesnt matter where you are.. just have some decency to 'get a room'..
but that doesnt mean one or two pecks would be taboo..
just dont put up a show for everyone to see..

Reply 2

.graffiti.

I always get really annoyed if my boyfriend's all over me in public. I think he thinks I don't like him being affectionate full stop but it's just whilst we're in Topshop looking at shoes, that I don't find it acceptable to have his hands all over me. :stress:

Reply 3

Cazzi

12

im completly the opposite, i do like public displays of affection....to an extent!! just kissing/hugging etc. nothing else. but my boyfriend dosent. :frown:

but even then he sometimes struggles to control his hands! lol

Reply 4

lost_puppy

1

Wow, that's a bit of an eye opener! I personally love them, I have to stop letting my hands wander at inappropriate moments, especially on public transport.

lol, I remember when we were making out at a bus stop and an old man told him to stop eating me, how weird!

Reply 5

username18215

0

10

You should be more concerned with your BF/GF thinks/feels than on what you think the public en masse will think when they see it; you are not going to see them again.

Romance, affection, sex etc. has such a taboo in this country; it is not the same in France and Italy and the British do indeed idolise (to an extent) the romantic nature of such places while scorning any similar actions in their own country!

Reply 6

lostinfantasies

2

I'd love public displays of affection if I actually love the person - my first (and only) boyfriend used to do it, and I didn't like it much...I was young, I didn't really feel that MUCH for him, etc.

I would just love to be intimate with someone and to just be really touchy-feely. Say, holding hands, holding him from behind, him holding you from behind, random pulling-into-a-hug goings-on.

Wouldn't mind the odd feel of the bum, but can't stand pinching, so if a bloke I was with pinched me in public, especially around his mates, I'd turn around and say "bugger off". It's too much like a claim, as if "you're mine, so I'm gonna pinch your ass and look good".

Don't mind if other people do it. If it's too sexual/highly-charged, I'd go "get a room" but if it's just cute and intimate and sweet...I'd be all jealous, but wouldn't mind :biggrin:

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Reply 7

RetiredAccount89

18

Its not weird, its soooo bloody undignified is the reason why.
Anything more than a 5 second kiss in public is OTT in my opinion. It smacks of poor self esteem - like you have to proove to the world that YOU are not single.

Reply 8

blissy

15

Public displays of affection - yeah whatever
Displaying affection in front of a group of friends - no, i personally would feel uncomfortable doing that

Reply 9

username18215

0

10

foolfarian

Its not weird, its soooo bloody undignified is the reason why.
Anything more than a 5 second kiss in public is OTT in my opinion. It smacks of poor self esteem - like you have to proove to the world that YOU are not single.

That is obviously one opinion, but i disagree that it is because of poor self esteem. Perhaps they love this person truly and want to be with them all the time; living their life as if the next moment could be their last.

Reply 10

Ditzy

1

Yuck, I hate when other people do it, so I feel very uncomfortable with it, I'm very conscious that people are getting as annoyed with me as I do with other people.

Reply 11

JonnyB

2

One couple on my train do it a lot, as well as one of my best mates and his girlfriend. Makes everyone want to vomit. Haha

Reply 12

danni_bella

17

foolfarian

Its not weird, its soooo bloody undignified is the reason why.
Anything more than a 5 second kiss in public is OTT in my opinion. It smacks of poor self esteem - like you have to proove to the world that YOU are not single.

Heh lol @ your boyfriend Eve :biggrin:

Poor you

Just tell him how you feel, be subtle, but let him know that you don't think it's really appropriate :smile:

Sounds like the BB type, perhaps you should enter him in for nxt year :wink:

Jst jks. BTW, have you been watching it? I've not had the time, but my housemates reckon the twins have a good chance of winning :rolleyes:

Reply 13

RetiredAccount89

18

md_red_uk

That is obviously one opinion, but i disagree that it is because of poor self esteem. Perhaps they love this person truly and want to be with them all the time; living their life as if the next moment could be their last.

Its sooooooooooooooo 14 year old type behavious though. They can be the love of your life, its no excuse for tonguing madly in public.

Reply 14

Tyler Durden

17

I think it totally depends on the actual circumstances. I was in the supermarket the other day queuing at the end and there was a couple who really were OTT. She had on the shortest skirt imaginable which the guy had his hands underneath and they were trying to gnaw each others' faces off. All this was in the confined area of a shopping queue and I could practically hear the squelching as each of them tried to swallow the other one's face. She started rubbing his crotch at the same time and all in all it wasn't too pleasant to experience. I'm sure some of the more elderly dears who were just picking up some Whiskas for their kitty got more than they bargained for. o_O

Equally though I am not against public displays of affection per se. A couple at a road-side cafe for example who kiss or a bit of fondling in a park. It's all relative and as long as you're not giving a softcore porn display for those around you then fair enough I reckon.

Reply 15

Tyler Durden

17

blissy

Public displays of affection - yeah whatever
Displaying affection in front of a group of friends - no, i personally would feel uncomfortable doing that

I agree with that as well!

Reply 16

username18215

0

10

foolfarian

Its sooooooooooooooo 14 year old type behavious though. They can be the love of your life, its no excuse for tonguing madly in public.

I admit, i have to avert my eyes, but i don't necessarily mind them. It certainly doesn't affect me, i just don't look or listen and talk about something else.

Reply 17

RetiredAccount89

18

englishstudent

I think it totally depends on the actual circumstances. I was in the supermarket the other day queuing at the end and there was a couple who really were OTT. She had on the shortest skirt imaginable which the guy had his hands underneath and they were trying to gnaw each others' faces off. All this was in the confined area of a shopping queue and I could practically hear the squelching as each of them tried to swallow the other one's face. She started rubbing his crotch at the same time and all in all it wasn't too pleasant to experience. I'm sure some of the more elderly dears who were just picking up some Whiskas for their kitty got more than they bargained for. o_O

Equally though I am not against public displays of affection per se. A couple at a road-side cafe for example who kiss or a bit of fondling in a park. It's all relative and as long as you're not giving a softcore porn display for those around you then fair enough I reckon.

Hows this then...

Public displays of LOVE = acceptable
Public displays of LUST = unacceptable

Reply 18

blissy

15

foolfarian

Hows this then...

Public displays of LOVE = acceptable
Public displays of LUST = unacceptable

Sounds about right :smile:

Though I'd still feel a bit uncomfortable being lovey-dovey touchy-feely in front of my friends. There's a different atmosphere almost and I don't think being overbearingly loved up is the way to go.

Reply 19

Tyler Durden

17

foolfarian

Hows this then...

Public displays of LOVE = acceptable
Public displays of LUST = unacceptable

Yeah, pretty much. Affection rather than full on foreplay. :biggrin:

Public Displays of Affection.

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