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    Hello everyone,

    To begin with I don't really know why I'm posting this because I don't know what advice anyone could give that could make things better, but I don't have anyone else to talk to...

    I think I've been depressed all my life. I know my father had depression and I read online that it can be genetic. But it's always been as if it comes and goes, but even when I feel happy it only ever lasts for a very short amount of time, I don't think I've ever experienced true happiness.

    I am so lonely, and now that it's summer and there's no school I've realized that I have no real friends. I haven't talked to any of them for almost a month.

    I wake up everyday thinking what is the point? I have nothing to do. I don't have anywhere to go, anyone to meet or anything.

    I used to believe in God, and used to think that everything happens for a reason. But over the last couple of months I've started questioning that, and thinking about what the point of life is.

    I feel like I've wasted my whole life... I'm crying right now as I type this. I've thought about counselling but I don't know what to do.

    There's so much more I want to say, but I think this is already long enough.

    Thanks for reading this.
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    Its horrible to feel like this, is there no one at all you can talk to about how you feel?

    I think trying to see a counsellor is the best bet, they are really helpful most of the time and will find an appropriate treatment for you, with the hope od you getting into a better mind set.

    See your GP and talk to them about it, they should be able to refer you if needed.
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    :console:

    ...it would probably be best to go and speak to someone, your GP or a counsellor or something...

    I'm really sorry I don't really know what I can say to be of much help, but if you do want to talk, feel free to PM or whatever
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    Hey there,

    depression sucks, but no one can diagnose you here your best bet would be to go to your GP who can then refer you like tom says to a counsellor or give you antidepressants if that's the way you want to do things, it's entirely up to you.

    TSR has a depression society in the societies subforum if you ever feel the need to talk to others in your situation, I find it can really help me sometimes.


    Tbh though, just because your dad has it doesn't mean you do, it sounds like a lot of your problems are to do with environment in which case antidepressants probably wouldn't help. Maybe join a sports club (endorphins released during exercise) and you can meet people there, or try getting a part time job for something to do? You could volunteer at a charity shop, animal shelter or whatever interests you.
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    Don't worry, you wouldn't be the first one to think life was meaningless.
    Life is not meaningless, you just have to re-evaluate what is around you and really think hard. I was at your point, once in my life but now I got passed it and got me some friends and gf. You really just need to trust yourself. Nobody is completely useless. but rather you haven't found your true strength and self. :yes:

    Like my parents used to say to me, you won't miss it untill you have lost it. Don't let that happen to you, just keep looking. Life's full of surprises.:yes:

    Happiness and self-confidence is the key to virtually everything......:woo:
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    Im laughing at the people recommending anti depressants

    I hardly think your depressed anon, the feelings you show are normal and its just due to a lack of motivation and drive in your life, theres no real cure for this ... everyone feels like crap alot, some more than others.

    Making some new friends would help
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    Ah man that sucks to read. Er I would suggest joining a club or something. Always a social aspect. Or maybe a job? I go out with my work mates alot, and if you spend 15 odd hours a week with them, you become pretty close.

    And like the rest said, see a GP mate.
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    Feel free to add me on msn or something. You will feel better if you find someone to talk with, not with chemicals.
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    You have us on TSR, OP :hugs:

    Most of us are in exactly the same boat (me too), so don't worry at all, just try and feel happy inside
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    Hey OP,

    I'm really sorry you feel like this, having experienced depression myself I know at least partially what you are going through and I am so sorry that you have to experience it. From what you wrote I'd guess you're probably on a bit of a downer at the moment (I don't mean to patronise you in any way by saying that, but from my experience there were certainly occasions when things seemed much much worse) and I just want to assure you that things will get better.

    Practically as many others have suggested here get yourself down to the GP. In all likelihood they will ask you to fill out a questionnaire and talk to you and then assess your situation and be able to offer you medical health. Just a note of warning that nhs mental health care can be a bit slow, so don't get disheartened if things do not happen straight away. Also I would advise you get to be as soon as possible as sleep deprivation only worsens the symptoms.

    If you want any further advise of just someone to talk to please PM me as I am more than happy to give you whatever help I can.

    I hope things start looking up for you soon,
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    Hello everyone,

    To begin with I don't really know why I'm posting this because I don't know what advice anyone could give that could make things better, but I don't have anyone else to talk to...

    I think I've been depressed all my life. I know my father had depression and I read online that it can be genetic. But it's always been as if it comes and goes, but even when I feel happy it only ever lasts for a very short amount of time, I don't think I've ever experienced true happiness.

    I am so lonely, and now that it's summer and there's no school I've realized that I have no real friends. I haven't talked to any of them for almost a month.

    I wake up everyday thinking what is the point? I have nothing to do. I don't have anywhere to go, anyone to meet or anything.

    I used to believe in God, and used to think that everything happens for a reason. But over the last couple of months I've started questioning that, and thinking about what the point of life is.

    I feel like I've wasted my whole life... I'm crying right now as I type this. I've thought about counselling but I don't know what to do.

    There's so much more I want to say, but I think this is already long enough.

    Thanks for reading this.
    Hey ive felt like this for a long time aswell and its been even worse since my gf broke up with me.Shes kind of been my only friend for the last few years.Maybe joining a gym will help.Having a nice solid workout gets in me a good mood sometimes.Keep believing in god
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Hello everyone,

    To begin with I don't really know why I'm posting this because I don't know what advice anyone could give that could make things better, but I don't have anyone else to talk to...

    I think I've been depressed all my life. I know my father had depression and I read online that it can be genetic. But it's always been as if it comes and goes, but even when I feel happy it only ever lasts for a very short amount of time, I don't think I've ever experienced true happiness.

    I am so lonely, and now that it's summer and there's no school I've realized that I have no real friends. I haven't talked to any of them for almost a month.

    I wake up everyday thinking what is the point? I have nothing to do. I don't have anywhere to go, anyone to meet or anything.

    I used to believe in God, and used to think that everything happens for a reason. But over the last couple of months I've started questioning that, and thinking about what the point of life is.

    I feel like I've wasted my whole life... I'm crying right now as I type this. I've thought about counselling but I don't know what to do.

    There's so much more I want to say, but I think this is already long enough.

    Thanks for reading this.
    Why haven't you spoken to your schoolfriends for a month? Have you contacted them? Have you asked what they're up to or suggested you go watch a film together or go over to your house and hang out? If not you should do this. Even if you dont feel like it. Once you've committed yourself to it you'll have to do it and it'll make you feel much better. If you feel you've wasted your whole life then what better time than now to change it. I'm sure you haven't wasted your whole life anyway. We all have our own journeys and no one but yourself is measuring you by what you've done in the past. People will judge you on who you are today, and while our pasts do shape us, we do have the power to change how we behave and what we do with the present. If you ever feel you're not intelligent or well read, you're free to go to the library or read wikipedia and become who you want to be in whatever way that entails. Sometimes thats not easy and it might take you longer than someone else, but no one bar yourself need know that.

    As you obviously know, having people to share life with is so important to feeling happy and I guess now you know that, you can try and talk to people and socialise and I really am sure it will make you feel happier. Just because you've felt like this for as long as you remember, it just means you need to change how your life has been for as long as you remember, it doesn't mean that whatever you do, you will be stuck feeling like this. Plenty of people have unhappy childhoods and teen years and go on to be happy, successful people who contribute a lot to the world.

    Believe me I really do know what its like to be depressed but at the end of the day, you do have some power to pull yourself out of it. It wont happen overnight but you can do it. As others have said, seeing your GP would probably be a good idea. And I know you said you have noone to talk to, but even if you can find a person that you're not really close to, it would probably help. If you have a teacher or someone like that you could talk to, they can offer more personal advice to you (obviously we dont know you) and more continued support. I know its embarrasing but there does come a point when its make or break and it sounds like you're getting to that point.

    I hope you can find the motivation to do things to change how you feel.
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    OP I am kind of in the same position as i dont have any friends from school at live close by. So it gets really annoying maybe try getting a job or maybe joining the gym.
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    I had the same problem a few months ago.

    What you need is to completely turn your life around. Have a totally new image. Don't change yourself, but BRING YOURSELF OUT. Get involved with things in your community, talk to people you hang out with at school, you'll be happy in no time. It's just a case of courage!

    And P.S. Losing faith in God doesn't = unhappiness. In fact, it can completely change your outlook on the world for the better, and make you live for the day.

    KEEP US POSTED!
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    I remember during exam period i was a bit dowm like the op i didnt feel as tho i was going to pass exams and was with my guidance teacher quite alot.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Hello everyone,

    To begin with I don't really know why I'm posting this because I don't know what advice anyone could give that could make things better, but I don't have anyone else to talk to...

    I think I've been depressed all my life. I know my father had depression and I read online that it can be genetic. But it's always been as if it comes and goes, but even when I feel happy it only ever lasts for a very short amount of time, I don't think I've ever experienced true happiness.

    I am so lonely, and now that it's summer and there's no school I've realized that I have no real friends. I haven't talked to any of them for almost a month.

    I wake up everyday thinking what is the point? I have nothing to do. I don't have anywhere to go, anyone to meet or anything.

    I used to believe in God, and used to think that everything happens for a reason. But over the last couple of months I've started questioning that, and thinking about what the point of life is.

    I feel like I've wasted my whole life... I'm crying right now as I type this. I've thought about counselling but I don't know what to do.

    There's so much more I want to say, but I think this is already long enough.

    Thanks for reading this.
    I genuinely do know what you mean, I often feel exactly the same. I don't feel it quite as frequently as I used to and I'm a lot better than I was, but like I said, I know how it feels. And it feels like hell. I'm really sorry you're going through it. :console:

    Basically I'd suggest going to your GP and explaining this. He/ she will probably refer you for counselling or an assessment by a psychologist - I doubt they'd think about the possibility of medication until you've tried talking therapies.

    I started trying talking therapies at 13 and I found nothing helpful (mainly because I was unlucky with the therapists I got). I was put on antidepressants at 16, and I'm now 20 (and still on them). What they've helped me to do is numb the extremity of some of the low feelings and so you can reason through some things with a bit more perspective. Over the last 4 years things have changed quite a lot in terms of the purpose I feel in life.

    We are never going to feel a purpose when we get up in the morning. Some people might - they're the lucky, blissfully ignorant people.
    I've learnt to create a purpose for myself, if only for the day. Invent something to look forward to - whether it's watching a DVD, drawing, playing an instrument, a cup of tea, going for a walk, listening to music, watching TV, playing on a computer game, doing some kind of school work (don't know if that's relevant to you), speaking to a friend, meeting up with someone, getting a job, etc. (I know it's hard to get a job when you feel like you do, but it's a distraction).

    Summer holidays are horrendous - I personally have nothing to do. If I let myself wake up thinking "I'm not going to get up today, there's no point" then I'll do that everyday, and I won't get up for anything. I'll lose the point totally. I've learned over time that if you stay in bed, it feels like you're "wallowing" almost, in how bad you feel. I know it sometimes feels like it's all you can do but like I said, over time I've realised it's the worst possible thing you can do. Have a shower, get dressed, go for a walk - do something with your day, whatever it may be. Keeping busy is the best thing for when you're feeling so low - distraction is the best tool I've discovered.

    In general though, I'd definitely recommend the GP thing like I said - also, have a look and see if there are any local counselling services you might be interested in. If you get a good counsellor it can be fantastic to have someone to talk to who won't judge you and will just do their best to support you.

    I really, really hope you're alright - I always say to people who post these kind of threads that I'm more than happy to chat if you want to PM me, and I mean it because I've been through it all before myself and I know how horrible it is going through it alone. If you do decide to PM I hope my experience can help at least a little bit. Chin up :hugs: xx
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    i used to be like this several years ago...its normal to get this when u r in ur teenage...there is no point or fun in life if u dont have hobbies,friends or someone u love...try to find what interests u in ur life.for example,outdoors,cooking,travell ling,or music...and fill ur life with them.dont wait ur friends to call u or talk to u ,otherwise u will lose them. just try to find the exciting point in ur life !
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    quote 'But it's always been as if it comes and goes, but even when I feel happy it only ever lasts for a very short amount of time, I don't think I've ever experienced true happiness.'

    its totally normal...nobody can be happy all the time.besides,u have to define happy.its not something like a big laugh or some crazy stuff u do to be happy.to experience true happiness u need to make urself content and happy even though u r alone at home ,u need to learn to make urself content and happy.
 
 
 
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